Has anyone become an egg donor to a friend?

[serenityrainbow]

I'm thinking of becoming a donor for a good friend but I'm unsure as to how I'm going to feel about seeing that child grow up. As we are good friends I'm likely to be a part of the child's life. I was wondering if anyone out there has been through this and how do you feel about the child. I want to help but I'm worried I will feel something more for that child.

Hi Serenity I was in a similar position a while ago. Counselling is a valuable part of the process. Do you mind if I ask if you have children yourself?

Hi Only1scoop. Yes, I've got two children. That's another of my worries. What if this child resembles my other children? Will that make me more likely to feel a stronger connection with this child? I know we will have to go through counselling but was just wondering what others have felt and if it stopped them going through with the donation.

These feelings were all amongst the many on my list. It's such a huge step to look into. If i'm entirely honest I was so suprised but it was my Dp who had more reservations in the end. Is she a friend of many years?

Yes, I've known her for over 10 years now. Did you go ahead with the donation Only1scoop? I think my partner also has reservations but isn't saying much. Typical man!!

I know what you mean. I was quite surprised that when it came to it he actually said how uncomfortable it made him feel. I must add that we didn't go ahead. In the end it was a mutual feeling with all of us. The intentions were good on all sides but just not quite right somehow. I will add that my friend now has a dc with an anon egg doner whom they adore.

I read some wonderful posts on here of ladies who have completed the process. It's such a huge step....thinking of you x

I've thought about it, but for a family member. Not got as far as the counselling stage yet, but might do. My prevailing feeling is that I'd have a bond with the child anyway, and it's lovely to think that it'd be an even stronger one.

Interested to hear from others regarding this, however.

I have just offered to do this for a close friend, so bumping the thread in the hope of some more stories/experience/advice.