TTC in January

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My DP and I have made a decision to start TTC in January! I literally cannot wait.

All I seem to be doing is looking on the Internet and finding out what I can do to prepare. Such and exciting time but I'm worried it could soon become stressful!

Anyone else on the January bus? If so how are you managing the excitement?!

Very true. You are absolutely right of course. I will get a grip and stop being a baby ;)

And by tracking my cycle length this time round at least that'll be a good thing.

Ahhh sounds like you are all a lot further on in this process than me!

I did start taking the folic acid a couple of days ago so that's a step in the right direction, but I'm still on the pill so can't even wonder when my 'first' AF is going to show.

Asked DH on Saturday when I should stop the pill and he said not until January, so he's resolutely sticking to the 'trying in Jan' thing and is fairly paranoid it could happen sooner if I stopped sooner! I think because we set ourselves a target of clearing the credit card before we actively tried, and that won't be until January 15th (to be precise!) so I think he wants to make sure it's definitely gone before we do anything unprotected so to speak.

I can see his point as we do have a habit of over spending and if it didn't get paid off and we were super lucky and got pregnant straight away I know he wouldn't be as 100% happy as he would be otherwise.

So my plan is to stop taking on Sunday 5th Jan, have my withdrawal bleed the week after and be officially ready to go by the 15th!

(albeit waiting for first AF, but it will still feel like we are 'trying'!)

OMG! Took last pill 26th November so have had withdrawal bleed...I'm now 5 days from when I should have taken the next pill (if that makes sense?) and the side effects of not being on the pill are making me want to weep. I have a constant headache and the night sweats? JEEZ. Horrendous. I'm also so hot all the time which is most unusual for me. I'm usually the first to moan it's cold. What is going on?! I also expected to have a bleed because I'm not taking the pill but that's not appeared.

I also had really bad pains a few days ago which have now gone - that wouldn't have been ovulation would it? Not already? We DTD around that time, so now I'm panicking that I did ovulate and then consumed the most ridiculous amount of alcohol this weekend. ARGH. Anyway, I'm going to take it that I didn't ovulate and if we're going on the "standard" timeframe of ovulation on a 28day cycle, I should be most fertile this coming week. Of course, I have no idea if I am on a 28day cycle, I'm just going by my cycle length before I started taking the pill. Ah sod it, I'm giving in, I'm going to buy some OPKs!

This is so confusing. I wish I'd come off the pill a few months ago so I'd know what was going on.

Hazelbrowneyes - how are you getting on with your OPK's?

Coming off the pill can totally confuse our bodies - and its horrendous!

If you haven't had a withdrawal bleed since coming off the pill you could be pregnant? have you tested?

pebble82 how you feeling now? It's so hard just to chill out and relax. Constantly working out dates and planning this and planning that.

I'm not sure there's any time left in my day to think about anything else!!

I'm ok thanks lollzy. Hope the planning isn't taking you over too much. It's easy to get so into researching, filling in charts and reading horror stories to the point of madness. There's nothing we can do to change nature and if things do take longer than expected then that's the time to go digging for advice.

My theory is DTD as much as possible, especially when ovulating (roughly aware... have ordered OPK and thermometer so waiting for them to arrive) take folic acid, vitamin D and try not to get stressed. I haven't given up alcohol yet, just cut down... ditto with caffeine... this will happen when (if??) I get BFP.

You must realise though that although I'm all for this fairly relaxed approach as a theory, in reality I think we're all guilty of getting carried away. It's the excitement :) In real life a pretty much project manage everything, this is no different really.

There's nothing I can do about DP being away so will just have to wait. He is managing to be home at weekends so there's still a slim chance. Just wish I knew what length my cycle was as no way of predicting ovulation at all. Just guess working on average 28 days.

My cycle pre pill (10 years ago) was never set in stone but was pretty long if I remember right. Not sure if it goes back to how it was before or not. Anyone know?

Lolly I haven’t started with the OPKs yet, I need to buy some. My withdrawal bleed started on 30th November and finished on 4th December, but I assumed that because I hadn’t taken the pill 7 days after the last one, I’d have another bleed. Google says this isn’t always the case so I’ve stopped worrying

I’m still so hot, I slept with the covers off last night. Oh and the itching! Jeez, I itch all over, pretty much constantly. I’ve also gained a few lbs but I’ve not been eating as sensibly as normal so that might be why! Didn’t wake up with a headache this morning though which is a relief.

I just want a proper period now so I can keep an eye on my cycle. Never thought I’d say that!

Hi everyone!
We're TTC from January also :)
I know what you mean about being excited and reading everything you can to prepare. Despite being about to ovulate we're holding back til January so need to keep myself distracted haha. I've also started taking Seven Seas - Trying for a baby :)
I am beyond excited, hoping for BFP Jan 24th so quite a long wait!

Hi All, Can i join too??

me & OH agreed it was perfect timing, came off pill on 6th dec so fingers crossed, withdrawal bleed, good cycle and an AF before we begin!! Starting 7seas trying for a baby as soon as finished Withdrawal bleed.

Exciting! Were 25 & 28, hopefully healthy, already cutting down the caffine, no alcohol etc.

Learnt so much in the past few weeks its scary how little i really knew! x

Argh! Finding it so hard to wait until January to stop taking the pill now.... feel like the decision has been made and I should just stop, but DH is adamant that I keep taking it until Jan.

We are going away on Christmas Day and over NY's so thought if I stopped today then I'd have my withdrawal bleed by the time we go and on our holiday would be the 'start' if you know what I mean....

It's only 3 weeks to go but seems like ages. Must stop reading MN and occupy myself some other way!

Happy i know exactly what u mean. we were to do same but i pushed for 'month off first' to see how my cycle goes...af's are evil to me, pill was worse as i got breakthrough bleeding mid month every time. i thought id have an awful time with coming off it but apart from being moody its been ok.

Explain about the cycles not just going back to normal & see if u can come off but use protection this month?? Worked for me however were not going to use any, chances first month are slim so i class this as my free month then properly try/get obsessed next month x

Bella it wouldn't work unfortunately. I came off the pill in August as I thought it best to have 4 months or so of seeing how my cycles went and our sex life nose dived so much that we decided the stress of it wasn't worth it and I went back on the pill after 3 weeks. DH is so paranoid about it happening straight away that he isn't prepared to take the risk.

Although after a conversation on the way to work this morning I'm beginning to doubt his commitment to January ttc

I asked him if he was excited - he said he was, but in a way that I knew he didn't really mean it. So asked what was wrong and he said that until there was a zero balance on the credit card and he feels comfortable with our financial situation he just feels rushed and can't get excited. He said that's just the way it is. He can't get excited about something in the future that "may or may not happen".

It's the word rushed I can't get my head around. We've been dancing around and putting off children for certainly the past 3 years, if not the last 5! I also thought it was a joint decision as I was just as indecisive as him when it came to just going for it. Now I just feel like I'm on my own wanting a baby.

Hey ladies, I just wanted to check and say hi as this is the board where I know you're all in the same crazy boat as me!

2 weeks off pill now, using OPKs, nothing yet but am kind of thinking after Christmas celebrations would be ok. Like you I'm reading everything, have every app and obsess all day every day. I don;t know what I used to think about before this!

happygoluckyinOz I really feel for you becasue my DP is the same. I'm always saying things like 'when I'm pregnant' and 'when the baby is here' and he doesn't even really react. And he never ever says stuff like that, unless it's 'we won't be going on holiday there with a kid!' I'm OPKing in secret and hoping he never sees all the books on my Kindle

But after a big heart to heart I think Ive realised that it affects them differently. We can obsess about what our bodies are up, what to eat, what to pee into etc etc. But for them there is so much less control, except money, which is always a worry.

Hopefully when it finally happens they will show more excitement??!!

Fingers crossed for us all. Keep sharing your experiences, it's making me feel less mad!

Happy surely youre not that far off clearing it. no good if yr sex lifes nose dived, get it sorted asap!! It might help!! Its diff for men, they dont 'see it' till theyre born then theyre blubbering mess!

Angelicjen, how u finding it without the pill? Ive been ever so grumpy but fine now! X

angelicjen - you're so right, we do think about it differently.

Had a very long chat/row/crying session with DH once we got home from work (note to self: stewing on something all day is not a good idea!! ) and the upshot of it was that he has not changed his mind, once he's made up his mind that's it, he doesn't back track. He said that once the credit card is at zero (3 weeks to go!) and we've had a month of living within our means i.e. no reliance on the credit card then he's happy for me to stop taking the pill and we'll see what happens.

He said his 'rushed' comment related to me wanting to come off the pill sooner than that and he wanted to feel comfortable with where we are financially first. Not that he felt rushed into having a baby.

So, not as bad as I was making a drama out of yesterday thankfully! But don't think it will be January ttc for me, but should be February as long as things go as planned.

Yay happy, that sounds good. Feb will fly round and you'll be in a great position to go for it! Maybe a special Valentine's day!!!

Bella, I think it's alright. I have cried at the nativity play, john Lewis advert and strictly but I don't know if I can really blame hormones! I've had the withdrawal bleed so now I'm waiting impatiently to see if/when I ovulate. Keep getting scared by stories from ladies who say it took months. What's your experience been?

Ok now, im in quite a good mood tbh, nothing other than the grumps! Pills never agreed with me, used to get breakthrough bleed mid cycle but fine so far! Also used to bleed sometimes when dtd but nothing!! Out tomorrow night so thinking of an excuse for not drinking!! Caffine intakes down, vits etc daily so feeling my bodys in good form!

Hopefully i'll be ovulating around tomorrow, ive given myself this month as a freebie so i doubt itll happen but its fun trying. X

Determined not to obsess for a few months yet!

Hi all!

AF arrived today making first cycle post pill 31 days which I'm quite happy with. I also worked out that I ovulated around 17/18th and I had horrendous pains on the 18th so that works out too! I'm not sure if I should count today or tomorrow as first day of period, I guess I'll see how heavy it is today and make a decision from there.

Normally id be annoyed to start AF on NYE (out tonight in a beautiful slim fitting dress) but I was getting anxious so the relief is amazing! If I'm 31/32 days next month then BFP is due 31/1 or 1/2!

Happy new year everyone! Can't believe how quickly January as come round since this thread started.

Have just started AF (first proper one since coming off the pill) so am very glad things seem to be in working order (so far so good). Makes it hard to predict dates as not sure of normal cycle yet but just going to see what happens first month. May get some OPKs when reality kicks in that this might not happen immediately if I don't get a BFP first month!

Good luck to you all and keep the updates coming

Happy New Year!

Wow, January already!

Looks like DH has agreed I can stop taking the pill on Sunday.... so only two more to go!

I've been driving myself nuts plugging in various conception dates into calculators to work out when I'd be over the dreaded first trimester (we are due to fly to Singapore for 4 days in April and back to England/Rome for 2 weeks in June) and it looks like I'm just going to have to wing it really. The alternative is waiting until after June which I just don't want to do.

So if it happens straight away then I should be past 12 weeks for Singapore, if it takes longer then I might have to just put a brave face on it and hope it's not too debilitating (people cope right?!) as DH will NOT be happy if morning sickness ruins his 30th birthday

Hi Everyone & Happy New Year!!

I cannot believe it's time already! I took a few weeks away from the forum as could see I was getting obsessed.. but now it's actually happening and we will be TTC.

AF arrived today so hopefully it wont last long like normal and in a few days we can officially begin :)!

SOOOO exciting!! I've been checking due dates if I were to get pregnant first try etc (even though I know I shouldn't)

Still haven't bought any OPK's but thinking I may do this weekend in readiness. I have heard good things about the cheap ones you can get off amazon but Id much rather pee on a stick and not in a cup - silly I know due to the price difference!

How are we all feeling this month? Positive I hope?! 2014 WILL be our year ladies!! xx

Eeeek hello everyone :)
Started a month early due to getting pretty obsessed but no BFP lasy month.
On cd 9 today. Really excited for this month. I've been looking. At due dates too as I'm a teacher. Coming up as early October which is perfect for my job. Good luck everyone!!!

Hiya ladies I am also on the January bus. I finished my pill on Boxing day and have just finished my period sorry for tmi. I am sooo excited to get started

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated as this will be our 1st.

Hi everyone :) just wanted to wish you all masses of good luck this month! We started last month because we figured it certainly wouldn't happen the first cycle and this morning I got my BFP

Hope you all get January BFPs

Thanks Jess :) and a huge congratulations on your BFP!! How exciting!! Xxx

Wow congratulations HippyJess! First cycle too! I think all of us secretly hope we''ll get a BFP the first go but to be one of the lucky few must be a shock!

Welcome babymaynard! I stopped my pill on Friday (yes I couldn't see the point of those final two pills!) so I am waiting for my withdrawal to come along, which i think will be today judging by the monster cramps I'm feeling now.

Today my deliberations are around whether to have a smear test before ttc (last one 2 years ago) and whether I can quit my job and move elsewhere whilst at the same time trying to get pg....