On year TTC and have a baby shower to attend :(

[UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps]

So as title says I've been TTC for almost a year (or will be next week) and I've got a friends baby shower to go to. A friend that doesn't know we've been TTC and also got pregnant DTD the first time. Friend, who has no experience evidently of TTC for anything longer than 10 mins says helpful things like 'you just have to have sex' and 'I'd think there was something totally wrong with me if I had TTC for six months or more'.

Now she's actually lovely but clueless but how do I cope with tomorrow without a storm out at any point?? I've got her a thoughtful gift so that isn't an issue.

And yes I'm aware MN doesn't like baby showers but whatever, this isn't the issue!!

Any tips everyone?

OP no tips but have you considered ,coming over to the Elderberries thread? We are very very nice and all about ttc no 1! Lots of support there :)

To be honest she sounds very very insensitive. It might have been a 10 minute quickie for her but others aren't as lucky. If she decides to TTC again karma may just pay her a visit disguised as secondary infertility. I hope it doesn't but what goes around does tend to come around. Karma's rules not mine.
If you really don't want to go just make an excuse. I wouldn't want to go either. xxx

She's my friend. She's been there for me and just hasn't had the same life lesson as me. I'm happy for her (although cried like a well..... baby when she told me).

Is Elderberries for a certain age group? I thought it was over 30s? I'd love hear more from others.

I feel for you, OP (3 years ttc here). I used to feel guilty about missing things like baby showers but I don't really any more - it's self preservation! You can still congratulate her and give her your gift - maybe go out for a coffee just the two of you? but no one would blame you for not wanting to be in a room talking pregnancy and babies for that long, let alone with the whole "it's really easy to get pg" thing. Spare yourself and don't go!

Fizzy feet I think this may be the last one I go to... Starts soon. No-one in RL knows so coming up with an excuse at this late notice might be difficult. I'm taking a bottle of wine..

3 years must be really tough. I hope you find some luck soon.

Ladies... I survived!! Had a nice day as well. No silly comments as well. Although I had to rein in my MN gained knowledge at times do I didn't sound pregnancy obsessed but I think I managed normal. Wine was involved. Thank goodness.

Well done Unicorns! Hopefully it will be the last one you have to go to before you are pg yourself.

I'm glad you survived. Your friend does sound incredibly insensitive though. Some of my instdiffer friends have been my best support through this and have managed not to come out with the kind of crappy comments you mention.