21 day bloods... What would you do?

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I've just been to see my GP as we have been ttc for a while and I think spotting is interfering with proceedings. He sent me off for 21 day bloods but also said my dh should have a sperm test. I told him the only thing that concerns me is the spotting so surely we should rule that out first before putting pressure on dh too. He said he'd strongly recommend sending him for a sperm test. What would you do?

Well, you can just wait for the blood test results before booking the SA. I gave my DP the information on how to book, which was pretty much- go to the GP and request one, and left it up to him when he was ready.

Thank you, I will tell him the advice but I think whilst we are not stressing about it, it's not worth him going unless he particularly wants to (?!)

Why wouldn't you have the SA too? Spotting doesn't necessarily mean there is a problem with you. If you have been ttc for a while, the reason is as likely to be with him as with you. If the day 21 test comes back normal, it is likely you will end up along the road to increasingly invasive tests. He only needs to spaff in a pot, and if you are close to the hospital he can even do it at home usually. I just don't understand why you as a couple wouldn't have the test.

It's completely normal for both partners to be tested at the same time - it worked that way for us too.

I agree with what you are saying, I think it is just because I was only worried about the spotting. We have been so relaxed about ttc that I don't want to make it into a chore/worry.

How long have you been ttc for?.

Both of you should be tested at the same time; it is little point in solely testing you only to discover some months later that there are actually male factor issues as well. One of you or equally both of you are subfertile.

Sorry about that, I type too fast. Scrap the word "are" in the last sentence. It should instead say "could be".

Ha I will go with the 'could be' rather than the 'are'