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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Which thread? Am I too old?

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Floppityflop · 26/09/2013 21:42

Which thread should I join? How old is too old to conceive? What are all these acronyms? Do I have to get into this OPK stuff and go for tests as three years of not really trying very hard obviously hasn't worked and now I am worried I've left it too late. Help! There is no-one in RL I can talk to as all my friends with babies think I am a hard-nosed career bitch and I don't understand half of the threads on here...

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FeatherFeather11 · 26/09/2013 21:52

How old are you Floppity? There are various groups that may suit you and don't worry - you'll catch on to the lingo soon enough.

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Floppityflop · 26/09/2013 21:54

I'm 35. I've been lurking for ages and I still don't get it!

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buffersandbumpers · 26/09/2013 22:04

No of course you're not too old. It's about being ready, not age IMO (although if you'd said 45 I would have said yes, too old).
I was 33, 35 and 37 when I had my children. Sometimes I wish I'd done it earlier but the man of my dreams only came into my life at 28!

FeatherFeather11 · 26/09/2013 22:30

Come join the Elderberries. I'm new there and everyone is so welcoming and lovely!

ThoraNomiki · 27/09/2013 08:35

No way is 35 too old! The buses are good. You join each month depending on when you're expecting to get your BFP (big fat positive) /AF (period). There's a list of acronyms somewhere. Maybe someone could link?
I'm gripping onto the outside of the Sept bus at the mo. I mostly lurk but jump in now and then to vent or chat or congratulate others. There's no real rules. Just pick a thread tell us about yourself once in a while or just give others advice if you prefer and always update us when you get your BFP! Grin

KatAndKit · 27/09/2013 08:54

35 is not too old, loads of people have babies in their mid or later thirties, however 35 is the time to make a more concerted effort before your fertility does decline. If you have been having unprotected sex for three years with no pregnancy then you should see your doctor. There may be no problem at all.

if you have sex three times a week then ovulation tests are not necessary in theory. I like to use them though to make sure i am having sex at the right time. I think the Clearblue fertility monitor is a good piece of kit provided your cycle is reasonably normal.

allchatnicknamesgone · 27/09/2013 19:33

35 is not too young to conceive!!!!
Maybe start trying to take note of your cycles then I'm sure you'll have a load of questions and then everyone will help you out.
Don't know link to abbreviations myself and half of them I don't know myself. You'll either guess or just ask....
But....if you do shag a lot and you've had unprotected sex for 3 years and you have no other cycles issues that you know of, it may be worth a chat with doc or nurse?

Sleepyhoglet · 27/09/2013 21:19

If you have a man/ supply of sperm juice then 35 is definitely not too old.

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Floppityflop · 27/09/2013 21:30

I can't honestly say we shag a lot which is why going to dr seems a bit pointless! Also I have a couple of other health issues that need more urgent attention and I already feel my doctor doesn't have time to deal with those. It seems a bit frivolous to bother the dr at this stage about not conceiving.. It is just finding the time to DTD! I have been so busy these past few years.

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allchatnicknamesgone · 27/09/2013 22:13

Ok, well without prying maybe aim for 3 times a week for the next couple of cycles and see how you get on? You don't seem to be at the stage where you need to get obsessive about finding out when you ovulate etc, so maybe just concentrate on trying to 'do it' more, especially around the middle of your cycle (although everyone different of course) when you are likely to be more fertile. Maybe keep this to yourself as well so you don't put your partner under stress or take the 'fun' out of it too early on. !??

Sparrowlegs248 · 27/09/2013 22:31

Hello floppity! I am 36 and ttc #1. Been half heartedly trying for a mere 3 months. I think a goid starting point is knowing how long your cycles are, then you can guestimate when you ov. Mine are 25 days so doesn't leave much room for error! So allowing for a 5 day AF (period) and aminimum 10 day LP (luteal phase - the time between ov and af) it give me 10 days to dtd (sex!!) This month i aim at every other day so 5 times over 10 days.

Then comes the tww (2 week wait - or 10 - 12 days in my case... Before your af is due and you can poas - piss on a stick/test and hope for a bfp!!)

Sparrowlegs248 · 27/09/2013 22:32

I agree though the buses are fab! Jumpnon the october one!

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