Secondary Infertility :(

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DH and I have been ttc #2 for coming up to two years now and nothing is happening

DD will be 6 in Jan and I am gutted that we're still no closer to having a sibling for her.

I have had a load of tests done, all come back OK. DH gets his sperm function test results back on friday. I am not sure what result would be worse tbh.

I he's OK then we're no closer to knowing why we can't conceive. If there is something wrong then that's it for us, no more babies Fertility treatment is beyond us expense wise.

AF started for me today, every 28 days like clockwork the old bitch. And I am feeling very blue about it all.

I got pregnant with DD when I was on the pill so the whole TTC thing is new for me. We are 33 and 35.

Anyone else in a similar situation out there?

Hi OP, I'm not really in the same position as you but didn't want to read and run.

We've only been trying to ttc #2 for a few months and I'm already frustrated, so I can only imagine how awful it must be for you. I hope your DH's test results come back ok.

And I can understand your frustration at the ever-growing age gap. My DD is nearly 3.5 now so we will have at least a 4 year+ gap, probably more likely something like 5 years. All I would say is try not to worry too much, there are advantages and disadvantages to any age gap (and I know I couldn't have coped with 2 close together!). If you search on here for 5 or 6-year gaps you'll actually find a lot of very positive experiences where siblings get on great and play nicely with each other despite not being very close in age.

Hopefully someone will come along with something more helpful to say soon.

Me too, ds is 4.4 and conceived first month, have nee TTC dc2 for just over a year. Unfortunately dh's tests showed major sperm problems, not swimming well and mainly misshaped. How we got pregnant the first time goodness only knows.

We would have to have icsi (ifv plus a step) to have any hope of conceiving again apparently, it's 7k for one cycle and our success rate has been put at 40%.

I was in the exact same situation you are 8 years ago. I conceived my dd whilst on the pill which came as a total surprise. When we started ttc #2 it just didn't happen. We had every test in the book I think and were told secondary infertility too. We did eventually conceive a 2nd child but unfortunately we lost our little boy to a heart defect - I was beginning to think we would never have a 2nd child but I think the miscarriage sort of kick started my reproductive system again and I fell pregnant really quickly after that.

We now have 2 amazing dc's - there is 5.5 years between them, a gap I never would have chosen BUT I am so glad of it now. My children love each other so much and get on so well because of the gap. I rarely come across 2 siblings that are as close and lovely to each other as mine are.