What is wrong with me?

[Eminybob]

I would like a little bit of advice please as I am new to this!

I have been TTC since the beginning of the year. I fell pg 2nd month but unfortunately suffered an early MMC. I have been trying again since and am now on cycle 6 but no joy.

So I know me and DP must be "compatible" as it happened so quickly first time but why can I not get pregnant again?! My cycles are all over place too, between 23 and 29 days, I have been using OPKs so hopefully timing things right but nothing is happening! What is wrong with me? Could the MC have messed something up as I used to be very regular before.

I'm getting increasingly down about it all and I know that I shouldn't put the extra stress on myself but I really want to be pregnant again before my previous due date (December) plus I'm 33 so feel that time is running out.

This will be my first btw. Any advice would be great.

Anyone?

I was where you are now a couple of years ago. I got there in the end but the waiting is hard. I didn't get there by the time the due date came around and finally had my baby just before turning 34. If you are having sex three times a week and doing opks there is nothing more you can do. Hang on in there, there is likely to be nothing wrong with you. Its normal to take up to a year to get pregnant but of course it is very hard in the meantime, especially after a miscarriage.

In my experience it is just sheer luck. DC1 took 12 months of TTC, while DC2 was first month. Nothing different at all except maybe I was a bit more relaxed about it second time. If you're worried you could see your doctor though just to reassure yourself if nothing else. Good luck.

Thank you for the replies. I probably wouldn't be so impatient if I hadn't got pregnant first time. I don't know if that makes sense? I'm thinking about seeing the doctor but DP doesn't want to just yet.

I'm just going out of my mind. I'm finding it really hard to get over the MC too so I know my judgment is clouded at the mo.

The doctor will not refer you until at least 12 months. Horrid as it sounds, having had a miscarriage does at least mean you are able to conceive. It was cold comfort to me after my second mc, but it does mean that you are likely to have a successful pregnancy in future.
there is help out there for coming to terms with miscarriage. You could try phoning the miscarriage association to see if they know of support in your area or perhaps speak to your gp if you think you would benefit from a couple of counselling sessions. Mostly it takes time though

Thanks kat I will do that. I have been thinking about it but putting it off for so many months.