Lack of EWCM and feeling generally [sad] about ttc

[LittleMissPear]

Hi all

DH an I have been ttc since May, so not a long time really. But been feeling down this month as two friends have annouced pregnancies since I've been ttc and another friend gave birth to a beautiful girl yesterday. Grrr - trying not to feel bad but I am v envious!

My question to you lovely lot really is that I don't seem to get an EWCM. I can detect changes in my CM over the month; it goes from creamy and sticky to clear and wet which coincides with getting a postivite opk. I have never seen any egg white type CM though! Should DH and I try using preseed or conceive plus? Is that what it's for? DH and I have never used lube before (sorry tmi!)

Thanks

Hello
Its difficult not to feel down. But try and be positive tomorrow will be a better day!

Not everyone has the same volume of EWCM. Are you checking when you wipe - or checking the source ie the cervix?

Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean you don't have any.

You could try using conceive plus (or similar). I'm using it for the first time this month. We've also not used Lu e before, so I've opted for the application one that you pre-insert. Hoping this'll work better for us and won't be an 'extra' activity that reminds us we are ttc right in the middle of the 'monent'!
Haven't used it yet - hopefully it'll be ok.

Good luck!

I know how you feel! We're only on our 3rd cycle, but with DD I fell pregnant the second month so to me this already feels much longer. I just hate that you have no control over a massively important thing like this!

I don't think I got any EWCM last month either, despite obsessive checking... I've not used opks before (though have bought some for this month) so I might have been checking at the wrong time of course. No idea if I had any last time round with DD.

I guess using the lube can't hurt, so if it's not too expensive why not give it a go?

I don't get ewcm either but I do get the changes in cm you've described.

I've read about taking evening primrose oil to increase ewcm. So I've started taking that this cycle to see if it helps. Only take it up to ovulation though as it's not recommended in pregnancy. I'm taking Seven Seas Starflower and Evening Primrose Capsules 1000mg once a day.

I'd like to try preseed too but I don't think my DP would like it. He really wants to take a natural approach to ttc.

if you're getting a positive opk and have watery cm (that's also fertile!) then chances are you're ovulating fine. My opks haven't shown a strong-strong positive in the last two cycles so that's a worry for me (detected a surge but doesn't go darker than control line).

Right here with you - we've been trying for seven months, and up until last week not the slightest bit of fertile cm came my way. I knew I was ovulating, because my temperatures said so, and like you there would be changes in my cm - sticky to creamy - but nothing approaching watery or eggwhite. I was checking my cervix, but stopped after a few months as it became a bit depressing.

I'm happy to say I got a glob of eggwhite cm for the first time ever last week. It wasn't quite at the right time, but I was just thrilled to know my body was actually capable of producing it. I now hope that it was really there all along, and I hope that's the case for you too.

There are a couple of things you can take to supposedly increase and thin out your cm, and for the last five months I've been taking them all, so perhaps they did have an effect. Between AF and ovulation I take:

• 2000mg/day of Evening Primrose Oil (I upped the dose a few months back)
• two tablets of flax seed oil per day (in the form of Tesco's 'Vegetarian Omega 3', which is pure flax seed oil
• the week leading up to ovulation I take three to four tbsp/day of cough syrup containing only guaifenesin, which helps to thin out bodily mucus, which is why is helps clear chesty coughs but also why it can help with cm

I also try to limit the number of acidic foods I eat up to ovulation, and eat more alkaline ones instead (good for vaginal pH apparently).

I must say that I was starting to get worried because my cm seemed to be drying up even more and I wasn't noticing the creamy stuff anymore. But then I got the Holy Grail of eggwhite last week, so now I'm definitely continuing with this regime.

Sorry for the long post, I hope some of it helps at least. I know how the problem can make you feel very sad about TTC - each month I have felt that my chances are doomed before we've even begun, because of the lack of cm. It's also really difficult to find any information about it, and there is no medical treatment for it either. Gynaecologists won't even discuss it in my experience. I hope the situation improves for us all though. Lots of luck

Oh and PS. We use Pre-seed all the time. It hasn't got us upduffed yet, but I wouldn't be without it.

Water, primrose oil, these two I can recommend. Be positive!

Thank you all for your v helpful responses!

jaykay987 - I am not checking 'at source' as such as I don't go quite as high up as the cervix but I do have a bit of a rummage! I don't really see any cm when i wipe. But it's good to know I might have some EWCM beyond my sight line!

I think that if I don't get a BFP this month (due to test next Tues) then I might give preseed or similar a go and maybe some evening primrose oil.

Today seems like a better day so I am more ! funny how your mood changes from day to day!

thanks again ladies

just thought I would update you on my first cycle using evening primrose oil - i got my first tiny bit of ewcm today and gallons of wet cm. So seems to be working for me.