It's never going to happen, is it??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, after trying to conceive for 7 years now. Do you think we should resign ourselves to the fact that it's never going to happen? We have a gorgeous eight year old daughter, who was conceived on Clomid. I've now had a life times supply of that drug so can't take it anymore. They diagnosed PCOS back then, but I'm now ovulating so it's un explained. We can't afford IVF, and wouldn't get a free go, as we already have a daughter.
Every month I keep thinking it's worked this time. I never give up hope, but maybe now it's time too. My daughter doesn't want a sibling, although she loves babies. She wants us all to herself. Hmm

Have you had your AMH (egg reserve) checked?

I would never say never! I do know people who've become pregnant after a similar time lapse so if it's what you want and you're ovulating I wouldn't give up just yet.

Apologies if this is something you've already had done (in seven years I would imagine you have) but have you recently been checked to see if your tubes are open so the egg can find its way to where it needs to go? I had two Hysterosalpingograms (HSG) where they put dye under pressure through your tubes.

I had this done and got pregnant shortly afterwards after a long time trying. Apparently if there is a blockage the dye can clear it as it's pushed through under some pressure. In my case I think it probably did as I had it done twice, the first time the dye got stuck, but they tried again a few weeks later and it did go through. It's not a treatment in itself but anecdotally I've heard other people on here report they've got pregnant afterwards. If there is a blockage diagnosed then that's useful information to help make a decision of next steps.

No idea if that's helpful, but I wish you all the luck in the world x

Hi, no I haven't had my egg reserves checked. I did have this tube patency test before I conceived my daughter. He said my tubes were fine, but it might be an idea to have it done again in case any things changed. I remember it being extremely painful!

I also have a tilted womb, which might make it harder to conceive?

If it was painful it does suggest there might have been some resistance there so it could have dislodged a bit of a blockage? Apparently it shouldn't hurt and it really did the first time I had it too. The consultant told me that the tubes can accumulate 'sediment' over time (goodness knows where it comes from) and the benefits of the HSG as a 'pressure wash' only last a short time as it can build up again in a few months.

As it's quick and easy to do, and I can't see why they wouldn't approve it on the NHS as you've been trying again for so long, I'd definitely ask.

I think a tilted womb can make things a bit more difficult, but not sure how much this affects things. I'm sure someone else will be along who knows!

Op I have a retro cervix/ titled womb too and my GP said there were different views on whether it affected conception, but in her view there was not reliable evidence that it did .

Another option is private care - IUI or IVF, but I imagine you've considered those.

There are certainly people who've conceived after years of thinking they never will, but maybe for your own sake you might want to consider it over - but again, that's so much easier to say than do.

I also had the tube flush and got pregnant 2 cycles later. I also have a retroverted womb and have been told it shouldn't make too much difference to likelihood of conceiving.

I waited a while for my second child but am convinced the tube flush did it.

I had it done privately under GA at the same time as a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy so no pain.

Worth a go?

Im feeling the same weve been trying for 2 years and itsjust not happenin weve had 2 mcs and im startin to think were just not compatible :( so depressed

Just wanted to say Hi, and send my love and support. hope you are ok xxx

Aww, thank you. I'm feeling a bit more positive again. I will go for the tube patency test again. Who knows! It's certainly worth a try. We couldn't afford IVF or IUI. I did look into egg donation as a way of funding it, but our DD has a severe learning disability, so they're not sure if I could donate my eggs or not.

I know it's an old cliché and it probably doesn't help when you're going through it but we tried for 9 years before DS1 arrived.

The "breakthrough" came only when we did give up, decided to look for other ways to "make our lives complete" and started by spending a large part of the cash we'd saved, so I could take an extended maternity leave, on a holiday.

I hadn't been as relaxed for nearly 10 years and I was pregnant a month after we got back. Ds2 came after 2 months of trying. They are very close together!