Miscarried today :(

[junebaby2014]

Had a small light coloured bleeding yesterday no pain, contacted nhs24 for some information. If progressed was told to call back today. Woke up this morning and some blood on my pajamas and wiped myself i had blood on tissue quite dischargy and reddish.
Hospital told me to go in straight away for scan, calculated at 10 weeks.
Scan showed 7 weeks 5 days but no heartbeat.
No bleeding since i wiped myself this morning? But obviously been told today this is the start of an early miscarriage!

Has anyone experienced this? When did you eventually bleed throughout and pain begin to pass the baby?

Has anyone been given false info of a miscarriage then find out the baby was less weeks then to find at check up scan on miscarriage you had a healthy baby with beating heart so many weeks later that baby was measuring more than it should?

I am so confused and i have no idea how to deal with this ??

I'm afraid I can't give any advice but just wanted to say I'm so sorry

Thank you vjones ??

I'm sorry. I lost a baby at about 3 months. It was sad, but if that hadn't happened I would not now have DD2. You move on, though you never forget.

I also have no advice but wanted to sympathise

Hi I am also not able to offer any advice on this matter but wanted to say that I hope you are ok and u manage to get the answers from someone who knows.

Hope you have someone who can give you a cuddle too.

Sorry for your loss. The miscarraige section in body/soul have a lot of wise ladies in there x

Thank you all!

I do i have a loving bf who is sleeping at this moment but gives me peace to write some posts for some advise and information.

I an just so confused.
I don't want to believe it.
I didn't think bleeding would stop if i'm in early stages of miscarriage.

I found the threads thank you! x

So sorry for your loss. Please do check out the body and soul miscarriage page there are some amazing ladies who helped me through my 9 week MC.

There is a brilliant thread on there about the practicalities of a MC and what to expect (bleeding etc) it's usually bumped onto page one or two.

june I am so sorry.

Hi June, I am so so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me in July. I had a little bit of cramping at 10 weeks and was offered a scan. That showed my baby had only grow to approximately 6 weeks and 5 days and had no heartbeat. I was sent away to wait to miscarry. A week passed and it didn't happen - I had a small amount of bleeding but that was it - so they brought me back in and did a d&c operation.

I too wondered whether there might have been some mistake but sadly miscarriages are very common. It is no ones fault and they happen to approximately one in three women. Request another scan if you want to though - do whatever you need to do.

I really am so sorry. You will get a lot of support here. x

So sorry. I had a miscarriage 20 years ago.

Started off with brownish discharge, then nothing for a couple of days. Went to GP who didn't think it was anything to be alarmed about, so we went to stay with my parents in Scotland.

While I was there I woke up one morning with pain in my abdomen, went to go to the toilet and suffered a huge amount of uncontrollable bleeding - all over bedclothes and carpet etc.

Got taken to local hospital then into nearest city one where I passed a big lump of something. A look passed between the Dr and nurse at this point which I took to mean that the "lump" was the foetus although neither of them said anything.

Got good sympathetic treatment in special unit for miscarriages for a couple of days.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Hi Junebaby.

I am so sorry to hear your news. I had a missed miscarriage in September. I had slight spotting day my period was due and confirmed it was not pregnancy related. Had scan a few weeks later nad saw heartbeat. Two weeks later had another scan and were in shock to hear and see no heartbeat. I still had pregnancy symtoms such as nausea, sore boobs etc as my body did not know my baby had died. I was given a week for nature to take its course which it did not. During that week I had decided that I was not scanned properly and that there was a baby in me which they could not see still inside me. I spent every hour on the internet looking for examples of misdiagnosed miscarriages. This was my coping mechanism and looking back during that week I had subconsciously and mentally prepared myself for an unchanged scan the following week. I opted for the erpc as I could not cope any more with the continuing pregnancy symptoms. It is a hard time but I took solace from the fact that I believed that my mmc happened for a reason in that my baby was not for this world. I cannot offer you hope but comfort and if you want to pm me please do.

Sorry for your loss June baby. Was it your first baby? I understand what you're going through and there is nothing anyone can do but offer their sympathies, but like me I bet you wish that someone would wave a magic wand and bring your baby back and everyone would understand that. I had a c.p in September. My baby also would have been here June 2014. I also had an m/c in 1997 which utterley devestated me, and if the truth be told I'm still not over it, but then why would I be.
R.E c.p Made the decision to try again straight away but believe me it wasn't easy. I wanted/want the baby I was carrying again I am devestated but I have to consider the beautiful child I have been blessed with. What good would I be to her if I fell apart. I'm fine on the ttc boards aside from when I turn into a bitch when A.F arrives. My feelings are though although my desire for another child is stronger than ever. I am grateful beyond imagination for the gift of my D.D. I tell her constantly how much I love her.
Love and support, xxx

Aw gosh so sad for us all ??

Yes this was my first! I'm only 23 will be 24 next thursday ?? worst news we had all adjusted to this and where so excited!!

Well my miscarriage was on Monday the early stages.
Bleeding is very light maybe changing a pad twice a day if that..

I am not great with pain and i dont think my partner would like to see me go through this pain we have suffered enough on monday finding out our babys heartbeat stopped!

D & C seems to be my option..
Pain free, has anyone had this or know of any stories?
The risks are of course puncturing your whom? But iv been told this is like 1 in 1000, plus people have c sections every day and carry on to have more children and thats cutting and stitching the whom back together!

I'm so scared either way! Any advise would be appreciated! ??

I had a miscarriage at about the same time (10/11 weeks) with very similar symptoms. I started bleeding on a Monday and was booked in for a D&C on the following Monday but miscarried on the Saturday. The pain wasn't much different from a normal period pain and so I took ibuprofen which I usually take during my periods. The worst thing (sorry if tmi) was feeling that I was passing something - and whilst I knew that this was mostly just what was around a very small embryo - I found this quite distressing.

I have had a D&C in the past under a general anesthetic to try to ease my endometriosis and it was fine - obviously didn't feel anything at the time and just very mild period pain afterwards. Really sorry that this is happening to you - although I went on to have my ds I still remember having a mc as one of the worst things that has ever happened to me - take care.

I'm so sorry June :(

I had a missed miscarriage in August. A few days before my 12 week scan, I had some light spotting, which turned into quite heavy brown discharge. I hoped it was old blood, rang my doctors and was told to hang on for my 12 week scan but go to hospital if it got worse in the meantime.

On the night before our ultrasound, I started getting mild cramps, but by the morning, I felt like I was going into labour. The pains were pretty bad and there was much more blood.

I rushed to the hospital because I knew it was a miscarriage. They performed a vaginal ultrasound and we were told our little one had stopped growing at 9 weeks. They performed a ercp the same day.

My ercp was, IMO, pretty badly managed. I was given pracetamol for the pain, which, I've heard since, is a bit lame. The pain was very intense, but the whole thing was over after 2 attempts to remove all tissue :( all very upsetting.

If you do have the D&C don't be afraid to ask for pain relief if you need it. The whole thing isn't too painful, really. I was just so sad to have lost our child that I felt numb at the time.

My thoughts are with you and I hope you can keep strong
xx

Thank you girls ??

I do get put to sleep for the surgery.
As i couldnt deal with any pain. Its different pain for everyone ??
Iv to make my decision tonight and call hospital tomorrow.

Nothing is happening as yet.
Just light bleeding. Bit clotty but not that much just a couple times i have wiped myself.

I may pass naturally by the time of surgery so time will tell ??

I am so devastated and dont know what to do with myself such a stressful time for me and my family!

Hi Jubebaby - I have had the same. Went for an early scan last week due to regular spotting and there was no heartbeat. I should have been 9w2d but it measured 8w2d. I chose surgical management and had the ERPC procedure today. My consultant was lovely and did another scan this week beforehand as I think it is normal to question this diagnosis as you are always hoping for it to be wrong. My consultant did the scan gently explaining what we should be seeing if it was still a viable pregnancy, and therefore explaining what we were seeing was not.

Every miscarriage is different, and everyone deals with it in a different way. I was helped through it by the fact I have a gorgeous 19 month old who helped me carry on as usual. (I have since discovered a number of people had a missed miscarriage with no2).

I had spotting since my BFP, which was really heavy for the first week. Then I took progesterone injections which stopped the bleeding for a couple of weeks. Then it started to come back and I just felt uneasy about the whole thing so I went for another scan which showed there was no hb.

Nothing of any substance had come out by this morning, so I am glad to have had the procedure to clear it put this morning. I feel so much better already.

Junebaby - do not be afraid of asking for second opinions if you have any doubts in your mind. I'm sure you will be able to deal with far better if you have confidence in your treatment. If you have private health insurance, you may be eligible for a private consultation if you wanted a second opinion.

I really feel for you, as I know the rollercoaster we've been on during this past week.

Look after yourself and I'm happy to answer other questions about my experience if it will help.

Thank you so much gina means a lot!

The erpc seems best option for me as the pain and seeing it happen with all the bleeding and cramps is just going to be horrific! ??

I'll phone hospital tomorrow morning and let them know my decision.

I'm sure after another cycle has passed we can try again, maybe after christmas ??

Its going to be heart breaking in june next year when our baby isn't here ?? but we'll be sure to light a candle for our little jelly bean!

Well done - sometimes reaching a decision can be the hardest part. I really have found it ok today. I'm a little tired from the GA but no cramping as yet. I've told to expect my periods to return to normal in 4-6 weeks and to have 1 full cycle before trying again.

I feel so much better as I was still having nausea and tiredness until this morning. Also, I have found it a bit surreal having it all still inside me for this past week. My experience has been a good one, and on that basis I can definitely recommend it.

Although some women find they are super fertile in the immediate weeks after a miscarriage, so watch out for that if you wanted to wait until after Xmas!

We were IVF so will def be waiting until the New Year. I'm looking forward to a merry Xmas with plenty of blue cheese, cured meats and Christmas drinks.....

Hi June, I had a d&c in July following a missed miscarriage. Three months later I'm still certain it was the best of all the options for me for numerous reasons. The main ones being that I couldn't face the trauma of what I might potentially see coming out of me, that a friend faced with the same choice had chosen to do it naturally and was in agony for days + bleed for a month, that I wanted my hormones and cycles back to normal as quickly as possible (I got my period 26 days after the op. some people wait months to get a period again after a mc) and that I was advised it would be the best option in terms of getting pregnant again. I know you may not even want to think about getting pregnant again but it was that thought that kept me sane at the time.

In terms of the d&c itself, it was a very short procedure, it was painless, I did bleed a little afterwards but not much. In short, I felt incredibly fine physically (if not emotionally). People at the hospital were incredibly lovely to me and I was able to go home about two hours after the op.

This is such a personal decision that you need to take you time to decide on what is best for you but a d&c ended up being right for me in very similar circumstances.

Pink this is a great post to read thank you!

Exactly sitting waiting on it happening its horrific so having the d and c will pass it quicker i can get my body back to normal and try our hardest to move on.

Is the surgery always first thing in the morning? its going to be scary going under but my little body cant handle the pain other wise ??

I'll keep you updated when i'm going in for surgery.
And hopefully will be back on here soon with some good news with another baby on the way fingers crossed

Hey June,

I'm glad I could help a little.

I don't know whether they always do d&c ops in the morning. Mine was pretty much first thing. I suspect they plan it that way because you can't eat or drink for 12 hours beforehand so if the op is first thing then it's not a problem because you can still have dinner the night before.

I really couldn't handle the waiting either - just not knowing exactly when my mc was really going to kick off was too much for me. Opting for the d&c was my way of taking back some small amount of control at a time when I felt extremely out of control.

I actually know that I ovulated again two weeks after the d&c (I went for a check up scan at that stage and the consultant confirmed i had just ovulated) so physically it couldn't have worked better for me.

If you do opt for the d&c then please try not to worry about going under. It's an extremely quick procedure. You'll only be out for about 15 minutes which is nothing. Most ops take much longer than that. I don't know whether that will reassure you. Knowing how quick it would be reassured me.

I am now on my first cycle of ttc again and I'm feeling very positive. It helps that my sister and a very good friend both had the same experience
as you and I. Their first pregnancies ended in miscarriage and they each had a d&c. My sister was pregnant again four months later and my friend was pregnant again three months later. My sister now has one perfect little girl and my friend has three children.

I know this is a hellish experience and nothing anyone says can make it any better but I promise that you will feel ok again in time. Xx