contemplating single motherhood using donor sperm, need help and advise please!!

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hi everyone, i'm a newbie and i have just found out that i have a retroverted womb, tilts in-wards instead of out-wards and i have a low amount of eggs!! i'm currently waiting to find out how i go about getting my tubes checked on the nhs and how my tests i get on the nhs also!! so all help and advise will be grateful, thanks

hi, i dont know anything about tests and stuff but i too have thought about single motherhood with donor..i'm 37 and not getting any younger, do you mind me asking how old you are and how you found out how many eggs you had left? I really hope your GP is helping you and giving you as much advice as possible.... i wish you all the best of luck in the world xxxxxx

hi i was 35 this year and started this journey last october when i came off the pill after nearly 13 years!! i had an initial consultation at the london woman's hospital in harley street last month, i went to an information morning one saturday in june and recieved a half price initial consultation which included a pelvic and womb scan where they scanned my ovaries and found out how many eggs or follicles i had at that time, which was a low 5 but i was shocked to have any in the first place, they also discovered my retroverted womb during this scan, which i have copies of, as i'm trying very hard to get some or all of my treatment on the nhs, otherwise i will be going to the ARGC in wimpole street london as this is where my gp recommended as they have the highest sucess rates for IUI treatment using a sperm donor!!
its a long and catch 22 journey which hit another brick wall just today but i will not give up until i fullfill my dream of having a child of my own!! as i have worked with children for the last 20 years starting with voluntary work when i was just 15, i currently work in a primary school with statemented children on a 1-1 basis, helping them to access the curriculum and then i care for a 16 year old girl with unique special needs after school and most school holidays!!
where are you in your journey to become a mother??

sounds like an incredible journey so far, plus it sounds like you'd make an incredible mother with everything you do for children on a day to day basis. I'm happy to hear you wont give up..theres definitely no reason to either. i know things will happen for you and when they do it will be so much sweeter for all you've had to go through.. i really do wish you the best of luck. i have being trying on and off for a while. when i was a lot younger i got pregnant a couple of times but it was never the right time and now i'm beginning to regret my actions ( i now dont agree with abortion).I think every woman assumes it would be there god given right just to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat but when you get older it gets much harder. My partner doesn't understand how important it is to me, he has his own child already so i suppose its not as important to him but surely if he loves me he'd get it right??.. WRONG!! .. so, like you i've considered the same thing, has your gp helped with nhs side of things or is it a no no? its something i may look into as i couldnt afford the private side of it, not at the moment anyway. I figure though that if you've family and friends to support you you dont need anyone else , a child need love and i know i'd give more than enough to a child. I reckon you should go for it!!! and you never know i could soon be doing the exact same thing if my prtner doesn't buck his ideas up!!! .. i'm slightly older than you and have had health problems which would affect fertility so it may be my only option to , but its not a problem, its a solution ..i think i'll go to my gp and tell them that the stress of it is making me suicidal and see if that helps with nhs costs...my friend got plastic surgery from saying she would kill herself if she didn't have a tummy tuck and breast implants and she got the lot done for free by a top surgeon in harley street!!!!!....good luck... let me know how you get on and i'll let you know how i get on!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

p.s.... its my ovulation time at the moment and my partner ( i feel dont give a shit) , its like he's happy to dtd when not ovulating but when its my time theres always a problem.... i'm sick of him!!!!!!!! ...i'm really considering BIG TIME , leaving him and doing what you're gonna do... i'm gonna look into it with my gp next week and i'll find out as much info as poss , and 'll let you know what they say... who knows this could be a journey we embark on together over the net!!... 'll keep you posted....goodluck

the london women's clinic in harley street do information mornings and afternoons, often on a saturday, thats where i got the bulk of my starting out information, plus the staff there are very nice and give lots of advise after the information session, also you get a half price initial consultation which includes the pelvic and womb scan which is also very usual, when you go to the gp ask for a 21 day progestron blood test and a 2nd day of period blood test as both these tests start the ball rolling with checking your hormone levels, which need to be high for one and low for the other but i can't remember which way round it is, good luck with your journey and keep me posted!!

thank you...i'm gonna give that a try...i'll let you know what happens... also good luck and best wishes with your journey...keep me posted ..i'll be thinking/praying for your success...xxxx