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Chemical pregnancy - should I go to doctor?

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rubles · 21/06/2006 08:44

I just want to know what other people's opinions on this are.

I miscarried at 9 weeks in January. Have a dd who I conceived first time, and I conceived the miscarried baby first time too.
However, since the miscarriage we have not had any joy conceiving.
I am 35. I had decided last month that there was maybe a fertility issue, so was waiting for 6 months of ttc to pass before going to the doctor. However this month I got pregnant very briefly and now 2/3 days later it is going, (what they term a chemical pregnancy, apparently).

Does this mean there may still be a fertility issue for one of us? Should I let the doctor know about this to put it on the radar or not? I am worried that it might encourage the doctor to be dismissive of me and say there is obviously not a problem with either of us if we have managed to get a sperm to meet an egg (even for a very brief time)?
On the other hand, maybe it reinforces the argument that there is an issue - maybe my eggs are getting too old - so maybe he should know?

Does this make sense?? Sorry if it is a bit garbled.

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lusciouslynda · 21/06/2006 09:52

I am not an expert but I am around the same age as you and have had 4 miscarriages and 2 healthy babies. You really need to chill out. You are really stressing and that can affect fertility. You know you can conceive, and quickly!.
You are 35 not 55 - there isn't a magic door that slams shut on your eggs as soon as you get to 35(despite what the papers say), loss of fertility is far more gradual than that.
Relax and try not to worry. See the doctor if it will help you calm down.
Good Luck!!

lusciouslynda · 21/06/2006 09:59

Forgot to say, I have also had what you call a chemical pregnancy. I didn't know that is what it was called. I went to doctor as I was desperate to know what was going on.
His attitude was that if I had lost a pregnancy it had happened far too soon to be stressed about it. Lots of pregnancies occur but don't "stick", for lots of reasons. It could happen every month but the only reason I was aware of it was because I was testing for pregnancy so early. (and I only had a very faint positive result.)
I thought he was being a bit dismissive at the time but I have since read up on miscarriage and I do think he was right.

Piffle · 21/06/2006 10:08

Rubles I am so sorry. I have had 3 of these in the last year - I was referred after the 2nd one and had another while wiating for my appt which is in 2 weeks.
It can be related to progesterone deficiency, I was told and that is what they will be testing me for first off.
Once again I'm really sorry this has happened

Piffle · 21/06/2006 10:09

I am also 35 Rubles.

Nicola63 · 21/06/2006 10:10

Very sorry to hear this rubles. How do you know that it is now going, did you get AF after the positive result or what?

weewilliewinkie · 21/06/2006 11:14

Oh rubles, what's happening? Are you alright?
Have you been to the doctor regarding this yet? How do you know 'it's going'?

I hope you're ok. Let me know. x

weewilliewinkie · 21/06/2006 11:14

Oh rubles, what's happening? Are you alright?
Have you been to the doctor regarding this yet? How do you know 'it's going'?

I hope you're ok. Let me know. x

Angsthase · 21/06/2006 12:04

Rubles, so so sorry

I would mention it to the Doc - but only once you've been referred, otherwise they may make you wait another 6 months and you'll still be none the wiser. Not honest - but honesty (before you need to be) gets you nowhere with the NHS.

DebbsyandBibby · 21/06/2006 12:38

Sorry to crash this thread just wanted to offer support to Rubles.Unfortunetly chemical pregnancies are common.You are mirroring what happened to me i had 2,i was one day late tested faint positive got all excited etc then started to bleed,i went to the drs and they told me what it was that the egg hadnt implanted for some reason and if i hadnt tested early,i would never have known im so sorry this has happened to you,but please take comfort that it is a very common thing (i had 2 in twelve months)that you have got pg and will again you need to stop stressing so much and i know its easy for someone to say,but it will happen i thought it was never going to happen for us im 18 weeks pg now and nearly 34 ((((((HUGS TO YOU RUBLES)))))) XX

DebbsyandBibby · 21/06/2006 12:41

i think you should still speak to your dr as i saw mine both times take care.

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rubles · 21/06/2006 12:42

I have decided not to go. I don't have a great relationship with my doctor so it won't do me any good to go and see her now.

What happened was, I got up and did a pg test to check that the line was getting stronger, and it was still very faint but there. Then I went upstairs and realised that I had heavy bleeding in my pyjamas. My experience of spotting has been that it is literally that - just spots, so it wasn't implantation.

That is the peril of the ultra-sensitive test I suppose. Bummer!!

It's all such a disappointment.

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DebbsyandBibby · 21/06/2006 12:51

so sorry rubles i really am x

oinker · 21/06/2006 12:55

Rubles.....

I am so sorry. Try not to worry too much.

Even though you don't have a great relationship with your doctor I would go and tell them. they may do a test to confirm any line etc. The reason I would do it is just so's you get it logged somewhere. After 3 they will have to refer you for tests etc.
Don't worry about your eggs. I am 38 and have a reading 0f 1.2 which is fantastic. I beleive the docs worry if it goes over 15. My mum hit menopause pretty early so I really thought I was running out of time.
If you have the tests it will put your mind at rest.

I don't agree with this chemical p/g thing. My consultant insisted i test on day 28 of my cycle because of my recurrent m/c's. If I tested positive i had to go straight to hospital for treatment. Surely if it didn't mean anything they wouldn't bother until I was at least 5 weeks!!!

On a positive note.....Remember what Hellkat went thru. Heavy bleeding and clots etc it was not the babba it was a cyst. The bleeding could be any number of things.

GOOD LUCK.x

Piffle · 21/06/2006 13:07

I was alos told to test early because of a previous ectopic, otherwise like debbs and lynda said, you would not normally have known you may have just had a slightly longer cycle.
I really hope you're ok Rubles, you sound very philosophical Braveheart!

Arabica · 21/06/2006 14:18

Sorry to hear what's happened, Rubles, I remember your posts earlier this year. I hope you get good news soon. I'm 44 and got pg fist time I tried so don't believe all that you read about 'older' mums.

FN · 21/06/2006 17:01

So sorry to hear this Rubles, I would also go to the doctors to get this recorded and like Oinker said they could test you too.

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babyfettle · 21/06/2006 19:44

Rubles - so sorry to hear your sad news. The disappointment must be totally crushing

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Take care and try to keep positive, although I know from personal experience how difficult that can be.

Good Luck

LittlePolly · 22/06/2006 12:10

(((hugs))) rubles. How are you doing? Can't you try changing your GP for someone a bit more human when you are feeling a bit better? I changed my GP when I got pregnant because my dr at the time was v unsympathetic. My new doc has been great through my mc and I know she would rather I went to her about anything than sit at home worrying. It makes such a difference. Maybe someone could recommend you a nicer GP? x

time4tea · 22/06/2006 13:44

thinking of you Rubles...

I agree with Little Polly. I recommended my GP to a colleague who had just mc, she changed her GP, is now pregnant again, and really appreciating the support.

given my good experience with staff at the EPU, I really think good professional care and support make all the difference. it isn't just a question personalities, I really think it is part of a doctor's professionalism (even if they don't feel it sincerely) to at least show basic human interest in their patients, and treat them with courtesy.

let us know if there is anything we can do ...

much love to you

bobbynog · 22/06/2006 14:29

Sorry to hear the news rubles

oinker · 22/06/2006 18:49

Rubles,

How are you today?

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