BFPs popping out from Christmas crackers and stockings - The December bus is lining up to find bfps under that tree!

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A new thread to find more room for those bfps under the tree everyone!

Old thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1897131-Planning-ahead-for-Christmas-December-bus-starting-far-too-early?pg=38

Hopefully it's just a bit early for you Nordicmom - fingers crossed.

Sorry to hear everyone is a little down. Me too - I am having a crappy day at work today and DH is ill and grumpy.

At least it's the weekend nearly!

To add to the grumpiness Specsavers have majorly hacked me off AND I have tons of spots. Like loads. Even one on the top of my nose so if Im not preggers my skin must just be horrendous

Oh girls I'm sorry to hear you are all down in the dumps today - I hope your days improve and if not that you have nice weekends to look forward to...
I agree let's crack open the fizz or mulled wine and relax a bit from all things to do with trying to have a baby!
Hope some of you waiting on bfps get answers soon.

Girls I got a smiley face on my opk today!! First one! Really happy! But im worried we didnt dtd last night.... will that matter??

Nordicmum - oh no! But it does sounds too early for a BFP, so fx! How many days are you Post-O?

Lucy and Akachan - weird we're all having a dodgy day...I thought that was reserved for next Friday (13th)...but yay for the weekend. (But I do have too much work to get through in the remaining hours and in any case, I'd rather be mumsnetting in reality.??)

I have a bit of a dilemma to ask you guys your opinion on. So the history is that on Wednesday night my DP poured himself a nice baileys and I said...ooh, can I have something too! He replied in a very shocked voice that of course I couldn't as I might be pregnant. From my perspective I thought he was pretty insensitive waving his drink in my face...but there you go. Today I had a mini moan at him about it, but he said that alcohol obviously can impact every organ in your body and we should max our chances of implantation etc etc. Of course this makes sense.

Tomorrow I'm 12 or 13 DPO and my dilemma is do I take a chance and POAS tomorrow morning. I have a big Christmas family lunch tomorrow and everyone will wonder if I don't have a glass of wine/ champagne. Part of me is really scared about getting a negative result full stop, because of everything I've previously been through. And I was thinking I should just wait til AF appears, so I'm not disappointed with a BFN. I guess that if I do test and I get a BFN, it doesn't mean it's not a false negative if I test too early...and then I'd have guilt about drinking, esp if something went wrong.

So I guess I'm asking what would you guys do in my situation and how are you dealing with Christmas drinks etc...(I have my work Xmas party next week too...eeek)

Thanks, LO

Little....I would poas in the morning but I just carry in as normal until I get the bfp!! Not that I'm a big drinker anyway but I think it's unfair of your dh to not allow you a baileys

Babyspice....I had a smiley face yesterday and was surprised as I thought I ov'd later! We are just planning to dtd as much as possible in the next few days!

MissV where are you today? I hope you're too busy celebrating a bfp an af hasn't arrived!

After 3 days of flashing smileys i got a fixed one today....lots of dtd over the weekend. Goin out to this amazing burger bar tonight so gonna indulge in a glass of vino and enjoy some time with my dh and friends, hopefully it will distract me from ttc. And goin home next week!! Cant wait to see my friends and family!! so hopefully that'll keep me busy during my 2ww.
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend, do something fun, ttc can very easily take over everything! Remember T'is the season to be jolly...falalalala..la..la.la..la!

Little I would do a test even though I hate seeing a bfn more than I hate seeing af. But....at least having seen the neg I can drink a glass or two of whatever I fancy with no guilt. Although personally now after 13 cycles and some months being completely good as gold I have a pretty relaxed attitude as I think putting your life on hold is crazy...
However I may point out to dp that drink will of course not improve future swimmers potentially needed for the next round ;)

little owlie I'd agree with spinning girl- my logic is that until you have enough beta hcg to give a BFP, the embryo isn't really interacting too much with your blood stream so the odd baileys is fine!

Also little I think the whole 'what ifs' make this process even more stressful. I think if something does go wrong (heaven forbid) then it certainly would never be down to the couple of glasses of wine you might of had at a Christmas party.... You must try not to think like that.

Spinning - I thought the same as you re: a glass of wine here and there til I get a BFP...

So...I was stupid and POAS - BFN. It's probably right. But I'll try another test in the next few days to be sure. (The one I used was 9 months OOD - yes, I know that makes me even more stupid, than testing early and not using FMU)

Anyhow, I'm a bit gutted, but strangely relieved that I probably know this month is out for us.

Good luck to everyone else.

Little, at least you have done it now and it's out of the way. I personally think acting as normal until a bfp is the only way I will stay sane but appreciate some prefer not to drink in case. A few glasses of wine is fine though I reckon.

We all seem to be a bit down today. That champers will go down well, thanks :-).

Sorry to see those bfns today, but it does sound too early. Fingers crossed for the next few days.

No useful update here. Did a frer this morn after yesterdays dodgy line as it was a very blank bfn. Still no signs of af whatsoever though, piles of cm though today (sorry tmi). Having tested this morn, I am off to my work Christmas dinner, 80s theme tonight. So I am set for a party! I'll see what the weekend brings and test again next week if af still isn't here. Today is somewhere between 10-14dpo butaf normally arrives on 10 dpo so I'm still vaguely hopeful!

Not as it was, and it was a bfn.

I had a glass of wine on wednesday night and felt a bit guilty but I think Polka is right, it's very unlikely to affect the embryo in any way. I don't drink much anyway (about 2 drinks a week) and I am trying to be as normal as I can while we TTC.

Sorry about the BFN Owlie - definitely not out though. Try again with FMU.

Sorry crossed post there! Sounds pretty hopeful still Barmy!

Spinning I was suprised aswell!! I thought id ov much later!!

For the alcohol question id have it untill I get a bfp ;)

Littleowlie your not out of the game just yet! Your test was ood! lol! Id definatly hold in there till you get a new test and poas again in a few days? :)

LittleOwlie - As someone once said on here, you're not out until AF comes, it may just be taking a while for your HCG levels to creep up to a high enough level to be detected. Having said that, I wouldn't stop drinking yet until you know. As long as you don't go mad with it, I think it's fine (I think denying you a Baileys was a bit harsh)!

As for me, CD30 and nothing. No sign of AF. Last POAS on Tues (CD27) and was BFN. Strongly suspect AF is just taking her sweet time, and am in for a long cycle due to being first month off the pill. However, although I don't (yet) use ovulation kits (would get obsessed and drive self crazy ) I did get a lot of CM around days 20-22, so wondering if I ovulated late, and if it might maybe have been too early to tell on CD27, and if so, whether I may still be in with a chance? Don't have any symptoms whatsoever though (apart from feeling tired, but that's probably just the crazy work hours). Curiosity is starting to get the better of me now though. Will probably end up POAS again over weekend if AF doesn't turn up soon. As I say, pretty certain AF is just taking her sweet time though.

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for the all advice re: alcohol! I totally agree and that was my stance til Wednesday night. I think acting normal til BFP is a great strategy. Tonight I'm going out for tapas and wine! Ha!

I told DP what advice you gave me and he muttered and went off to the land of google and came back all contritely saying that it recommends you reduce alcohol intake whilst TTC. So a few every now and then isn't going to hurt.

LO - I would have said wait to poas if I had read this earlier....but seeing as you have already hope your ok? I know how crap a bfn can feel. Re the drinking, agreed with all the others, have a couple as normal and dont worry about too much. I remember getting so drunk when I was pg with DS1...obviously I didnt know I was and I was 19 but hes fine lol.

Hope everyone else waiting gets some good bfp news over the weekend , we deffo need some cheery xmas news!!!!!

Whoever is next wins a special box of luxury xmas treats

Where are all the bfps ladies? I'd love to hear some good news!

I have decided to relax and enjoy the weekend - have a few glasses of wine, wander round the Christmas markets, etc...according to EWCM I ov'd last Mon and AF always comes 11-12 days after so I'm not out til the fat lady sings.

Oh, and everything in moderation until bfp - fortunately for us that most definitely includes Bailey's, fizz, mince pies and of course chocolate covered strawberries!!

Barmy.....it's not over till af arrives so enjoy your Christmas party tonight, have a few drinks and lots of dancing

Oh littleowlie....I see you poas, fx it's too early yet and af stays away!

Ladies, a TMI question here, I'm CD6, only spotted for 2 days, then sort of very very lightly bled for a day then nothing since. Today, I have some CM that's a bit like clear glue?? Is this normal??

In fact, it's more like egg whites now that I think about it x