Please help - need some advice / info

[TTCishard]

I wondered if you could help me - I need some help / info, am feeling very down so please be kind.

I had a miscarriage a month ago and on Friday got a positive opk result and was so happy as my cycles are so long and irregular.

We DTD on Thursday (before I knew about the positive result) and then DTD on Friday night when I got the positive result and the plan was to DTD tonight and tomorrow to maximise chances but my DH hasn't been able to maintain an erection - we both think its psychological rather than physical - a bit like performance anxiety - but I just feel gutted and like we have missed the boat this month.

Please don't flame me as I love DH so much and know its not his fault but just can't shake this overwhelming feeling of disappointment (I am still trying to get over the miscarriage) and I was dreading the first AF following the miscarriage anyway. Is there anyway we might still be in with a chance this cycle??? My cycles are so long (I ovulated on cd29 this time) it could be ages before I ovulated again.

Thanks xxx

No advice really, just wanted to say I'm sorry about your m/c. it's still early days yet, though I know you just want to carry on ttc straight away. Give yourselves some time, maybe even a month off just to get yourselves together. And have a hug. X

I'm sorry to hear about your mc. I've just been through this myself, so I know how awful it is and how desperate you must be to be pregnant again.

Have you had any tests? Long irregular cycles can be indicative of PCOS.

You are definitely in with a chance having dtd a couple of times before ov, so you never know you might get lucky this cycle anyway.

Thanks ladies xx

Euro - I suspect PCOS too as I have many of the symptoms. I had day 21 bloods done in December and at my appt on Xmas eve the dr said I wasn't ovulating and he said once we had been trying for a year (which would be May 13) we could look at clomid. However on 13th Jan I found out I was pregnant so I must have ovulated in December??

After my miscarriage the dr said that my year of trying has started again so there won't be any tests until Feb 14 which is so frustrating. My cycles can be anything for 35 to 65 days long!

Thanks again for your replies - I was feeling so down but will keep my fingers crossed that we still have a chance. If I had a positive opk on Friday is it worth trying to dtd tonight or has the window passed? X