TTC after missed miscarriage, younger sister just gave birth to her 3rd today.....

[MrsGAT]

I'm really in pieces. Mine would have been due in 3 weeks and it's hard trying to be happy for her. I'm 39, 40 in 3 months and having been fairly relaxed about it all before (we got pregnant almost at first time of trying) am getting slowly more sad and anxious as the months go by. Feel like I'm trying to do everything right (not drinking, eating really well, yoga, tried acupuncture but didn't like(!), those Pregnacare Conception vits) and with horrendously sod's law timing, got my period yesterday. Each month total nightmare, where I'm searching constantly for signs, but still nothing. Starting to tear my hair out.
Any success stories of pregnancy after miscarriage or even just pregnancies at my age would be so much appreciated at this point....thanks so much ladies, sending love and baby dust to everyone xxx

Hi there, I'm sorry for your loss and I can totally imagine how you must be feeling right now. I wish I could say more than that but I have never had a miscarriage or indeed ever had a baby, but good luck to you.

MrsGAT I'm am so so sorry for the horrible place you're finding yourself in, mother nature is a sick son of a bitch.

I have experienced 3 mc's and have found great support over on the miscarriage pages www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/1774326-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Testing-trials-and-tribulations-Part-7

Have you tried taking one low dose (70mg) aspirin each day? I am pregnant at 42 after 9 years of trying and a miscarriage.

I started taking the aspirin a few months before I got pregnant, and I'm sure it is what made a difference. All the medics I have spoken to since being pregnant have said they are glad I am taking it, and to carry on taking it.

Don't take my word for it, do your own research and perhaps speak to your doctor about it. But it is something to try, if you haven't already.

Obviously I know nothing medically and don't want to immediately rain on chucky's advice, however after 2 of my MC I was told to take 75mg of aspirin as apparently 'couldn't hurt' HOWEVER, recent research has come out that says that if you do take aspirin and don't actually need it, it increases the chances of MC by 20% - this was confirmed again to me by Raj Rai at St Mary's, London. Food for thought as everyone has seemed to recommend aspirin for years....

MrsGAT I am so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. I can imagine how you must be feeling. I have no technical advices for you. Just wanted to give you a virtual hug and tell you that my cousin had a son at age 38, after five miscarriages. There's hope.

Hi MrsGAT, sending you a big hug. I am 42 now at 37 like you was relaxed about conception and got pregnant quite quickly when trying but sadly had a stillborn son very late in pregnancy (at a time that Everyone was pregnant) I then tried my 6 months and now have a gorgeous daughter. After a while I tried again and had a MC in March and my due date would be in 3 weeks time too. I have since been trying and have seen two consultants whose biggest bit of advice is to relax (not that easy to do!) don't deprive yourself of the things that help you to relax and try not to symptom spot but try to understand when you ovulate. Both consultants told me independently to follow the SMEP and have rest days. Obviously I am older than you so have concerns but I hope that this helps. Xx

Hi there, just to say... I found out I was pregnant on my 40th and had a healthy and now perfectly naughty DC who I'm so grateful for. The previous year I lost a twin pregnancy at 20 weeks. I can't describe how bad that loss was and the utter complete devestation that I felt and indeed sometimes still do nearly three years later. I'm now nearly 42 and TTC again after a mmc in July. However, I do know that if it doesn't work out for us that we are still very fortunate. I'm telling you all this that the body is amazing, I NEVER thought I would get pregnant again after my first loss and what my body had gone through but I did. You have been pregnant once and you will again when your body is ready. Do as much as you can to help yourself, keep healthy and don't give up. 40 isn't that old - blowing baby dust your way too. x

Hello, is this your first you're trying for?

Remember that at your age, fertility investigation should start once you've been ttc for 6 months. So I would just get the ball rolling and hopefully that in itself will make you feel more hopeful as you're doing something.

It must be hard seeing your younger sister have another baby.

Hello MrsGAT - sorry for your loss. It's hard, isn't it?

I got my BFP the first month of TTC, just shy of my 40th birthday last year, then had MMC at 11 weeks. Back to TTC, although I never temped or used OPKs or anything (in an attempt not to get too hung up about it), so for us TTC was a question of DTD as much as possible at what I hoped was the right time. After about 6 months I went to see my gynae...and was devastated to hear him say that I was perimenopausal and at this point would never conceive naturally (he'd run some blood tests and there was nothing 'wrong', other than my age). He referred me to a fertility specialist, who prescribed Clomid and IUI; I couldn't get started right away for practical reasons (I had various trips lined up and couldn't have got to the hospital on the right cycle days) so decided to forget about it for 2 cycles and then start the treatment - but as CheeseFondueRocks says, I felt a whole lot better already, just knowing that we were doing something about it. And in the meanwhile I got my BFP, so I never started the fertility treatment; am now 16 weeks I'm convinced it was because I'd written those 2 cycles off so I wasn't even thinking about TTC for the moment - so I was relaxed. (DSIS, younger than me, like yours, recently announced her 2nd pg, and I was so relieved to have my own (at that stage secret) pg - I'd really have struggled otherwise).

There is a wonderfully supportive Fabulous 40+ TTC thread - the advice and understanding I got there have really helped me. Come and have a look - no need to wait till your birthday