Feeling down

[Jessica78]

Hello, I haven't posted much, but I'm having a really 'down' day & just really need to say it 'out loud'. When we started ttc I felt like I would be OK if we didn't manage to ( I'm 35 ) but now I just want to more & more. We've been trying for 5 months, doing all the usual.
I'm struggling at work ( I'm a teacher ) and constantly feeling tired, I've got so much to do for work it just feels never ending.
Is it normal to feel like it's all just too much, when you want something so much, but you know deep down you might never get it?
Sorry for the negativity...

I know exactly how you feel. I have just started af after trying for 4 months. I have been constantly reading and investigating how to improve chances, and this just adds to the disappointment. I spoke to a friend, and definitely feel it is the loss of control I am struggling with, for example, if someone was to say to me I will get pregnant on month 12 or 14 or anytime, I would be happy. It is the unknown of whether it might never happen. In all of our lives we can control everything except this.
I got married earlier in the year and had planned exactly when wedding and honeymoon were and that we would wait until after honeymoon to start trying, but now I wish I had started so much earlier. (I am 32).
You also only ever find out from friends if they got pregnant straight away - no one ever says if it took them months or years.
Keep going!

Hi Jessica, I can't really say much to help I'm afraid but I hate to think of anybody feeling down. I know people say it can take up to a year to conceive and that that time scale is normal, but I imagine a year sounds like a lifetime when conceiving is something you really want. Does your partner/husband know you are feeling down? Your fatigue and low mood probably isn't helping either, at least half term is coming up and who knows, maybe just that short break might help you recuperate and start to feel a little bit better about things x

Thank you for replying to me - it just helps to know that I'm not the only person feeling this way. My OH is great, he knows how I'm feeling, but he's not female And sometimes you just need empathy with other people feeling the same way. X