Why does this keep happening to me?

[Keenoonvino]

I just feel so broken and low I don't know where to turn.

A few years ago I had a miscarriage - pain, lots of bleeding, hideous. But I didn't know I was pregnant and I was on the implant. Then, 5 months later, once trying to conceive, we had a missed miscarriage at our 12 weeks scan. Really traumatic especially since I was naive and clueless so it was an awful shock and really sad. We then went on to have a gorgeous baby who is now 2. Got pregnant again, had a scan at 8 weeks where all looked fine, went back at 10 weeks and once again the baby has died. I feel inconsolable and guilty that I feel so upset - I have a healthy baby, but I am worried sick there is something wrong with me or my husband. 3 miscarriages - why can't I carry my babies? I get pregnant fairly quickly but can't seem to go past 12 weeks.

I don't know what to do, what next steps to take. I'm sorry for the terrible mess this post is. I'm hoping someone can give me either some practical advice or positive stories. :(

So sorry to read this. I have no experience of what you're going through but feel very sad for your situation. I don't think you should feel guilty that you're upset, this is a terrible thing to keep happening to you.

I'm so sorry I have no practical advice or stories to give you. Hopefully someone will be along to offer some support. Do you have anyone in real life you feel you can share your feelings with?

So sorry that you're going through this. I haven't experienced it myself, but recently watched a good BBC documentary on youtube about women who have been through several miscarriages and are being treated to try and get to the bottom of it. () It must be very distressing for you, but there might be a way to fix the problem. Have you seen your Dr about it? Once you've had three miscarriages you are entitled to treatment, I believe. Good luck

I am so so sorry to read this. I don't have any personal experience of miscarriages but I have been doing a lot of research into immunology for fertility and reoccurring mc is something they talk about a lot. It is a controversial area of medicine but might be worth looking into. I hope you find some answers.

This is the book I have been reading.

www.amazon.co.uk/Your-Body-Baby-Friendly-Unexplained-Infertility/dp/0978507800

Thanks all. The doc said they could ref me for treatment but since I have had a healthy baby in between the 3 miscarriages it's "unlikely " they'd find anything and it may stop me getting pregnant in the meantime.

She did say it was "significant" though that I'd seen a heartbeat at 8 weeks (90% of miscarriages occur before 8 weeks) and then no heartbeat at 10 weeks.

I guess I am just so sad. I know I should take positive out of having a healthy baby and he is comforting me a lot, but its hard not to doubt it will ever happen again, or it will take a number of miscarriages in the meantime....

I'm so sorry. I've lost two babies, and that was quite bad enough. As others have said, they should be able to investigate as you've had three mcs, but you should also take something positive (I know it's hard) from the fact that you have one child: you can carry a baby to term. I think, unfortunately, Mother Nature's just a bitch sometimes. My midwife told me of one woman she looks after who has had eight mcs, never getting past 12 weeks, but then went on to have a happy healthy full-term pg and baby. Sometimes I think there's no real explanation.