Having a little sulk

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Been TTC for 6 months now for DC2. Pregnancy seems to be spreading like the plague around my friends but nothing happening here. Just wanted to moan a little. We conceived DS1 within 4 months of trying; starting to get a bit worried this time round. I'm 34 in a couple of months and starting to feel like time is running out. Not to mention the fact that most of our life-plans can't really start until our family is complete.

Don't really know why I'm posting. Just feeling a bit sad and feeling mean for feeling sad when I hear other people's happy news.

Don't worry we've all been there with feeling a little spark of envy when people announce there happy news. It's crap isn't it, I long for the day when I can feel 100% genuine happiness when someone announces a pregnancy. Even when our friends announce wedding plans I feel like, well there'll be a baby along soon then.

I also feel like my life is in limbo until we manage to get pregnant. I'm 32, we are married, bought a house with 3 bedrooms and a garden, just waiting for a baby now. Not sure how to move through life if children are delayed or don't make an appearance at all .

Well I've depressed myself now and been no help whatsoever :-( Really hope you manage it soon - 6 months is not much longer than 4 months really. And 34 is still pretty young in the fertility stakes. I'm sure you'll get that bfp soon xxx

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Thank you Moggle. Have you been trying long? I know I should be more grateful for what I have but today everything just seems a bit hard. Best of luck to you too - hope you fill those spare rooms soon. x

Oh I know exactly how you feel we are also trying to concieve #2 and have been trying 8 months now! Only took two months with #1!!! So frustrated and really feel this is the month as nipples are so sensitive and boobs are aching, had a little spotting and been very tired....however I just know it'll be a bfn in a few days as usual!! Not much help but just to let you know you are not alone!!!

In the nicest possible way, 6 months is nothing. You need to take a deep breath and try not to get so wound up.

80% of perfectly healthy couples will conceive within 1 year and 90% within 2 years, so you have nothing to worry about at this stage.

Nothing to worry about but no one likes waiting ;)

It is rubbish, I wasn't even TTC when the first of my pals got pg and I was privately devastated. I really wanted kids but Hubby wasn't ready so I know how you feel!

I am TTC now and just started cycle #2 so I'm hoping I'm the next pg one of my friends otherwise I'll be back here moaning. No harm in having a moan after all, it gets it off your chest just so long as you don't let it take over and get too bogged down in it.

Happy positive feelings help promote happy positive baby making opportunities which will lead to a BFP eventually

You are all probably sick of reading my story here by now. My #2 took a full year of TTC - I really thought at the time that 4-6 months was an eternity as we amazingly conceived #1 first month trying.
I think at around 10-12 months I had actually given up all hope but just when I was at my lowest I got my BFP - I didn't dare believe my internet cheapie so confirmed with a first response and even then was in disbelief.

Apparently the average time it takes a typical healthy couple to conceive is 6-8 months.

Pregnancy announcements are very hard. Oh and pregnant ladies EVERYWHERE - it turned into a joke with DH and I when in shopping centres etc. Then there's the guilt you feel for being envious. I wouldn't wish TTC trouble on my worst enemy.

Yes it is nothing to worry about but incredibly frustrating at the same time. The funny thing is we spend so much of our lives preventing a pregnancy but when we go to try to get pregnant we realise it's really not that easy

Wishing for bfp's for you all XX

No, no one likes waiting but 6-8 months is not a long time to wait. I've been TTC#1 for just over 3 years, so I don't consider less than a year very long to have been trying.

That's horrible you've been trying for so long Frankly I'm sorry it's not been easy for you, it must be really hard to deal with but it's all relative isn't it? I'm only on cycle 2 and the thought of waiting a year seems forever even though I know it's an acceptable time frame.

I'm sure we all get down about it every time AF rears her ugly head no matter how long we've been trying for.

Frankelly I'm sorry you've had to try for so long. I know that many people have a much tougher time than I have. I appreciate that it's not really a very long time but it's very much the focus of my life at the moment and I feel like nothing else can move forward until it happens. As I said, I'm just having a little sulk.

2Lilgirls that's reassuring, thank you. xx

Sorry folks, I'm not trying to drag anyone down, but perhaps inject a little reality to the situation. TTC is a consuming business for all of us, no matter how long we've been trying individually.

I've been ttc for 18 months, but it felt shit at 3 months, 6 months and 9 months. Since then it's been a bit better oddly. Obviously looking back now it's easy to think, what was I worrying about then, 6 months was nothing, but that doesn't negate how down I felt in the early stages when AF would arrive again.

It sucks Moggle! Hoping pregnancy sneaks up on you soon. xx