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Being happy for families BFP when I'm struggling

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babiesmakemecrazy · 05/12/2013 01:54

4 family members have announced they're expecting in the last couple of months, I'm genuinely happy for them but finding it hard to be constantly talking about it when with family when I'm struggling. Well I'm not struggling just seems to be taking a while to get my BFP. Just think I needed this little rant!

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Minithemoocher · 05/12/2013 22:24

I know exactly how you feel! We're not having any luck at the moment but everyone around me seems to be upduffed. Try not to get disheartened. How long have you been trying?

DearDinah · 05/12/2013 23:43

Me too, another colleague shared their happy news with me today. I am genuinely pleased for them, but had a little cry to myself afterwards.
Wishing you both a BFP very soon.

angelgabe · 05/12/2013 23:53

Me too....everyone around me is pregnant! Trying for 7 months and nothings happening :-(
So happy for family who have just had babies but wondering why we're not getting so lucky.
Good luck ladies....my AF due next Tuesday....fingers crossed for me and all of you!

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babiesmakemecrazy · 06/12/2013 12:53

Only been trying 7 months feels like a lifetime. Yeah I'm genuinely happy for all my family and friends who announce they are expecting but my heart aches. Hurts more when most of them were surprise babies. I always had it in mind that it'd take a while in order not to get my hopes up but I just can't help it.

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Kels13 · 06/12/2013 13:02

I feel the same. A friend announced she was pregnant a few weeks ago and I was shocked by my reaction. I did feel happy but also really jealous. Horrible way to feel.

angelgabe · 06/12/2013 18:42

I feel so guilty being jealous but I can't help it. The "surprise" pregnancies are definitely the worst, i agree with you there!
When are your next AF's due?
So good to talk to people who understand....I guess that's something!

VJONES1985 · 06/12/2013 18:50

I feel the same. Am into month 5 now and that's so much longer than all my friends (lots of accidental pregnancies too). AF is due on Tues or Weds but I'm starting to get that permanent wet feeling that I got last month a few days before AF arrived...

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babiesmakemecrazy · 06/12/2013 19:00

I've just had my AF, last one of the year. I'm sick of bloody buying baby clothes for everyone else! My sister in law had a baby a month ago and everyone on that side of family expects us to be next!

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babiesmakemecrazy · 06/12/2013 19:01

I feel better knowing other people feel this way. I felt so horrid.

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angelgabe · 06/12/2013 19:11

My sister in law just had her first last month as well....how strange. We keep getting the "come on you two" like we're deliberately taking our time!
Due next Tues/Wed also but had an ultrasound yesterday and sonographer thinks i've got a left polycystic ovary, couldn't see a corpeus luteum and thinks i'm not ovulating. Guess I won't be pregnant this month then! Blood tests next then God knows what!

Let's all feel horrid together. Means we can handle everyone else knowing we've got a forum to offload!
Sorry to hear you've just fininshed.....new month, fingers crossed for you!

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babiesmakemecrazy · 06/12/2013 19:33

Sorry to hear that, hope everything comes back well or can be sorted. My MIL always asks when we speak to her if we have any 'news' for her. Yes, well hoping for good news early next year Smile . Fingers crossed for us all.

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DearDinah · 06/12/2013 19:35

What a relief to find people thinking the same, I'm not a horrid person but yes to the jealousy! Month six now, I've really long cycles & don't think I'm ovulating, going to the doctors on Monday to see about getting thyroid checked. Getting urgent now, my MIL has terminal cancer & I really hope she gets to meet her first grandchild :(
On cd15 & AF due around beginning of Jan
Fingers crossed for everyone of us x

Kels13 · 06/12/2013 19:49

Had anyone had experience of asking for the doctors to have tests done? I have really long periods and am really worried that's a sign things aren't ok. Are they very strict on the must have been trying a year? I don't want to leave it that long. So glad I found this site, talking to you all is such a support.

angelgabe · 06/12/2013 20:04

Oh my goodness, I can't believe your MIL. That's awful, so sorry to hear that. Hi Kels I went to my doctor....I lied said i'd been trying for a year but have only been trying 7 months...not too far off! I turned 40 in Sept though. She's been brilliant, ordered Ultrasound which I had yesterday, only waited 2 weeks! Husband had a semen analysis last week, waiting for results....that was a funny afternoon! And blood tests ordered which i'll have during my next cycle. I would lie about the time you've been trying, I feel awful but looks like something is wrong so i'm so pleased I did! I know i've been very lucky with GP. she's been brilliant. Also having acupuncture. Just trying everything!
Go to your GP, just ask for help and if you're not happy, see another GP at the practice! Remember to lie!! Smile

Kels13 · 06/12/2013 21:44

Thanks angelgabe, I think I may do that. Am worried my periods are too long and lp too short. Thanks for the advice and good to hear you're getting looked after and really quickly too. My hubby thinks I'm mad worrying, it's different for the woman though, we're so much more in touch with what's happening to our bodies.

Minithemoocher · 06/12/2013 22:04

AF due on the 16th for me. I'm not holding out much hope though. At least we're all in it together! DH thinks I'm mad and doesn't really want to talk about it.

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babiesmakemecrazy · 06/12/2013 22:35

I'm putting off going to my doctors, I'm quite young so I think they'll tell me to keep trying. My DP thinks I'm crazy talking about it all time bless him. He is excited but thinks there's nothing to worry about yet.

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DearDinah · 07/12/2013 00:11

Does anyone use the clear blue fertility monitor? I bought one this month & hoping it will give me a clearer indication if I'm ovulating, I've tried regular opks & never got a positive
Also on some strict diet to try to regulate my hormones, it's sugar free/dairy free/yeast free, a nutritionist put me on it, it's particularly hellish in the run up to Christmas but I'm hoping it's worth it.

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babiesmakemecrazy · 07/12/2013 00:23

No Dear I don't but theres threads un Conception about fertility sticks etc. Hope this helps! Special diet at Christmas, I feel for you! Hope its all worth it in the end.

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angelgabe · 07/12/2013 10:26

I bought the Clearblue one this cycle, the chemist said it was the best one! Cuaght my LH just in time, one - then 2+ then another negative on the days I expected. You get a circle or a smiley face....much clearer I think than trying to tell if the line is dark enough!! Like this isn't stressful enough! Wink

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout · 08/12/2013 19:01

Aww. I know how you feel. I ignored an old school friend that I saw pushing a pram the other day. There is only so many times you can ignore the green eyes monster and go on congratulating pregnant women. Harsh but true. xxx

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