Newbie, confused

[charly1990]

Hi everyone, I'm completely new to this so please be gentle. a little background;

I have a DD of 4 years and have been TTC for past 14 months. I had a BFP in September 2012 but was diagnosed as ectopic, I lost my left tube in October 2012. Since then my year had been nothing but stress and worry - my granddad passed away in October, my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer in December. I had another BFP in May 2013 but I had an early miscarriage, one week later my mum passed away.

I have since been to the doctor and had some blood tests and a scan arranged. I was told when I phone for my blood results that everything was ok, no details and no explanations about anything just that I should come back when I have had my scan. My scan is tomorrow and I am so nervous, what is nothing is wrong and its just not meant to happen??? what if there is something wrong, where do I go from there.

I have no one else to talk to, my OH tries but I don't think he completely understands how useless I feel. no one seems to be able to talk about it with me and everywhere I look people are pregnant.

Thank you xxxx

Hey Charly. My god you've had a tough year! I'm really sorry for all you've been through. I know what it's like when you're desperate to conceive, but have you thought about giving yourself a wee break for a few months? You must have been through horrendous amounts of stress and that can really impact on your fertility and health in general. You might find conception and pg more likely and easier when all this is further behind you....

I appreciate that's probably not what you want to hear though. What's the scan for? I wouldn't panic just yet if you can help it. If you've conceived before, you probably can conceive again. Having only one tube isn't ideal, but plenty of people still conceive like that. Correct me if you know otherwise, but I've read that you should still ovulate every month - just always from the same side obviously - which is a good start! I wouldn't be surprised if all the stress you have been under has affected things so far. 14 months must feel like a long time, but most people conceive within a year (so you're not much past that, especially when you consider what's been going on in your life), and most of the rest within two years. Is DD your current partner's daughter? If so, even more likely you can conceive together again . Try to stay positive.

If there is something wrong, the doctors will be able to advise you. I don't know much about it, but there is an Infertility forum on here - please don't panic; I'm not suggesting you are infertile, just that people on there may have more knowledge.