Youngest in school year vs. oldest?

[wispywoo1]

I had a mc 4 weeks ago and I am just coming to the end of my AF. Me and my DP would like to wait atleast another month however getting pregnant in November will more than likely lead to an August baby - ie youngest in the year. A December baby will probably lead to a September baby (assuming the baby is not early).

I've been weighing this up and understand that an August baby will mean a year less of childcare however I'm worried that the child would struggle academically. Does anyone have any experience of making this decision? I know that parental support is more significant than age however I know boys are often late bloomers/quite immature etc.

Also, another thing playing on my mind is being pregnant over Christmas. Quite a few of my family know I had a mc, if I an not drinking they will jump to conclusions and guess I'm pg. I don't mind them knowing I just don't want the whole "next Christmas when the babies here..." for it to end in another mc etc.

Look into to the statistics! I didn't believe it could impact on 16 year olds' exam results but now I can see how it does.

I am a mother of a young in year boy and it has been difficult all the way. He has never gained confidence from anything he's done through school. It was heart-breaking to hear him at 8/9 saying he wasn't very good at anything. We all (well mostly all!) have to accept that as we get older but it had a real dampening effect on him at a tender age.

loveandsmiles it's not about planning it around school, it's about thinking about all of the options. Obviously there are many things beyond our control but there is nothing wrong in making an informed decision

My dd1 was due 21st sept, I was told all sorts about how good it will be for her and when was she born, 31st aug, ( she will literally be the youngest in school) whatever your plans are life has a habit of stepping in, I wouldn't waste your time trying to plan, let it happen when it's ment to happen and let fate decide, yes there will always be children it effects just like there will always be children it doesn't, my cousin is august born and is just finishing medical school and is very smart but then she's the first born and statistically they always so better aswel! What you gona do

I think it is fair enough to wait a month (which will make zero difference to the likely outcome of TTC) for school reasons. It is a genuine and lasting educational disadvantage overall to be an August baby and many teachers I know talk about it. Educational outcome is not everything but neither is it a trivial concern.

Obviously, if it is hard to conceive you wouldn't stop trying if the possibility of a summer birthday came round again. Obviously, if you are getting well into your 40s, you might not want to wait at all. But I don't think you are being pedantic.