mcx2 feeling down

[katerinaemalina]

I've had two early mc. One at 71/2 wks other at 5. I suppose on the plus only been trying since late October. This is first time ttc. I was feeling ok but just feel like I'm surrounded by colleagues and friends who have either got preg straight away or accidentally. I am feeling very bitter sad and worried. I don't want to lose contact with friends but don't want to be near them at the moment. I am really happy for them of course but I just don't want to heat about how terrible their morning sickness has been! I feel quite alone as not something you talk about. Not many people know whats happened. I am trying to think positive as i know i can conceive, the mcs were early and i know its early days. it just galls when people around me waltz into getting preg with no probs or waiting. Is there anyone else out there who is feeling a bit sad and worried?

Katerina, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I know it might seem like the whole world is pregnant at the moment but thats because you are so much more aware of it than you were before. I don't have any experience with miscarriage but my baby son was stillborn at 38+4 last July.

My dear auntie told me that you love your baby from the moment you find out your pregnant and can think of nothing else no matter how far along in the pregnancy you are.

You don't say when you had your second miscarriage but the only thing I can say that helps is TIME. Give yourself time to grieve and try to concentrate on yourself for a bit rather than all these people who are making it seem so easy to get pregnant. (I know this is easier said than done)

I'm sure there will be lots more good advice from others and I hope you will be lucky enough to conceive again soon xxxxxxxx

So sorry for your losses. It is so hard as its not something openly discussed. I had 2xmc over a period of 2 years and now have a ds. It can feel that it's just not fair and it isn't. Confide in some close friends as you will be surprised how many may have had similar experiences and can offer support. Mc is so common but rarely discussed after my fist mc I made a list of how many people I knew of who had one it was 14 women (inc aunts, mil who only old me after mine) all but 2 of the 14 had gone on to have a successful pregnancy. This list kept me sane. (Of the 2 who didn't make it one is still trying and the others relationship ended and she then became a lesbian)

It also meant that with my third bfp my closest friends held my hand a bit in those scary weeks trying to get to the first scan.

Also speak to your dr if you haven't after3 mc you are entitled to see an nhs recurrent mc specialist. I begged mine to send me after 2 as I was approaching 40. This helped us work out possible causes.

I also became a complete health/supplement junky which made me feel more in control. This google website was my saviour and it turned out b50 gave me my sticky bean sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/

Goodluck. It's a hard journey. I hid in the loos at work crying my eyes out when one girl who had been smoking weeks before announced a pregnancy when I was basically a reluctant health nut!

Both thank you for your msg. Babyh I'm so sorry to hear about you loss. It is heartbreaking. I don't know how I would feel after that. I hope you are managing to see some light somewhere? My last mc was only last month and I tried to just get over it asap so maybe it had taken longer than I thought. Being so early means it is easier, I just am struggling with the fact it has happened twice. I wish I could know that things will be ok that's all. Cake you are right there are many this has happened too and I must tell myself I'm not alone. MN is very very supportive and helpful for that! I mustn't focus on everyone who has had it easy. I am feeling better than yesterday and just going to try and not dwell on it too much. The trouble is you beat yourself up over it and think its your fault which I know it isn't but it is hard.

Cake thanks for link too will read in depth ! X

Glad your feeling better. Take each day as it comes. And make sure you speak to your dr sooner than later.

Such a sad time for you I like many others have had experience if mc and will forever remember the grief and anger and sense of unfairness. People say the most unintentionally hurtful things and expect you just to have a few weepy days followed by you getting back to ' normal' . It does just take time - get yourself as healthy and rested as you can before ttc again - mc are exhausting. Hope you have good news next time and if not def ask dr for referral x