Worried TTC after MC isn't fair on DS

[RainbowConnections]

Its nearly 4 weeks since I had a 6wk MC. Insomnia that kicked in during pregnancy has got much worse. I'm so stupidly tired. I'm not nearly as patient or fun for DS. I don't think about the MC but now obsessed with TTC (which I don't even know I have a problem with). Not right for DS that I always have something on my mind. Once he was enough to make our lives perfect.

Started TTC again over a week ago but I'm worried that becoming pregnant and risking more tiredness etc is selfish. And about the impact on DS if I have another MC.

I would still love another baby but for the first time I'm really feeling my age (37) and wonder what I'm doing. My face has visibly got more creased in the last few weeks and I found my first grey hair this week!! Was the MC a reality check? Does my DS need a sibling or his mummy back?

Hi rainbow so sorry to hear of your loss .

I have also recently had 2 mcs and have one DD who is 2 and a half.

Of course you're worried about the impact on DS but it sounds as though you also need to give yourself a break. Mc can be a huge physical and emotional shock, however early in the pregnancy it happens. Can you give yourself 3 months or so to recover?

I understand and relate to your worries about ageing but 3 months will not make a massive difference.

Take care and good luck

Zeuxippe sorry, should have thanked you for taking time to respond. I got a BFP just after this so too late for changing mind (although i expect the taking a bit of time was probably good advice). Back on the rollercoaster.
Sorry for your loss too. Thanks.