Talking myself out of it

[BillyBobBobBob]

We've been TTC for 2 years, had all the tests and no issues identified. I've already decided that IVF isn't right for me and we wouldn't be accepted to adopt. I've got to the point where I'm still desperate for a baby but finding that I'm so convinced it's never going to happen that I'm talking myself out of it.

I just feel like my life is on hold playing this waiting game and I know 2 years isn't long in the grand scheme of things but what if it's still like this in another 10 years? I just wish I knew and if it's not going to happen for us, I could make peace with that and move on with my life rather than put off every decision 'just in case'.

If anyone else understands where I'm coming from I'd really appreciate some advice on how you cope.

My husband hates when I say "We can't book that/go there/plan that because I might be pregnant/we might have a newborn". He just doesn't get it. It does sometimes feel like life is on hold 'until further notice'. We try to book things that you can change your mind about later. Holidays in the UK, gig tickets we could sell on if needed.

I know the feeling, we just have so many life decisions to make at the moment, I want to leave my job and go freelance but would then lose my maternity rights. We want to move house but are we looking for a family home or not? I hate the uncertainty and feel like my life is disappearing on a dream that could well never happen.

Hi, just wanted to get in touch and say I am thinking about you. Life can be so hard sometimes! I know you don't need all the self help rubbish but sometimes stress can play a great part it what's happening so maybe taking the pressure of yourselves or a while may help?! Take care of yourself, tomorrow is another day! Hugs xx

Hi, I hear you . I think a lot depends on age. We took 7 yrs to conceive ds aged 37. But I gave us a deadline of age before we started doing things differently... So 3 yrs of being as relaxed as could be about it, then started doing what we wanted etc!! The only advantage of waiting so long was financial, so could afford the changed had started 5 hrs previously if that helps!!