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BFP 2013

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KerryJewels · 14/03/2013 15:17

I was on a thread already..with my friends RedRobin1,wee,twinkle,Alex...but now I can't find them..so hopefully they will find me!!I'm on my second round of Clomid TTC a third and final child.I have PCOS and one tube due to an eptopic so the trying part has not been so easy!!Just wanting to talk with others going through the same ordeal as me.Wanting to concieve and share the experience..it can be a long,difficult road.Hope to char with someone soon!!

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resipsa · 22/05/2013 16:50

And more to the point the odds are that by this time next year you will be knackered first time parents!!!

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 17:58

Red - there's no point in waiting to see if the numbers improve, they haven't improved significantly enough for me to get pregnant and it's best that I do this ASAP as I'm 35 next year.

I felt like they were pushing us into ivf but then oh said that they're only trying to help and it has been a long time we've been trying. I guess I just wanted them to say 'good news! The numbers have significantly improved and it'll happen for you naturally so go away and keep trying!'

My OH just shouted from the kitchen 'all that money we spent on bloody organic food!'

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 17:58

Thx res and kitty for your comments, I am feeling better about it.

resipsa · 22/05/2013 18:09

And kitty is right about everything you've done so far. You're both in the best physical shape to make it work which is great as you can get straight to it.

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 18:12

My oh doesn't want me to tell anyone so it's hard because I feel bad lying to my close friends who have helped me through the last couple of years but I also understand his perspective.

resipsa · 22/05/2013 18:28

I told no one but I'm a bit weird like that; don't like the idea of not appearing to have exactly what I want when I want it! After BFN, was glad I'd kept it quiet as couldn't have put up with enquiries and sympathy (or stupid comments from anyone who hasn't experienced that (at times) all consuming grief of temporary infertility).

RedRobin1 · 22/05/2013 19:03

winkle go for it and as everyone else said, you have done a lot to get this far and it's not a waste as it will help with the IVF immensely.

Do agree with your OH and res about telling people. My SIL had IUI and she told no one as she couldn't bear the thought of people asking for constant updates during the process.

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 19:45

How are you feeling res? Do you have a plan or any next steps?

resipsa · 22/05/2013 23:06

Honestly winkle? Shit, miserable, unable to take pleasure in anything including DD which is tragic as I will never get this week with her back. Stupidly put all my eggs in one basket (really, no pun intended) and now waking up to probability that DD will be my only child. Can't look at pregnant women. Worried about depression. God, I hope this passes or I'm fu**ed. Sorry for rant.

You feeling better about The Plan?

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 23:18

So sorry res, I understand the despair. Will you be able to try again?

Feeling much better, thx for asking.

resipsa · 22/05/2013 23:28

Can't afford it but DM has offered to pay for another cycle - morally, can I take her money because I was too stupid to try at a sensible age? It'd have to be with donor eggs too and can't see DH agreeing. Am resigned to a life of regret and wishing I could turn back time.

twinklestar2 · 22/05/2013 23:29

Oh res, massive hugs for you love. I can hear how down you are in your voice.

resipsa · 23/05/2013 08:27

Thanks winkle. I'm really glad for you that you're getting 2 funded cycles so even if cycle 1 doesn't work, it can be tweaked to bring success on cycle 2. They say to try 2 (or more) and I can now see why.

Hope as the days go by that you and DH can get your heads around the "assisted" bit and get excited about the very near future.

twinklestar2 · 23/05/2013 08:34

We went to bed feeling disappointed but I'm feeling more hopeful this morning.

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KerryJewels · 23/05/2013 12:31

Instead of all this trying IVF sounds like a good plan to me:) Good luck when the time comes Wink;)

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twinklestar2 · 23/05/2013 14:21

Lol Kerry, I'm looking forward to the break from dtd!

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KerryJewels · 23/05/2013 15:32

*wish I hadn't waited so long either res...I was 33 when 2nd daughter was born @ 29 wks. so I was thinking due to the scary situation me and baby making were finished...when I turned 37 this pregnancy light kicked on and has been burning like fire uncontrolably since...we have only been trying for 6 months(which feels like eternity).I'm very anxious for it to happen soon due to my limited time..who knows it might not happen at all...but I think of other women with no children at all and feel blessed either way:)

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resipsa · 23/05/2013 15:50

Kerry that must have been terrifying but you got through it. For what it's worth, I was pregnant at 39, 40 and 41. I know time isn't your best friend but you're definitely not too old yet.

Thingymajigs · 23/05/2013 17:10

Glad you're feeling a bit more positive winkle. 6 weeks is so soon. I used to think these things took months of preparation.

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KerryJewels · 23/05/2013 23:20

Thanks res...all I've heard since I let out the news we were ttc is aren't you too old and are you pregnant yet...I believe that's why smart people keep it a secret till its a done deal:)I thought it was going to happen straight away..LOL!!!With all our obstacles who was I kidding?Miracles do happen(my preemie who just turned 5 yesterday is my proof)CD 6 and feeling slightly optimistic!!!!

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KerryJewels · 23/05/2013 23:24

Res I say take the offer from mom,use a doner egg and have yourself another baby;)You can always payback the loan..just think what you will be receiving with that beautiful gift..from mom and the doner:)Hope my opinion and hope for you is not too forward....xo

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twinklestar2 · 23/05/2013 23:30

What do you think you're going to do res?

Adsum · 24/05/2013 00:52

Yeah res - go for it. Bigger picture etc... - as a mum you realise any of that stuff about 'should have tried earlier etc' doesn't matter to your DM! She wants her dd to be happy! And in this situation she gets a grandchild too potentially so you are all benefitting... That's how I would see it anyway...

Adsum · 24/05/2013 00:52

Oh I hope that last post made sense - am a bit inebriated...

Tigglettchic · 25/05/2013 10:02

i'm onboard, i got my bfp this morning

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