The magical mystery flying fabulous September bus PART 4!

[GillyBillyWilly]

Maybe we should stop talking so much and get shagging instead??!

Just a thought

Well, no more spotting, so have just stuck my finger up to check cervix pos and it's still high, however my finger came out bright red I'm not bleeding onto pad though so I'm a little confused. However, I'm starting to think that af may be on her way but I AM NOT GIVING UP!!

So it's happened - my sister is pg after a few weeks of 'seeing what happens'.

I have never felt so conflicted in my life! I'm totally over the moon for her but also feel gutted...not really because I wanted to be first (although there's a teeny bit of that), more because it highlights that it hasn't happened for us yet.

I've been off the pill since April, ttc since July and had no AF at all except spotting at 8/9 dpo on 31 Aug/1 Sep (according to opks). Assuming I'm not pg as had lots of BFNs, most recently on Sat (22dpo).

I know it can take much longer, but not having any idea of what my body is doing is so frustrating. Not sure if I can count that spotting as AF/cd1. I'm now using opks again and getting alternately medium and light lines, no strong one yet.

Went to my bro-in-law's wedding on Sat, they're planning to start ttc next month so I could be the first to start and last to finish at this rate! Grr!

Sorry, I know it's not a race! slaps self about the chops

Hugs bloumer it sucks that it doesn't happen as we hope it will and its v frustrating when it does happen for others more quickly... My brother had his first baby on sat night and I am overjoyed for them but also very envious. And a colleague at work told me she is 8 weeks pg after not long trying and she knows its been 14 cycles and counting for us sigh.

Just try and stay positive and believe that it will happen. We just don't know when.

Thanks purple, that's what I needed

I feel so ridiculous complaining when others like yourself have been trying for longer. It's heartening to hear your pragmatism, I think it's so easy to get obsessive and down about it all. I just need a little perspective.

At least I can get some bootie-knitting practice in!

Awh Bloumer its so difficult, I understand the total conflict of feelings!!! But when it happens imagine how much you will appreciate it coz you have worked so hard for it! I think it will be so amazing and overwhelming....everything happens when its meant to be...we have to believe this!! Hugs!!

Bloumer- try not to feel down about it but I can see why its hard for you today. Your time will come soon enough, don't worry

Bloumer I really feel for you. My sister is pg with her 2nd and my SIL has 2 children already and My other SIL is about to pop. H's younger brother is the only one without kids yet! I suppose we weren't the first to start trying, though, but I still sympathise.

Just a random question for everyone - have you told people you're trying? H and I haven't told a soul! I feel like it would add pressure, so we're letting on that we're waiting and hopefully will be able to give our family and friends a happy surprise.

Oh no choccy :(( dont give up hope until it properly arrives!

Bloumer hugs. At least you can see all the crazy pregnancy aches and pains and be prepared for yours. It will happen :)

We havnt told family but a few friends - only because they knew about my biopsy smear thingy and when I got all clear we were allowed to start trying :)

Yes we've told people because, with a big gap between our youngest and this one we felt it was important that friends and family knew it was an intentional pregnancy rather than a 'mistake.' I would hate to think of anyone thinking that about one of our children.

We have told close friends and family....but it does have an element of pressure, kind of wish we had not said anything now. But I was excited and everyones been waiting for us ttc as we are married 4 yrs and we finally felt the time was right so shared that...hope it doesn't take too long :/

O choccy, really hope it's not the witch. Time will tell but know that doesn't help at the mo, we'll keep you company whilst you wait

Bloumer I hear you, I've felt and thought the same about others who get pregnant in that I am so happy for them but also so aware is not yet happened for us, but it will, it will, it will and mama is right, think how wonderful it's going to be when it happens! In the meantime we'll keep you company whilst you wait

I initially started off not telling anyone wispa, but have slowly started telling a few v close friends if they have asked but we're not actively telling people. I'm really not sure what it's the best thing, don't want any added pressure but my friends and family are all so lovely I know they would be supportive, especially if it does take a while think i'm gong to need them! I'll be intrigued to see what others on here say, feel i'm swinging more into the might start telling camp, but know it's a personal thing and different for everyone. In the meantime though we can keep each other company whilst we wait

we haven't told anyone wispa. no-one. not a soul.
I don't think Icould handle the questions. It appears to be allOthonk about anyway, so if I started talking about it too it would be non stop!

Close friends is fine....but when people say "we're trying for a baby" I always thinkots like saying "we're having lots of sex at the moment"! Makes me cringe inside!

Here here onelife! Its great to have the support through this hugely exciting but fustrating journey!! And just to say again thanks to all you ladies who have kept me sane (ish) so far :) your just lovely!! :)

Wispa. Everyone pretty much knows about us; only because I clearly love kids and people have always noticed that I'm happy to babysit help out at parties etc. then before we got married I said we would get straight on it. Rather stupidly assuming it would happen quick - didn't foresee sitting in September not pregnant. So funny how you just think it'll be ok ... Or at least within six months. People stopped asking now as everyone a bit nervous for us. All v. Depressing!

Bloumermaid. You'll be next! Hang in there and allow yourself to be a bit upset then get back on the horse so-to-speak :-)

I've told close friends and my family but DPs family don't know cos they'd ramp up the pressure on us (in a nice enough way but still...!). I told a few close friends as they were asking lots of questions and I don't like lying. My mum has been great and v supportive, especially as both my sister and brother have had babies in the time we have been trying.

Bloumer there's nothing I can be but pragmatic... We don't want any intervention so have just got to see what happens. And I have been majorly obsessive in the past so am trying to remain calm and zen. It works for 3 weeks of my cycle at any rate ;-) the last few days before AF arrives are always the hardest!

I've told two very close online friends but that's all. Definitely not family. No one asks us though, so we don't have to field any awkward questions!

Spotting has stayed overnight and all today but hasn't worsened, and still doesn't feel anything like AF. Weird!

I've not told anyone. aside from (collective) you.

Been sick all day. Still went to work though. You've just got to get on with it haven't you, plus what's the point lying in bed all day dwelling. I'm feeling a bit better now infact, just a bit shaky.

Hope I'm fully better for Wed, but I'm sure D.T.D will shake it off me anyway. x

Think I'm out really really thought we were going to have a lucky month. But spotting pinky red now .
All my symptoms have been so positive and now I feel a bit of a twat for getting my hopes so high for the first month.

Re telling people, we've not told anyone as we don't want people to ask questions about how's it all going etc etc. only people we've told are our ds's guardians ('god parents') on Saturday.

We don't want the added pressure.

Will stay lurking if af comes in full flow. Will test again tomorrow if not.
At least if it is af I only had a 27 day cycle and my body is working post pill.

But it does mean I only had a 10 day luteal phase, or was it 9 if today is 10 dpo, is that bad???

Sorry, 26 day cycle not 27

lucy i was on the depo jab, had the last jab in sept 2012 - it lasts 12 weeks so was due another start od dec which i didn't have. Took til june to get a period but all three have been 25 day cycles so hope they continue to be regular.

I have told a couple of close friends and family that i am off the jab but not made a lot out of it - they don't know quite how much i am trying!!

choccy sorry if it is af. I was convinced the first month - sooo tired and sick. Feel stupid now as surely you wouldn't notice tiredness and sickness so quickly? Saying that, i am tired and nauseous and gassy and have been for a couple of days but getting worse. Still got 8 days til af!!

Ahhh ok at least your cycles are pretty much the same each mnth Notta and god yeah tiredness is a main symptom. I felt like I had a serious illness all three pregnancies at the start lol!!!

:( choccy - good luck for nxt mnth x

We haven't even told anyone we've ditched the contraception. It just seems like such a personal thing.. Even though I knew when my sister was trying, I just don't feel comfortable.

Alright, so another random question for you all - do you get a solid feeling each month, like, 'I am TOTALLY pregnant!' or 'There's no WAY I'm pregnant!'? Last cycle I was utterly convinced that was it and I'd get a BFP. The cycle before I just 'knew' I wasn't. This cycle I'm back to the negative side, but I'm not sure if it's backlash from the disappointment of last cycle..