Contraception, etc.....

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I've already started another thread thinking that i might be pregnant a few days ago. I did a test and it came out negative. However, I still haven't got my period, feeling moody and naseaus (sp). Feel that pinching feeling where my womb is suppose to be, the same when i was preg both times. I'm thinking of abortion. if i am preg, then it's about two week old, now. How/what do i do?
Also, was going to get Implanon, the implant. Has anyone used it? What are the side effects? Do you put on weight with it?

oh, come on, someone, anyone?

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if you need to know early go and get a test at gp. dont know but maybe they can find out better. No idea about Implanon..google it!! :)

thanks AM. I have an appointment next week, but wanted to know about abortions, what/how, etc....

Hello there! my friend used this and she had no side effects at all long term she did say initially she felt a little moody but she never had any weight problems. You seem to be a little fed-up, obviously if your pregnant and its unplanned you have alot on your mind! Feel free to share your worries here, if i can offer you any support or help at all just get it all down on here and i will do my best!

helen, that's lovely of you thank you. Just been seeing to dd2 now.I am upset as dd2 is only 4 months now. i just want to feel like me again, and not feel moody, sick, tired, etc...

Its very difiicult isnt it when you are feeling tired and stressed out and you have a little one to take care of, all the usual simple jobs seem harder to do and stupid little things annoy you quicker, if its possible try and just grab two or three minutes for yourself here and there, take a breath or two and just give yourself a time out! How do you feel if you are pregnant? Is it something that would be hugely catastrophic? that is IF you are!!? you may not be, what about dp/dh have you discussed anything with him? its very easy to have all these things clogging your mind up and causing you to feel like your quickly loosing control of things, hard as it is, you need to take a breath and try and sit and think about each problem one at a time and figure out how to tackle it without tying yourself up in emotional, pyschological knots! you'd be surprised at how things have a way of working out!

I had planned to start studying in sept. I really can't manage it with a tod, a babe, and being preg. dp is willing to help, but he really can't do anything about the emotional bit. The mere thought of being preg makes me want to tear my hair apart. I really don't think i can cope. Then there's the physical bit. I am soooooooo not fit at the mo. Not fat/overweight, just feel my muscle/bones wont bear it, especially my back and pelvic muscles. It felt like i had broken something with dd2, like i had a splintered bone digging into my skin (i should say muscle) where her little head was (this is pelvus).
I don't think you knew what you were getting yourself in for when you offered to listen .

And the thing is, I feel like screaming now. I don't kknow what's eating me, but I want to just let some steam out. I have been trying to figure out what's bugging me, but can't. Even the thought that i'm preg doesn't seem to be the cause.

You carry on as much as you want to hun! You just have too much on your mind! when you are stressed out and worrying about something and are meeting yourself coming back with so much to do sometimes your left feeling like a pressure cooker waiting to go off and cant find any escape! this is more than understandable for you at the moment isnt it? you need to sit and give yourself chance to catch up with yourself and all thats going on in your life right now! how do you feel about possible abortion? I understand that to cope with small children and studying would be hard work if you had a baby aswell it would obviously add to the stress, but you should give yourself as much time as you can to consider any options you have at all, i am completley neutral ground and i promise i will not judge you!

i am actually considering abortion, i really don't think i could handle it. maybe if dd2 was a year old, itwould be something. butr right now, no, i want to enjoy her. I just dkon't know. dd1 is jumping all over me now, getting her ready for bed
see you in a bit.

Ok hun im just doing the same here actually i have 3 kids and they are 5, 3, and 8 months and so its that time of night when its just about to go into meltdown lol!

I don't get on here often.
Wow, three kids! Good on you. I would like 6 but not so close to one another. Hmmm, I don't feel so dreadful today. Hopefully I'm not preg . I'm going to see the doc's tomorrow, and i've decided to get an IUD if all is clear. A friend has convinced me it's a must. At least , it doesn't have any hormones.

Oh im so pleased your feeling better today! im sure all will be fine at the docs tommorow, and hopefully you can go on and have 6 kids (your mad! ) when your ready! i never thought id have any as i was never a very maternal person but our ds1 was a lovely mishap! and we couldnt just have one so we went on to have 2 more there is exactly 2.5 years between ds1 and ds2 and exactly 2.5 years between ds2 and dd! its very chaotic but its really good fun, and they will all be close when they grow up, i too wold have more but dp says NO MORE - which i guess is fair enough let us know how you get on tommorow hun, i'll be thinking of you!

Thanks Helen. I would love a house full of screaming (whilst playing) kids. I can't stand a quiet house. It's really boring. I kknow i'll complain and all later, but i'd rather have all those (happy) kids. The dd's are almost 2 years apart, just the way i like it. Dp doesn't mind, in fact, he'd like more- he loves them. AM the one who puts down her foot here [smil].
I'll let you know how things go.

Went to gp, but they don't seem to do contraception there, or rather they don't fit the coil. Odd. Anyway, i'm going to a family planning clinic.
the main thing is tho, the doc didn't seem to be worried about my being preg. So, at least there s something in that.