They just don't get it.......

[mawinter]

DH and I have officially been trying to conceive since Sept 7th of this year, we had tried before, but never as serious as now, so if you want to total everything in we have been ttc on and off for 3 years. The road has not been easy so far this time around, ovarian cyst, low estrogen, thin endometrial lining, 52 days and no AF since coming off BC (this time around).
Since coming off BC this time around, I got put on Duphaston (3 days off it now and nothing) and Mastodynon, to help ease all of the pain I have had (I have abdominal scar tissue, its worse off BC), as well as other symptoms mimicking pregnancy and my cyst.
A few weeks ago the wife of DH's Cousin gave birth, yesterday their birth announcement arrived, the first thing I focused on of course was her bump. DH happily placed the card on the fridge and when I asked him to at least cover up her bump I got asked "why?" .....ugh seriously??? :/
He is constantly Mr. Positive that things will happen and currently, I am not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. :(

Hi mawinter
Sorry you are having a hard time at the moment :(
We have been ttc for over 2 years now and my DH is only just starting to take on board the emotional side of it although he does try to be supportive he's only starting to 'get it' now.
I hope things get less painful soon

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time, it can be very upsetting an lonely at times. I hope things work out for you soon. Take care xxx

I think we hold most of the burden when ttc and like you said they don't seem to fully comprehend or take it all in like we do, I have found talking to him little but often about my feelings has helped ease him into just how stressful and heartbreaking it is for me.

sorry to hear this i have only been ttc since august and im already getting frustrated but i do already have a son so i think i should just be greatful for what i already have. ive got to admit though every time that period appears im so down for about two days and then i cheer up and look forward to ovulation again its hard not to become obsessed a few of my friends are pregnant at the moment and ive got to admit i dont feel any jealousy but maybe thats because we havent been trying for very long x

AF finally showed herself today, after 54 days of waiting! So now a small slice of hope returns again. On Monday I will call my OBGYN who wanted to do some follow up blood work between CD3-7. Then the wait begins again to find out if the results look a little more positive this time. :/
Last night I talked to DH some and I asked him if he realized that we have been trying on and off for a total of 3 years now. His response was "Well we have failed horribly then since you were on BC for most!" I wanted to slap him upside the head since he knows damn well my history of pain and why I had to go back on the pill a few times in between trying, also a few times he said the timing was not right. As usual though it is solely my fault!

I am going to have another talk with him tonight, before I go even madder.

I hope we all get our BFP's soon!

I originally started trying 3 and half years ago... And 6 months in my partner wanted me to go back on the pill until we had bought our current home.

True to his word after settling in he initiated the conversation of us beginning to try and conceive.

But a year in he was shocked that it had been as long as it had been and now that time has doubled and we're on two years.

He hasn't been for his test yet and I hate the awkwardness about it all.

I suspect he's fine and we're just be one of those unexplained couples but I told him today that I have looked into the fertility clinics and the cost of 5,000 roughly per cycle, he's been quiet all day since!

Men !

Perhaps the hefty price tag will make him consider getting tested finally? ;)
I know that would certainly make my DH move his ass!

I told my DH straight off, that if we do not conceive by December of this year, that he too will be going to get tested. So far he has no issue with this, but I bet when it comes down to it tho, he will get cold feet, or simply put it off like he does many other things around here.

And UGH now that AF is back I am starting to worry over many more things. The Bloodtest that will be done on Tuesday & the results, if my lining will get thicker, will my estrogen levels be higher, will I even Ovulate, what if my doctor does not agree to a C-Section (due to my scar tissue being all over, causing sometimes even painful bowel movements), etc? :(