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Feeling really sad about it all today

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ThisIsMeNow · 09/12/2013 18:36

Just need a bit of a rant really don't have anyone in rl I can talk to

Af arrived and I was so sure this was our month. All the symptoms, was convinced. Then I got up and found her. I just feel so upset and let down by my body.

It doesn't help that we found it 'easy' with dd (and yes I am aware that we are beyond lucky to have her) I can't help worrying there's something wrong now.

I'll be fine tomorrow. I'm tired and hormonal. I just want to cry. I can't even go and get wine as dd has to go to bed soon!

Best laid plans and all that...

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Pancakeflipper · 09/12/2013 18:42

A (((hug))).

babyrose · 09/12/2013 18:47

Sorry you are feeling like this, it's hard isn't it? I'm due af any day this wk and I just know I'm not pg. Been TTC for 13 months now and I just feel like giving up!

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ThisIsMeNow · 09/12/2013 18:51

It's so so hard. DP works away as I don't know anyone here so I just don't have anyone to talk to. I keep looking at dd and that makes it worse- I should just be happy with what I've got shouldn't I?

I just feel so lonely right now.

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nosleeptillbedtime · 09/12/2013 18:56

You can't help how you feel about wanting another. Don't beat yourself up about that. I get it. I would love a dc2 too. Lots of parents are intone same boat.
Hugs.

nosleeptillbedtime · 09/12/2013 18:57

That should have been in the same boat. Stupid autocorrect!

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ThisIsMeNow · 09/12/2013 19:06

Af was late so I was practically convinced.
Now Af is here and it's so painful, just feels like my body is laughing at me.

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LittleOwlie · 09/12/2013 20:55

Hi Thisisme, big hugs! Sorry you're feeling a bit rubbish this evening. This TTC is a tricky business and our bodies can play horrid games with us.

As for being grateful...yes, you have a lovely DC, but it's also just as okay to want more!

Hope you feel better soon and AF gets less painful. We're all here to talk in the meantime.

mama31 · 11/12/2013 15:45

Hello ladies. Feeling a bit pants myself so thought I'd come on for a good old moan. Af just arrived so on to cycle 7 and feeling very gutted about that! :( never thought it would take this long!!! Determined to enjoy Christmas though and not going to even think about it all this cycle just going to go with it and dtd when we feel like it. DH is so so gutted, I feel so much for him as well!!!

That's my moan done! Phew! Needed that! Hugs to you all, it never gets easy x

Saznut · 11/12/2013 16:01

Hello. I've just joined mn and wanted to join in to find people in the same situation. I have been ttc for 2 years now. Never been pg and am surrounded by fertile people! am 35, according to my CBFM I ovulate monthly. taje pregnicare but still no joy. I have had obsessive months and then others I try not to plan, but lately every month about a week b4 af my boobs are agony, but then b right on queue my af comes along. terrified of being tested and ptn not fussed on being tested so just live my life thinking im broken. not sure why suddenly 2 years later I feel so empty. just wish I could make my family a nan, aunt, Gramp etc.oh well keep on smiling. I have

LittleOwlie · 11/12/2013 17:59

Hi Mamma, sending big hugs. I'm really sorry AF arrived for you. It's so frustrating that TTC is so pot luck...you can do everything right and it doesn't happen and then do everything wrong and it does.

I really hope your next cycle brings you your BFP.

LittleOwlie · 11/12/2013 19:12

Btw...not sure if anyone else is having issues with MN, I have been struggling with connection.

cottonwool4brains · 11/12/2013 19:40

I feel exactly the same. On cycle 9. Dd was a suprise and now I cant believe how lucky we are to have her. When I started all this I expected to be holding a tiny New life by now. The whole thing has become all encompassing and is starting to take over. Starting to feel quite unhinged

LittleOwlie · 11/12/2013 19:46

Saznut, welcome to MN. I'm very sad to read your story. Two years is a long time and I really feel for you.

I had fertility issues with my exDH and it's awful. I did go and seek help very early on. I'm not sure I could have waited 2 years. I know it's scary not knowing what the results might come back with, but surely if there's some help out there and the possibility of a family then it's worth it...

Take care and I really hope you get your BFP soon

mama31 · 11/12/2013 22:29

Thanks Littleowlie, hoping you get your bfp soon too! what cycle are you on? I hate the first day of af it's so unbelievably unbareable and for some reason, this is the month I've been most relaxed and not concerned but it seems to have hit me the hardest!! Hormones eh?!!! I know I'll feel better in a few days but right now it feels so cruel :( I have a wonderful DS and I'm very blessed but DH has no children of his own and is gutted each month it doesn't happen! And I also just feel devastated that it's not happening for us! DS was an amazing surprise when I was quite young and def def wasn't ttc at the time...but he was meant to be!!! and I just wish another was meant to be soon.... wish it was easier for us all!

Feelingfatty · 11/12/2013 22:33

This is me now... Really feel for you we conceived dd very quickly but then when ttc #2 took so much longer. Just had of bfp finally on cycle 13. I don't think it feels any easier struggling second time round as you have extra worry if less help from docs due to already having a dc but there is hope! Try to keep your chin up, have drinks to celebrate at Christmas and keep trying! It will happen I'm sure

LittleOwlie · 12/12/2013 01:35

Oh Mama, so I got my AF yesterday. It was only the end of cycle 1...but having been through this before, I secretly hoped I'd have a bit more good luck this time. Saying that, I have this silly belief that everything happens for a reason. I reckon we'll get our BFPs when the time is right.

AF is so horrid, I'm not surprised you're emotional when it comes. I have evil pain in mine, so I hate them regardless. But I also look at the pain and think this is what makes me know I can have little ones.

It's lovely you have a DS. But I get that you want DC with your DH. I don't know your story but my ex had problems. Is it worth investigating at this point? I hate to ask. Our issues with my ex were that (and I risk people know who I am with this) he was born with undescended testes. It was left untreated for much longer than nowadays and resulted in no normal sperm. I'm not suggesting your situation is anything like mine, but help is out there if you can face investigation.

I also have another male friend who faced issues on both sides in his relationship and did IUI and first time they got PG with a lovely little girl as a result.

I truly hope you get a lovely BFP soon, but think about investigating things. I knew as early as the end of cycle 2 that something wasn't right. I know lots of people will think I'm crazy, but I really did know. Gut instinct and all that.

Good luck and fx crossed for us both.

LOx

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 12/12/2013 07:15

You are not alone! We have been TTC no3 since the summer now, and I'm 38 and keep thinking it is too late for us. Since we started trying I've had a couple of really long cycles, which had me thinking I was pg, but no! How long have you been trying?

mama31 · 12/12/2013 07:38

Thanks littleowlie. I went for 21d bloods last cycle and got tested for ovulation, thyroid and whatever else they check and everything came back normal. DH said he will get his sperm count checked in the New Year so we will find out then if there is any issue.

If he has a low sperm count, what happens then do you know?? I'm so unfamiliar with fertility issues and treatments!

LittleOwlie · 12/12/2013 10:13

Hi Mama,

If there are any issues with your DH, then it actually depends on what the results say with regard to options. With my Ex, we had no normal forms, so even IVF was given a low probability of working. I think my exs situation though doesn't happen that often as his results were so bad that the GP thought there was a mistake and retested.

My friend had low motility and a low count. I can't remember what his wife had. But they opted to try IUI to start with and it worked first go.

I hope everything comes back fine though, or you get your BFP before he goes to get checked.

mama31 · 12/12/2013 16:36

Thanks! Hope so too!!!! Good luck for your bfp soon also! :)

LittleOwlie · 13/12/2013 22:19

Mama. I'm thinking we get our BFPs when the time is right. I had my Xmas party last night. I'm actually glad I didn't get my BFP. We had a blast.

I really wanna be a mum but I'm glad to have had some fun in the meantime.

fedupofrainydays · 15/12/2013 11:15

Hi ladies.
I'm pretty miserable too. Conceived DS very easily and then also my second pregnancy that I mc 2 days before my 12 week scan. Then 10 months of ttc and finally got a bfp last month, but lost that one this week. I'm so tired of ttc and the hopelessness of it all. But I so badly want a sibling for my son. So badly.
The weird thing I'm thinking is well I just have to have one more mc and they will help me. Strange I know. But when I went to the doctors before i got my bfp last month and they said they wouldn't help me til I had been ttc for 2 years. So another year. Seemed very unfair as others I speak to are offered help after one. Possibly because I had a child already.
Sorry for the downer but I only mc physically on fri so feeling rather shite
Here's to healthy pregnancies for all xx

m33r · 16/12/2013 19:29

Hi ladies. Just wanted to add how awful it is. We're ttc#1 and in cycle 13. We have tried everything and done initial tests - all ok.

saznut like you, as well as for me I would love to give DH his little baby. And then make grandparents etc... So hard. So much pressure. So emotional.

Trying to just have a great Christmas and worry about it in the new year.

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