Very broody, but not ready yet.

[Nellelephant]

I can only assume it's down to broodiness anyway. I keep noticing pregnant women everywhere, if I flick through Tv channels there's always babies. People around me are expecting or just had a child, a couple who married a month after us earlier in the year are expecting already. Arghhh! It's everywhere and the truth is I would really like to start trying but it just can't happen yet. We would need to find a new home first and I wouldn't feel secure without a bit more savings behind us. I'm already thinking (hypothetically) about names. Mental. My question is, will these silly feelings pass or is this me now for the next 2 maybe even 3 years before we can start trying?

I think only you know when it's right.

There's definitely loads of pressure (IMO). Although neither DH or I have the type of family to ever mention it - so not that type of pressure - but I guess expectations seem to bear down!

DH has always and children. However when we met ten years ago - he used to joke Id rather cross the street than walk past a child!

I've always wanted a family , but never "now". DH and I are big planners. We planned our wedding around when we could afford it. We wanted a house is a nice area before we even thought about ttc. I'm early 30's and really started to worry about timings. I put all this pressure on myself, but DH just wouldn't be read if we felt we weren't financial/lifestyle stable. It was what was right for us. And I soon realised, I was putting most the pressure on myself, it wasn't really anyone else.

Then all of a sudden, we made our decision to ttc and I couldn't be happier. A lot of people's who DH and I got to together many many years ago married way before us and already have 1,2, or 3(!) kids already!

I am so excited about our decision. I do have days where I think "oh no - am I really ready to be responsible for another person?!" And then I relax again

I think I'll probably do the same when we get our BFP but that's just me. I'm a big planner, and love to be organised, so the unknown scares me. I would be much more comfortable if I could order a baby with a 9month delivery date (!) as I would feel much more in control....but I guess that's life!

So you will know when you're ready. And your feelings might change overnight!

Good luck!

I feel the same OP - I see pregnant women and babies everywhere, I dream about being pregnant, I feel really unsettled after spending time with my best mate and her 1 year old (who I adore). I think about names too. And there really is no escape because I work with little children and parents, and 99% of my colleagues are women and the vast majority are either pregnant or parents already. It feels like THE ENTIRE WORLD is involved in the business of babies!

I'm putting it down to hormones though because if I actually think of the reality of having a baby, I feel terrified. Since I turned about 30 I've had periods of these broody feelings on and off. I think it's biology tapping its watch and nudging me to get on with it. Happily we are more than just our biological impulses though!

I find just knowing that other people feel the same helps a lot and make me feel less lonely. I don't know how you will feel OP but I find my broodiness comes and goes in waves - I'm in the thick of a broody wave right now but just a couple of weeks ago I was feeling totally settled about being childfree! Damn hormones!

Good luck with whatever happens

Well it's good to know my feelings are relatively normal! I have just had a long chat with my friend who has a little girl, she's the only one I feel I can talk to about this without it being made common knowledge or being judged for it. She was exactly the same when they decided to start trying.

Jaykay I am with you on the ordering baby idea! I plan everything in minute detail and I guess this is something I can't really predict. I've not admitted any of this to my hubby. Not sure whether to come clean or to keep it to myself because we can't try until we move house regardless of how I feel.

With you on this one. I'm 26, and I really don't have the kind of stability I'd want to start a family - my husband has a year left to go on his PhD with no idea what he'll do and where he'll be and he has to support his mother (emotionally, and financially), and the flat we're renting isn't suitable at all. Unfortunately my hormones don't listen to logic! Bizarre as I didn't have these urges at all a year ago.

I'm also a big planner - do you find it helps because you feel like you're doing something to prepare, or does dwelling on it make you feel more broody? Nellelephant it's great that you have a friend that you can talk to about these things, maybe you should try having "the conversation" with your hubby? You may be surprised to find he's thinking along the same lines?

Good luck with ttc Jaykay, it's great that you and your DH are reading from the same page now

Really interesting, I'm the same just turned 31 and got a lovely home all renovated but feel that we need some solid savings behind us and other half isn't working at the moment but building our extension which is great really wanted to start trying this month (we got married last year) then decided that its going to be more like December/January to give us time to save. Everyone around me is getting pregnant! People have even told us that we need to 'crack on' we're both 31! Pressure there is x

Crystal, just being nosey, but is it family that's telling you to "crack on"? I feel like all of mine want different things and whenever we decide the time is right half of them will be unhappy..... my mother wants me to wait as long as possible as she thinks it'll destroy my career (and I think she's mentally not ready to be a grandmother!), my MIL keeps asking when she can expect grandchildren and tries to feel my stomach whenever she sees me (ironic, as she's a key factor in delaying) and her mother keeps dropping hints that she's not going to live much longer....!

December/January isn't too far (maybe from your perspective it is? ) and it's wonderful that you'll have your home ready first - your husband must be so talented to be able to manage an extension!