trying to concieve

[kayleigh1991]

I've been with my partner 4 years and have been off protection for 3 nothing is happening and I'm really scared to go to the hospital I've been to the doctors and been referred but I'm scared of being told I cannot have children. Any advice or stories similar would be great.

Hi Kayleigh,
When you say "off protection for 3" - is that years? If so, it may be best to speak with your GP, even if you're worried about the potential outcome. Coming from a position of knowledge means that you'll hopefully have a better chance of treating (if necessary!)

General rule of thumb from what I've seen is that if you're under 35, give it 12 months before speaking to your doctor. If over 35, see them after 6 months trying.
Best of luck TTC.

Thanks for your advice I have made the next step which is some blood tests before I can see the geonocologist (excuse spelling). Its very disheartening but some closure or help is what I need.
x

Hi Kayleigh

Just a thought - have you spoken to your partner about him having a sperm test done? That's definitely an important next step if you have been trying for 3 years and I'm sure your GP will suggest it.

Also, what are your cycles like? I.e. Regular, irregular, long, short etc.

Try not to worry too much for now - you've done the right thing in going to speak to your doctor and arrange a blood test.

I know it's hard but try and stay positive - the whole ttc thing can be so draining!

We are going through the process of doctors tests etc just a very scary process! My cycles are very regular every month without fail :( it has stressed me out for a long time now just thought it would happen at some point but it never does

Hi I often see these threads and sometimes people do not say what's happened! I hAd my blood tests back and everything is normal I'm ovulating so now awaiting my partners test results! It feels good to know I'm ovulating which is another positive step! Maybe positive thinking and not draining yourself month after month pay help things! Fingers crossed x

That's great news that you're ovulating. Hopefully your DH's results are good too and you get your BFP soon
Have you been monitoring your cycle and DTD during your fertile time or just taken the relaxed approach? If the latter it may be worth trying SMEP or something similar

Hi I'm new to these forums what is Smep? Bit of both really tried the relaxed then started looking into how to chart etc but feeling more positive after results as I told myself I would not be able to conceive that there is something wrong with me but there is a possibility it could be! Thanks for reply

SMEP means Sperm Meets Egg Plan. I haven't tried it myself but I think yours supposed to DTD (have sex) every other day after AF (period) finishes until you get a Positive Ov Test then you DTD for 3 consecutive days take a day off then DTD one more time.
Sounds exhausting haha We haven't tried it due to really long cycles I don't think there'd be anything left of my DH by the time my next AF turned up

In our case the problem lay with his motility rate which low and was easily sorted out.

Thanks for that I will now understand all the short talk lol. Ah right sounds very tiring but sounds like a plan I can do :). So are you experiencing the same problems. I must admit me and the partner over the last year have not done a lot of DTD as we were constantly drained from the AF arriving every month so really that could be where the problem lye's.
sussexmum38 could you explain a bit more what happened? I'm so interested to hear other peoples experiences but often found that no one was writing conclusions to the problems they first wrote.
I must admit after having my results back I feel so much more positive.
Thanks for all responses I appreciate it.

I had trouble conceiving. Nothing wrong with me so had dh checked out by a urologist. After examination, x ray and providing a semen sample it was found he had low motility. Basically few active sperm through his tubes due to a thickening. He has a simple operation as an outpatient to remove the blockage. He was in pain for a few days. The doc said conception could be from six months. Its called a variceil, I can never remember how its spelt. It worked for us.

Hey, I'm in same boat....all my tests are back and look fine and cycles are regular....husband due to get his results back next Wednesday....hopefully we'll know more then!

Ok it's good to know that even if there is something wrong something can be done about it! It was horrible waiting for the results but defiantly put my mind at ease just my partner is feeling down now! It's so nice to hear other people are in the same boat as I kept it bottled in for so long x

Crazycat let me know when you have your results best of luck xxx

Have you had your results back yet? still patiently waiting for my partners.x

Hi, I’ve been on the Celeste pill for 12 years. I’m trying to conceive for my first baby. Need some advice. Came off the pill in November 2013. Had my last period 27th November 2013. Found out I was pregnant 2nd Jan 2014. But unfortunately had a chemical pregnancy, was so upset. My partner and I have decided to keep trying for our baby. I haven’t had a period since November. Any body have any advice for me, can I still get pregnant or do I have to have a period. I’ve read so much different stuff on Google. Thanks.

worst thing to do is google it that's what ive done in the past and self diagnosed myself with things I don't have and got very stressed and upset. Have you seen your Doctor? good luck

We'll I need some more advice first time ever I've started bleeding a week early but this isn't normal bleeding.? Very light and brown in colour of course I've read implantation bleeding but feel this is just another hope that will be all in my head :( xxx