Chemical pregnancy?

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Hi all, very sad this morning. Been ttc #1 for eight months. Af was due on Friday, didn't show so I took a clearblue test. Got a faint positive, then a stronger but still faint positive on Monday. Had symptoms - v sore boobs, bad headaches, sore joints - but decided to wait until today, Weds, before testing again. Just went to loo and I'm bleeding, did the test anyway and it's negative. I'm so sad. I really thought this was it. Anyway, my question is, could this have been a chemical pregnancy, and do I need to contact a gp, or not? Thanks in advance for your help.

It's v unlikely to get 2 false positives, so yes, it was a chemical pregnancy or early pregnancy loss. There is nothing the doctor can or will do, but you may want it included in your medical record.
I'm sure you are v sad after trying for so long. You are v welcome on the miscarriage board (body and soul section) if you want to talk about it, no matter how early the loss was.

Thank you. I'm glad at least I have mumsnet to turn to. Just broke the news to dh. He is gutted too. What a crappy thing. We're going to take the day off. Both pretty upset. It's so stupid how attached I got to that faint line even though I told myself early mc is so common!

Is it ok to try again this next cycle? The thought seems pretty grim right now. Back to square one :(

So sorry tippety. A loss is a loss however early it is, it's very upsetting whenever a planned pregnancy ends.

I would tell your Gp, if only because if you have difficulty ttc, then you can access more help from the nhs if your records show a miscarriage.

You can try again this next cycle - a lot of women find it very emotional to try again, but there's a lot of support on the miscarriage threads.

Hopefully not quite back to square one. Your body is "primed" for pregnancy after a miscarriage, and many women find there is a boost to fertility for the next few cycles, so hope you will soon be pregnant again with a sticky one.

Tell your doctor so it is on your record but no need for actually seeing the doctor. You can definitely try again straight away, your cycle may be a few days longer than usual or it may be straight back to normal.

sorry for your loss, it does suck when you get your hopes up only to have them ruined so soon. Its normal to feel sad about it even if it was very early. Sadly chemical pregnancy is very very common, doesn't make you feel better that it happens to loads of others too, but may reassure you that it doesn't affect your chances of having a healthy baby in future

Thanks everyone for the replies and support, it does help. Think it is sinking in now. So weird to go from finally believing I am pregnant to accepting I'm not all in the space of a few days! Dh and I are having a quiet r & r day at home, and then onwards and hopefully upwards I guess.

Bakingtins, yes, you're right, it's not square one. That's the positive we're trying to take from this - at least we know now that 'something' can happen. After eight months with nothing at all I was really starting to think that was it, that we'd never even get to this point.

Thanks again to you all, and good luck with whatever stage in this crazy journey you're at.

Hi Tippety, this happened to me, so i know how you feel, i remember locking myself away in a quiet office at work and just crying and crying. the despair was unbearable. i told my best friend, and she said she'd had exactly the same thing, and she'd gone on to have her son. it felt like empty sympathy for me back then. but i went on to have a daughter a year and a bit later. be upset, and get your head around it. then get back to it.
i agree with just mentioning it to your doctor - no need for a special appointment i wouldn't say, just next time you're in there.
i'm so sorry you're going through this.

Thanks ksrwr, so glad you got a happy outcome in the end with your dd. Finding out at work must have been awful. At least I was spared that!

I know it's heart wrenching when you are ttc, but hang on in there and you will feel ok again. It's like everything in life. Bloody hard when it happens, but we are all strong and we can keep going. I honestly think millions of women have chemical pregnancies, but they are not ttc and they just think they are a bit late and never even test….
It will happen for you. Your body has proved it can do it, but just it didn't work out this time. So many women I know had chemical pregnancies before going on to have full grown beans! Get back on it though as many women are more fertile following a mc.
I'm sure you will spring back soon. Take care.