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BFP 2013

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KerryJewels · 14/03/2013 15:17

I was on a thread already..with my friends RedRobin1,wee,twinkle,Alex...but now I can't find them..so hopefully they will find me!!I'm on my second round of Clomid TTC a third and final child.I have PCOS and one tube due to an eptopic so the trying part has not been so easy!!Just wanting to talk with others going through the same ordeal as me.Wanting to concieve and share the experience..it can be a long,difficult road.Hope to char with someone soon!!

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twinklestar2 · 09/05/2013 12:28

Sorry she got you, ads.

I really don't understand life sometimes.

Thingymajigs · 09/05/2013 13:54

So sorry ads. Sad
I haven't got anything positive to say either today I'm afraid. The doctor said that I had reached the end of the line in regards to NHS help and told me I had unexplained infertlity. Brill. I wasn't expecting them to offer us assisted conception or anything but a scan would've been helpful. He said "it wouldn't help". Meaning basically if there was something wrong that was discovered by the scan nothing would be done about it anyway. And he says that PCOS is lifelong so theres no way I could have developed it.
On a positive note, they have found no reason as to why we couldn't conceive easily. So its just a matter of time.

Thingymajigs · 09/05/2013 14:01

oh, one more thing. He questioned why I wanted a child. "So your partner doesn't have children? Is that why you want another?" Angry Sad I think that's what annoyed me, I felt judged.
I refuse to feel upset by someone who refers to my uterus as "your bits".

RedRobin1 · 09/05/2013 17:34

So sorry winkle and ads

thingy just wanted to say your doctor sounds horribly rude and clueless. It's not the end of the line for you. You should demand to see a fertility specialist! Someone who knows what they are talking about.

We got referred and they ran several checks (bloods,scans, Fallopian tube test, sperm analysis) before diagnosing us with unexplained. How dare he ask you a question abt children and so bloody rude AngryI would get a second opinion or change surgeries!

twinklestar2 · 09/05/2013 20:20

I second what red said, you need to see another doc and get referred to the fertility clinic. There are loads of tests they can do on you.

DulcetMoans · 09/05/2013 21:01

Agree with the others thingy, doesn't sound like great support from the doctor, I'd get someone else to talk to. I don't like my doctor much but I don't think she'd do that. She was very honest about the baby stuff. And she can say uterus. Also, is it true you are born with it? I thought it could develop? Or perhaps that's just it can get worse.

Thingymajigs · 09/05/2013 21:38

You're right, I should get a second opinion. The first doctor told me to come back in May so why would she have said that if there were no other options? The PCOS thing didn't quite sound right either but I agree that I'm not presenting with the more obvious symptoms but I thought heavy periods, acne and losing hair might be a sign of an issue.
I'll book an appointment with someone else if this cycle is a fail.
Thanks everyone. Smile
Dtd starts tomorrow. How is everyone doing? Especially res, how many dpo are you now? Any morning sickness yet red?

twinklestar2 · 09/05/2013 23:46

We're gonna start dtd tomorrow.

Throwing everything at it this month as it'll be 3 months since oh has had a drink so I'm going to not drink either plus I'llbe drinking the grapefruit juice post coitus! Anything else? I'm still umming and ahhing about conceive plus...

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KerryJewels · 10/05/2013 00:39

Cycle day 25...just waiting to see,not feeling hopeful sad to say.............

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Thingymajigs · 10/05/2013 07:10

I'm still not sure about conceive plus either. I don't think we need it and I think it could be awkward to use so I'm going to leave it. We've probably pushed up grapefruit juice sales by 500% in the last few months.
When is AF due kerry?

Adsum · 10/05/2013 15:36

Good luck winkle - I broached the subject of stopping drinking with DH yesterday - not popular but hopefully he will be on board!!
Might try grapefruit juice too - so u drink it post coitus?! I thought it was dependent on what cycle day you're on?

Well I'm not cd1 as bleeding stopped leaving me feeling very as though af is about to come but no bleeding! Wasn't really due on til tomorrow anyway but don't feel preggers either - boobs not sore, not tired like have been with last 3 pgs, and bfn too- grr! Had erpc in Feb - surely it can't still be messing cycle up!?Confused

Thingymajigs · 10/05/2013 19:06

I have no idea. I hope its just too early to get a clear positive yet. Smile
I just have one glass of grapefruit juice during the day or usually when my energy is lagging in the afternoon. It seems to work no matter what time you drink it.

twinklestar2 · 10/05/2013 19:19

ooh ads, could it be implantation bleed like red? red drank the grapefruit juice post shag to help the swimmers so I'm going to do the same!

res - where are you? keeping my fingers crossed for you.

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KerryJewels · 10/05/2013 19:57

May 19 should be the day of gloom for me...seems like my cycles have been getting longer since I started the Clomid(34 days).I know this Clomid has my ovaries feeling like they are about to explode..every move i make they give me pain..especially when I cough,have my period or ovulate...We are just six months in to this thing and my husband is showing signs of giving up..although this was never his idea,don't think he was ever quite on board.As soon as there was mention of sperm analysis he jumped ship really.I've got one more refill on the Clomid and if my RE won't just work with me..or let me bring the sample in we will probably just make a go of it the old fashioned way..that was how the other two were made..but one was conceived at 30 and the other 33,I'm now 38 so there is a big difference there....not to jump off the subject but I'm from Cleveland Ohio and I was wondering if you all have heard about the girls(Amanda,Gina,and Michelle)being kidnapped and kept in a mans house(Ariel Castro)for upwards of ten years!!One girl even had his child in captivity....crazy story right there!!!So glad those girls got out of that hell alive.......

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twinklestar2 · 10/05/2013 20:09

FX for you Kerry that you dont need to be on this stuff much longer, sounds painful :( That's a crazy story isn't it about those 3 girls? Really sad, some sick people out there. Is this yours and OH's 3rd child together?

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KerryJewels · 10/05/2013 21:01

Yes,we have two daughters 8 and 5.Really have been dreaming of that boy but would be happy either way.Just want that last chance to have a newborn baby,those days were so special and happy for me(and hard)I think my ovarys must have some very substantial cyst action going on...I did live in that neighborhood those girls were stolen my whole life,until about ten years ago.I worked at a diner that Ariel Castro was a regular customer which was incidentally directly across the street from the very spot Amanda Berry got in his vehicle...

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twinklestar2 · 10/05/2013 21:10

bloody hell Kerry!

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KerryJewels · 10/05/2013 21:26

My sister had drinks with him at a Spanish club..she worked at the same diner as me..it's called Dimitris.I told her how lucky she was to not be locked in his basement too...she is 7 years younger than me.The whole thing is just sickening..but how he went to the candle light vigils and fundraisers,how he consoled the family while all the while he had her..that's the part that gets me the most!!He might be brought up on murder charges for the babies he made them abort...then he will be eligible for the death penalty.He says it was their fault for getting into his car....

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KerryJewels · 10/05/2013 21:29

O and my dad used to live in that house...2207 Seymore.Of course long before Ariel Castro bought it..creepy!!!

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twinklestar2 · 10/05/2013 21:31

CUNT!

Sorry but he deserves that word to be used on him and death penalty is too good for him.

twinklestar2 · 10/05/2013 23:15

Well my dilemma of whether to use conceive plus has been solved for me! My lovely friend who was ttc last year sent me a parcel full of ttc goodies. There's a box of OV tests, 20 sticks for the CBFM, 6 pregnancy tests (including 4 digis :)) and a big tube of Preseed! How nice of her!

So I'll be using the CBFM, grapefruit juice and the Preseed. Add this to oh not drinking, us eating organic food and going to the gym and surely this has to be the month!

Thingymajigs · 11/05/2013 09:19

Aww what a lovely friend. I hope all that hard work pays off for you. I've also gone organic as of a month ago. Pricey but worth it for the peace of mind.

twinklestar2 · 11/05/2013 09:41

Only thing is thingy, we'll be too scared to go back to 'normal' food after this! And normal life. What is normal life anymore? I just remember the TTC life now. My OH says he's actually scared of drinking now! I have to confess I had a couple of vodkas last night but they were with organic juice so that's ok, right Grin

resipsa · 11/05/2013 14:25

Hi everyone. How're you doing? Sorry for going AWOL but am convinced on a daily basis that it hasn't worked so just trying not to think about it. That's not working, by the way!

I'm at 7 days post 2 day transfer so (I think) like 9DPO. Just cannot test as to see a BFN will be too hard so going to wait it out to my official test date (20 May) and see if AF arrives in between. Think progesterone pessaries might keep her at bay so could be that I have to see a BFN in the long run but am sure I'd "know" by then anyway.

resipsa · 11/05/2013 14:27

What's going on with you, Ads? Is it a red scenario all over again???