Ttc 2years feeling low

[Lynn5]

Just on for a moan really. Been ttc for 2 years, finding it so difficult to stay positive, found out a work colleague is pregnant I am so happy for her as I am good friends with her. Haven't told anyone I am ttc as can't be bothered with the constant asking of, " any luck yet?" But after her asking me, "so when are you going to start trying" and trying to pretend I'm not fussed, I'm so down. Just feeling sorry for myself. Have fertility clinic soon so fingers crossed I get some positive news.

Try to keep positive although appreciate it's easier said than done. Have been ttc for around 2years now too and watching all my friends, colleagues and even the bloomin panda's at Edinburgh zoo get pregnant is hard. Am at that time of the month again, waiting for AF to appear and analysing every tiny twinge or mood swing. Argh, have to laugh at myself. It will happen! Please keep positive and fertility clinic is definitely a positive step.

It's rubbish, isn't it. We've been trying for 21 months and it's really getting to me, as well. And hearing about other people getting pregnant really drives it home that you're not, I can empathise with that completely. I've told a couple of people that we're TTC but like you I don't want to tell too many people as it's extra pressure, but then not telling sometimes makes it feel like a naughty secret to be ashamed of, somehow, and it can be so isolating. So I don't think anyone knows what's best from that point of view.

I hope your fertility clinic appt goes well, though. Has your GP been able to give you any idea of likely outcomes based on initial test results? We have just started to go through fertility investigations and all normal so far, which is great, but makes it all the more frustrating that I'm not yet pregnant. When is your clinic appt? Did it take long to get an appt from when your GP referred you? All the best.

It is very hard, I completely sympathise - it took us 3 years before we got our BFP in June. There are several very good support threads on here for women that have been TTC for a long time, I found them invaluable.

Thanks for your replys. having such a crappy day, sitting her with tears running down my face.

Was diagnosed with pcos and had my first app with fertility clinc 6 months ago. Since then I've had 21 day bloods every month, all of which were low or out if range, had internal scans which confirmed pcos, hycosy which looked clear and partners sperm seems ok (waiting in results of his most recent sample) also no obvious problems withy womb.

Since finding out about pcos my gp says its unlikely I will concieve naturally. My partner keeps telling me, to stay positive and it might happen!! Drives me mad, also finding it difficult to motivate my self to keep trying as I think what's the point, if I can't concieve on my own. Even although its all I want in the world is to have a baby. I know that sounds stupid.

I know I will feel better tomorrow, plus my AF is late but I know I didn't ovulate last month, on the other hand I have a tiny thought, just maybe? Then it's the heart wrenching feeling of getting a negative test.

I don't want to seem that I grude Nyone their pregnancy, but when they are,"just nicking out to buy fags", on their break just makes me think its so unfair.

Can't say all this to partner as he's the most optimistic person I know, but talking to people on here going through the same really helps.

Lynn, honestly you sound exactly like me! I also have PCOS, my DH has normal sperm, etc.

I'd take your GP's opinion words with a pinch of salt - GP's are not trained in the complexities of fertility and you will find the fertility clinic will have much more useful advice for you. Remember that plenty of women with PCOS conceive naturally, so it is not impossible.

Once I had been referred to the fertility clinic I had 5 rounds of Clomid which did not work for me, I didn't ovulate on the dosage. I then moved on to Ovulation Induction which is a daily low dose of injectable drugs (like IVF) to stimulate the follicle growth, regular scans and then a trigger injection to force ovulation. It worked for us on our 3rd attempt

Aw that's great news you finally got some luck. It' makes me feel more positive especially as you say your situation is similar. Once you had all your test did FC put you in clomid straight away, or did you have to get more bloods done again?

I'm just desperate for some help from gp etc. one of my ovaries is def polyscystic and the other is border line so gyno who dine scan says I may be ovulating now and again.

So how long in total with all your treatment did it take to work? Most days I try and stay positive, but the next time someone asks me, so when are you going to start thinking about babies is gonny put me over the edge.

I feel like screaming," I've been tsking folic acid for 2 years, been trying 6 times a week, had every test done, used about 355 ovulation sticks, and spend about 1000 in pregnancy tests!!! Ahhhhhh.

Lol I actually feel better after that!!

DH had to have his sperm test done again, as I think they like them to be within the last 6 months. I got my referral to FC a year after we started TTC, but my periods had been absent for 7 months which may ave hurried things along! I had an ultrasound to confirm PCOS, then an HSG to check for blocked tubes. The HSG was inconclusive to I had to have a laparoscopy which confirmed no issues there.

By then we'd been TTC for about 15 months so they started me on Clomid. Because I didn't ovulate properly (I think I actually did ov twice, but very late in the cycle) it took about 8 months to do the 5 cycles. I then had to wait for 3 months before I could get another FC appointment where they said they'd start me on OI treatment.

Due to personal circumstances we didn't do one cycle after another as DH was working away. I think I did one cycle, had 2 months off then did a second cycle which resulted in a chemical pregnancy. The "third" cycle was cancelled because my follicles stopped growing so I had to wait for my period (2 months later!) before I could restart cycle 3, which was our successful one!

I would say, if you have PCOS, ovulation sticks are a waste of money!

Thanks so much for all the info, makes me feel a bit more positive. Although it sounds as though you have been through a hell if a time. I have FC Today so fingers crossed we can put some kind of plan together.

We stopped using contraception in Aug 07. Started trying properly eg charting and doing it every other day days 10-21 in April 08 and conceived in March 10 so over two and a half years altogether and had every test and was about to start iui privately the next month. I still have the clomid I was meant to take in day 3 of the cycle that never came. Then conceived dc2 after just one period when dc1 was 15 months.

Should have said I have PCOS but ovulated every month with cycles of between 28-35 days and am also very overweight.