can't cope with being surrounded by babies and pregnant people

[Waggamamma]

Exactly that really how do you cope? I just can't do it anymore.

I had a miscarriage in June and not been successful ttc since .

My world I just surrounded by pregnancy and babies, my boss was 7 months preg when I miscarried, my sil had a baby last month, my new boss jusy announced her pregnancy and I have a colleague (in different office) with same due date as me who I dred seeing.
My friends are all announcing second ans third pregnancies. Everywhere I turn there are pregnant strangers.

I'm in such a dark place and I can't cope with this. I want another baby so badly . How do those who have been ttc for a while cope?

op

I totally understand where your coming from. I didn't conceive for ten years and when I did it was eptopic. It takes over your life and even tv ads are full of bouncing happy babies.

The only advice is don't give up , try your best to take joy in other peoples pregnancy a and babies - I know it's a bitter pill.

I had Ivf last year and now have a seven month dd . Have you had any investigations?

How I coped because it completly took over my life was to stop trying. I was young enough to put it on the back burner and consentrate on work .

Me and dh decided to just see what happened , if it didn't , it didn't . We could enjoy each other expensive holidays and be incredibly selfish . We revisited it after a couple of years and went for Ivf . Luckily it worked .

I sympathise OP, we are in our 25th month of ttc. We have a dd who is 3. Very sad to not be able to give her a sibling. I suppose you just keep going. I find that if I'm busy I don't think about it as much. So I keep my calendar full. It's when I'm home alone it really hurts.
Also dp and I joined a wine club. At least I can appreciate fine wine whenever I like

Thanks for replying. it just seems so tough just now . I thought 5 months on I should feel better but it's still so raw i naively thought I would be pregnant again by now

I have had an ultrasound for cysts and it was clear. My doctor suspects possibility of endometriosis but won't refer me for a few months yet in case hormones are just settling down from the mc.

I just don't feel like I can give up just now. I already have a three year old and I'm 25 so things should be on my side really, I just can't shake the feeling something is wrong. I want it to be my turn. I want my baby back.

Sorry I'm just rambling and feeling very sorry for myself today.

Waggamama sorry you are feeling like this and I know how you are feeling. Just got af on sat now it's been 12 months and I feel so crap about things. Ds is 3 aswell and I want him to have a sibling to play with . I'm feeling really tearful and loosing hope.

Don't be sorry.

Honestly you HAVE to try focus on something else ad stress can be a factor too. Give your self a break, mentally and physically.

Leave it till the doctors ready then start from there. I have been there! I had a 18 year wait between my two. I have swung from compleat maniac staring at babies/ depressed/ jelouse / completly giving up/ looking at prams on internet. You will drive your self insane. You need to relax. Your still young/ healthy.

I'm not sure what else to focus on. I'm throwing myself into making xmas special.

I don't want to do anymore at work or add to my stress there. I feel like this is my only focus/goal and not sure what else to do.

Just wanted to send you a hug and let you know I'm thinking about you. Take care, big hugs xxx

Waggamamma don't despair. I've been where you are - grieving after three miscarriages. It takes as long as it takes to get over it - don't put pressure on yourself thinking "it's x months, I should be better by now". There is no timescale for grief, especially when combined with the ongoing struggle of ttc.

I still find being around pregnant people hard and to be honest I try to avoid it all - I don't go to baby showers etc. it's self preservation and that's important. Other things I have found helpful: I try to think of 3 things each day that I'm grateful for (especially if they are things that are harder when pregnant, like eating blue cheese!) ; I do a meditation app called Headspace; I try to surround myself with friends where it's not all about babies eg doing a pub quiz, doing an art class where for a couple of hours a week I can forget about it. Small mindless things like Candy Crush too! Do you have any hobbies you could immerse yourself in, if burying yourself in work isn't an option?

finally, if you are really struggling it might be worth talking to your GP about it. Counselling or CBT might help you - there is no need to suffer in silence.

Thank you fizzy and wrighty.

today has been tough. Some days are better than others. I think because literally all my friends have small babies it is so hard to avoid, dp works nights so I can't go out in the evening because ds is in bed by 7:30. I do feel very alone. I need to break the cycle. I'm just now sure how at the moment. If things are still as rough after xmas I will go to my GP again.

I need a distraction but not sure what? I'm so tired after work most nights. thanks for your kind words and support.