ICSI advice please!

[Liquoriceallsort]

Just had our first fertility appointment and discovered we will have to have ICSI due to dh v low sperm count.

I would love some words of wisdom as dh is a little flat after being told it is unlikely he will ever father a child naturally

How low is his sperm count? DH's improved drastically over the course of the time it took us to get from referral to actually having treatment. We ended up having half the eggs we got ICSI'd and the other half IVF'd. DH was very reluctant to engage with the process (although did badly want a child). However the way he was conceived hasn't made a bit of difference to how he feels about DS and didn't from the moment I got my BFP. Best of luck you -it doesn't matter how the sperm gets to the egg as long as it gets there

Thanks for your reply Devil and congrats on your ds!

Dh sperm count was zero then they spun it and found some but so few it means he definitely has to have his sperm frozen.

I don't think he feels funny about having to have assisted conception, he feels funny about coming from a huge family but having a low sperm count, I think it was a bit of a shock. I am excited to be finally getting things moving.

Hi Liquorice, DH and I are in the throws of icsi too, and I know exactly what you mean about feeling flat after the consultation - for me it felt hopeless and the end of the line, and I spemt most of the consultation fighting back tears and speaking from somewhere deep in my throat... but I'm happy to report those feelings soon shifted and we both got very excited and positive as soon as it felt like we were taking actual steps to help us have a baby. We've just been for our egg transfer today and it was awe inspiring to see those little blastos pop inside me. Theres still a long way to go but don't give up hope...it's amazing what can be done to help you both get that BFP. Good luck!

Hi Liquorice. I have nothing to add in terms of actual advice except to say good luck to both of you. I'm sure as the others have said, once it sinks in and you get moving on a plan of action, it'll be better. Also, you should make time to have a good cry with a trusted friend. if you let go, you won't have it building up. thinking of you.

Best of luck Dragini! That must be so exciting! Is this your first (and hopefully last!) go?

I felt a bit tearful but more because dh seemed so sad. I think I've had so many months of disappointment when af arrives that I am looking forward to it now in a weird way. How long did it take between your first appointment to getting your treatment started?

M33r I totally take your advice on board, I think a good cry with a best friend is needed. Thank you for your best wishes.