Delayed Ejaculation - any hope?

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So obviously a name change for this one.... DH and I have been ttc number 2 for 6 months. And we've been having problems in the bedroom... he can get going, but he can't ever arrive... if you see what I mean...

DC1 was a very unexpected accident, we had been using contraception and had never had any problems in the bedroom. But when we finally decided to crack on with number 2, DH appeared to develop this issue. Its caused us a number of problems, and its getting worse - when we first started TTC he was fine except on the days when we knew I was ovulating.... but now the problem is extending and he's struggling to come on days when conception isn't even on the cards.

So after a number of glasses of wine the other night, he confessed that he's always had this problem, and he never managed successful sex with some previous girlfriends.... he's been able to manage it the whole time we've been together (5 years, although there have been times he hasn't come, I've just put it down to one offs).

As I see it - our options are

1. stop TTC to take the pressure off him - but neither of us want to do this as I am getting OLD.
2. carry on as we are and hope for the best
3. turkey baster

DH says from next month to try 3). I don't really mind giving it a shot...

So the question is - does anyone have any experience with Delayed Ejaculation (also known as Retarded Ejaculation) and do you have any advice? Anyone have any luck with home insemination?

sorry I don't have any expierence of this exactly. but I am ttc and my dp doesn't want me to tell him when are my ov/fertile days because it puts too much pressure on him.

could you have a break for a few months, maybe instigate a sex ban, and when you restart dont tell him your fertile days, just go about things how you did before. And plenty foreplay, be a tease so he really wants you!

Op we have this. Right now DH is on Cialis and on Weds, for the first time ever in our relationship, he arrived on time!! More like a continental train than BR ;)

It is unreliable though so I told him we decided after about Nov if it hasn't worked we'll go turkey baster. There is a good thread about that on here if you search, from 2008 or something but with some quite recent posts.

My boyfriend has this too and has said he has had it since he started having sex do has been all his adult life. I would get so worked up as I thought it was my fault but since we sat down and spoke about it it has got alot better. I thought it would have been worse with the pressure of TTC but its actually got better for some reason and happens almost every time now! I'm sure everything will work out for you's.

Thanks everyone for your comments... its nice just to know this isn't just us in the situation! We've talked about it and decided from next month we'll go down the home self insemination route which has really helped him relax and we're a bit more back to normal in the bedroom now. Not sure turkey basting is the solution for TTC but I hope it will give us a bit of breathing room.

Lettuce - yes I agree, I got really worked up about it as well - feels much better to have talked about it and to know its not me that's the problem!

Best of luck! :)