Hello, hello, hello!
Wow - well, it's taken me a while to read back through the thread. It's so good to hear from everyone. Sorry I've been MIA, but work has been crazy and as I sometimes have to work Saturdays too, it gets very difficult to even log on to here and see what's going on, let alone find time to post.
Yikes - what an emotional journey - I was so gutted for you, but now I'm so happy! I hope the good news keeps on coming for you and that it's all going to work out.
Caip - I can't remember if I knew or not that you are pregnant - it's been that long! (It's like I've just found out again anyway - goldfish memory!) So congratulations if I haven't said it before, but that's amazing news.
Notnow - so glad you had fun in HK and Oz. I know that there are lots of weird things going on for you right now, but FWIW I think that ultimately you will end up in a much better place, even if it doesn't always feel like that right now. You will find love again and I'm certain you'll find someone who loves you exactly as you are. You sound already like you've come such a long way, despite the meltdowns. I know at times it will feel horribly unfair, but it will work out for you, I'm sure. Maybe it's a bit soon, but have you thought about going on any dates yet? Also, don't worry about posting about non-ttc stuff - I like the break and you've been here since the start, so keep on posting I say!
Fabi - I'd be pissed off with that too. Some people are so useless at their jobs that it never fails to amaze me. Some are brilliant too, but unfortunately the crap ones always seem to be on my radar!
As for your friend, Fabi - I think it depends on how the friend would feel whose trust you would have to break. I would respect that first before doing anything. If you think she wouldn't mind, then go for it, but if you're not sure then I wouldn't, as potentially you could put two people's noses out of joint and cause a rift between them too. Hope I've understood what you mean correctly.
Finally, yep - I'm quite numb to it all now. I was very upset at the start of all this malarkey and I have down moments, but I guess DH and I keep ourselves so busy that we rarely have time to feel sad. We do actively avoid going out with friends with children now or people who might ask us anything, but that's about it. We just hope each month, but not too much. I've stopped buying pregnancy tests. I push it to the back of my mind TBH.
We have our results appointment in November yes, it's taken THAT long and I had the excruciatingly painful HSG a few weeks ago. The consultant on the day told me that her initial reading of the scan was that all is normal and there's no blockages, which is great, but that means that as we thought all along it's to do with DH's sperm count and the varicocele. I'm pretty sure they'll either want to operate on DH or will put us straight in for IVF. I guess that's also why I don't think about it much, as there's nothing to be gained from thinking about it I suppose. I can't bear waiting either, so I have to pretend that I'm not waiting at all. I haven't been posting on here as much either and I've kind of been pretending to have a real life and not one that is on hold waiting for something that may never happen, or at least not naturally anyway. I'd love to get upduffed straight after the HSG too, but DH had to go away for work this week, so no chance of that. Oh and the other thing is that I try not to think about other people getting pregnant (on here is different though). If I hear someone is, I have a standard good wishes message and then I move on. I don't hang around to ask questions or discuss the ins and outs of it.
I know all this makes me sound really down, but I'm not. It's just self-preservation as otherwise I might fall apart. I'm sure you guys know how it is. I'm fine otherwise.
Hope anyone else I've missed is well. Sorry for the obscenely long post!