The Woes of TTC...

[misseskimo]

Now being my first month back "properly" TTC after a few months "break" due to feeling a bit down, I'm starting to remember why it gets so stressful in the first place!

I'm finding myself counting down the hours before I can go and do another OPK, then trying not to look TOO keen to drag hubby upstairs to DTD, then marking it down in my chart and thinking, "right how long again now till I can test and get him back upstairs again without it looking too desperate?" ... Then trying to re-track in your brain how much longer I have in my window before AF arrives again... All whilst trying to be good by avoiding caffeine, eating my five-a-day and everything else they tell you to do to help TTC... Oh and obviously going about my normal day and working! LOL. And people wonder why we get stressed out! :P Hubby just finds it amusing, and tells me I'm reading too much into it all, he's probably right tbh, but hey, if I don't obsess, then who will?

I'm on CD15 (for another hour at least), my big O is due today according to my charts, but so far no positive OPK... Keeping everything crossed that THIS is the month, after almost 2yrs trying! Can only wish can't I? :)

Anyone else do this, or am I really just over-obsessing? Haha

I've never used those things called ovulation sticks so no idea what that's like but just DTD every other day and try not to over think it and it will happen when your body is ready.

Hi missesk only saw your post now just wanted to say you are not alone!! Since ttc i have become a neurotic loon!! Everything you said ive also done. I'm comming to the end of cycle 6 ttc & af is due on 24th so im in the tww, but to be honest im not even a little bit hopeful. This month i just kinda gave up no opk, no checking anything, dtd when we wanted & diddnt even realise i was in the tww until i started to get a few pmt symptoms so i checked the dates. I just couldnt handle it this month I was wrecking my own head never mind the poor dh! It has been lovely just to give myself a break, will start opk again next month but am def going to try v hard to CALM DOWN & not be so neurotic! fx you get your bfp soon but if not keep calm & carry on/emo/te/1.gif

misseskimo

Honestly misseskimo, you will drive yourself half nuts doing all this and you are over thinking all of this. Channel your energies elsewhere i.e seeking answers as to why conception is problematic for you as a couple.

My counsel (and you may not like it) is to chuck away all the OPKs that you have along with the chart you use. Do not use any such methods, they're not helping. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself too; stressing like you are will not help either and your H is right. Stress does not stop conception from happening, medical problems do.

You need a diagnosis first and foremost and both of you need to be thoroughly tested.

I noted your previous comments on another thread re your useless GP; do seriously consider changing GP practice now and demand answers. You have been fobbed off by them and badly so.

Hey same here and its only been a few months. Just getting me down was boyfriends idea for a baby. I want one too but when were dtd he thinks been on top will help us but everytime he flips us its like he only wants a baby. Just feel like a failure too him. Thought this was gonna be easier..