Summer Baby vs Age Gap

[19weeksTillChristmas]

Have finally agreed to try for a second.

In a fantasy world - where I could dictate everything babywise to a schedule, would I rather try for a summer baby or a post-september baby?

Age gap could be greater than it would be (factoring i may be get pregnant for a while, took several months last time...) but I know my sister struggled as a Summer baby at school.

Other advantages include more time saving up for mat leave etc - but the real thing for me is I am absolutley terrifed of the end of pregnancy - not giving birth, terrified my body wont support a pregnancy as it tried to give up last time, and we nearly lost our 1st child.

I might be looking for excuses to delay TTC despite how much I would love to be blessed with a 2nd, so interested in other peoples opinions wtr summer babies

Sounds like you would need to take mat leave as early as possible and rest a lot!

As a primary school teacher, I can say most summer babies are slightly behind the others but it's nothing major and obviously every case is different.

Thanks Champagne and VJones

I know it could take a while - if it happens at all and then the last thing to care about would be when their birthday falls.

I think we will delay TTC till new year and then I can berate myself when it take forever and a day to get a BFP! (ever the optimistic!)

I think it all depends on your age. I tried to delay TTC to avoid a summer born..... Now 11 months down the line I don't care about all that. I just want to have a baby and another sibling for my DS who just turned 6.
In hindsight I wished that I TTC 6 months earlier than I did. I would have started saving for IVF earlier :(
Best of luck in whatever you decide.

London thanks for responding.

I know it could take time - if indeed it happens a 2nd time at all given we were trying for a while with our 1st.

I hope you get your BFP soon xx

Thank you. Wishing you a BFP too :)

I don't think you get to pick when you have a baby - it doesn't work like that. It could take ages to get pregnant, it could happen straight away, the baby might be premature etc - and it's largely out of your control. If you definitely want a 2nd child just go for it.

I'm a primary teacher and you do notice the July/Augusts flag here and there but having said that who cares? A baby is a beautiful baby whenever they're born! Dd is a May baby and I loved that time of year, now newly pregnant with dc2 due in April and tbh I couldn't care less what month!

I was a July baby and never struggled or felt any different at school. I don't see the problem. It's great having a birthday in the summer.

I was a Sept baby but put up a year at school so did O levels at 15, As at 17, university at just 18, graduated at 20. Did me no harm! I had this sort of debate when starting out TTC no. 2. That was in Sept 11 and still trying so such thoughts no longer come into play; any time will do just fine!

I'm an end of August baby as is my dad - it honestly never held us back!!