Please help - ttc with erectile dysfunction - totally tmi but really need some dim questions answered :(

[RevoltingPeasant]

I'll really appreciate any responses - bit desperate. Not going to NC due to lack of shame and cba, frankly..... So....

DH has had erectile dysfunction since before we met, due to ongoing prostate issues. He rarely gets fully hard (look, I said tmi, okay ;) ) and very rarely climaxes inside. We still "have sex" but it's more some penetration followed by manual, and it ends up on my tummy, bum, wherever.

If you haven't run away....

This is an obvious problem for ttc. He can come but not inside. I thought to try these "conception caps" a friend gave me that are a bit like diaphragms or moon ups and hold the sperm inside. But it's pretty awkward sort of scooping it up and putting the cap inside, plus I don't know if doing that will put the sperm close enough to cervix.

What should I do? Any ideas? I am wondering about turkey boasters but don't really know how they work or where to get a sterile one. Cannot ask anyone else, DH is shy of talking about it....

MN please help! I don't have any reason to think either of us is infertile and this is so frustrating. Really want to be pg now and feeling very stuck.

Hi Life - there is an assisted conception thread but I find it a bit off putting! it's very acronym-y and I think it's for people who are having medically assisted conception, as opposed to mucking about with yoghurt pots etc.

What's your dilemma??

Hi Revolting, thanks for replying. I did see that thread, I'm ok with the abbreviations but no one seems to be talking about the sorts of issues discussed on this thread. I don't have a dilemma, I just thought that as everyone else has a thread, why not us, those of us who can't just go at it like rabbits! I was reading the in the weekend Guardian magazine about the chef Ottelenghi (spelling?) who said of he and his partner (gay relationship) finally being able to have a child something along the lines of "we're not like heterosexual couples, it's harder for us". That's a misconception. My OH and I have conceived twice, once the obvious way and the once in a more creative way, both miscarriages, we are now solely trying in the creative way. And the things I might like to talk about, methods, tips, sharing frustrations, are somewhat to do with having to go about this in a nonconventional way... hence wondering if there was a thread.

Sorry, longwinded! Thanks for responding though.