Not for the prude: fingers or no after ejaculation?

[Brodicea]

I've been TTC since September with no luck so far, some of you will know from a thread a couple of months back that I've been to the Drs and been told to bugger off until Xmas (long story).
So, I've started charting: thinking that if I amass some data I can bother the Dr a bit sooner than Xmas!
Anyway, I started wondering if some of our bedroom shenanigans are hindering the process. Basically, my chap comes inside me and then usually he helps me orgasm with his fingers. In my rather unmedical brain, I am starting to wonder if this somehow disturbs the path of the spunk - in the one very small logical part of my mind, I think that surely all the good ones would have reached the right place already? Or, is it the orgasm after the spunk pushing them all in the wrong direction? Or are 'finger germs' killing them off? Or is it none of the above.
I'm wondering if we should 'do me first' next time as I do like to have fun too!
Any advice gratefully received!

I think I would try 'doing you' first or else go for clitoral stimulation instead. Just in case.

That very small part of your brain is probably right and if it's going to get to where it's meant to be it'll happen pretty quick. But can't hurt to try a change. I've heard that an orgasm can help the sperm along as the uterus contract and pushes them along a little (don't know if this is true though!)

Orgasm or more than one - vaginal then clitoral if feeling greedy - will indeed help sperm on their way.

This would go some way to explain why I appear to be having a boy when my DHs sperm are probably as good at swimming as he is...

Have not heard of finger germs as a spermicide but suggest clitoral orgasm for more intense orgasm and magnified hoover effect

hmm, thanks Disney and Beyonce I think we'll do me first and/or try stimulation during rather than after
I was worried I'd just have to lie back and think of England!

Always do you first. Female orgasm thins the vaginal mucous and makes the path easier to travel for the sperm! This was a tip given to me by a fertility expert

Brodicea

I do not think any of your bedroom antics are hindering the process of conception. Enough sperm will get to the cervix from where they will not escape.

Why did the docs tell you to go away until after Christmas?. I ask this as if there are any underlying gynaecological issues (like very painful periods or irregular periods), they should refer you now rather than at later. If they continue to be unhelpful as well I would change GPs.

Thanks all - will do me first and see what happens. It probably makes almost zero, but I am getting a bit desperate!

Atilla: I had a really bad episode of anxiety in September which messed with my cycle until about November / December. So I think the Dr was thinking than in reality, I haven't been TTC that long. However, I am worried as I had PID when I was very young, but she didn't think I'd had it long enough to cause damage. Also asI did get pregnant and have a termination subsequently at 17, she thought that was probably nothing to worry about (and I of course now wonder if that was a once in a million chance, my only chance!).
She said I was probably worrying because of the trauma of the PID and the termination but that I should 'have lots of sex this summer' and come back at Xmas. At 32 she thinks I have plenty of time. Although, I did tell her that in the last year my periods have become much heavier (with 'flooding') and more painful but she didn't seem bothered.
I thought if I went in with charts in the autumn I could prove how much we're doing it and persuade her to take it all a bit more seriously.

*almost zero difference