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BFP 2013

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KerryJewels · 14/03/2013 15:17

I was on a thread already..with my friends RedRobin1,wee,twinkle,Alex...but now I can't find them..so hopefully they will find me!!I'm on my second round of Clomid TTC a third and final child.I have PCOS and one tube due to an eptopic so the trying part has not been so easy!!Just wanting to talk with others going through the same ordeal as me.Wanting to concieve and share the experience..it can be a long,difficult road.Hope to char with someone soon!!

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Thingymajigs · 01/05/2013 07:13

I'd say go for it red. Smile
Thanks so much for introducing me to egg share res. Even if its not something we end up doing it helps to have that there as a little bit of hope instead of the brick wall we were facing.

Thingymajigs · 01/05/2013 07:19

so sorry someday.
I do have children and am suitably jealous of your sailing holiday so objective achieved. Smile It helps to have something else to look forward to. I'm quite distracted at the moment as we have lots of days out, a holiday in Cornwall to look forward to and a possible house move in the next few months.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 09:30

Last night I went to bed and allowed myself to dream that maybe it had worked this month! I had the hsg, hubby hasn't touched alcohol since mid feb so this could be it and the bfn last week was too early. I thought to myself maybe I won't have IVF and have twins, maybe I'll be normal like everyone else and have one baby, naturally. Woke up this morning and its CD1 - again. :(

RedRobin1 · 01/05/2013 14:24

So sorry winkle :( it's shit isn't it?

Thingymajigs · 01/05/2013 14:25

So sorry winkle. Sad

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KerryJewels · 01/05/2013 14:49

18 months is a long time red...if it's within your means go for it!The constant letdowns cannot be good for you.Im on month four and it's driving me batty...so I really can't imagine how hard it's been for you...Good luck;)

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KerryJewels · 01/05/2013 14:51

Sorry wink:(

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twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 15:16

I feel like such a failure. Why can't I do the thing that millions of people do very single day?

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 15:16

*every

See I can't even spell. I'm a fucking loser!

RedRobin1 · 01/05/2013 17:37

Flowers and hugs to you winkle

kerry I have practically given up all hope of conceiving naturally. If I ever see two lines on a stick I think someone will have to slap me to make sure its not a dream. I just don't see it happening.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 18:51

Ditto red

resipsa · 01/05/2013 19:30

winkle Wine and Thanks. You are not a loser, just someone who will truly appreciate her family once she has it.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 20:40

Had a cry with hubby. He says he feels positive because of the changes he's made over the past couple of months and we have to hold on to hope. I'm sure ill be fine in a few days because I have to be, hey?

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 20:46

Res I feel like such a failure :( I know if you wait longer to have your baby then you appreciate them more but honestly I was already planning on how I'd bring them up and all the things I wanted to do them and what there bedrooms were going to look like, etc. I was prepared for the early mornings and sleepless nights. I'd seen so so so many friends and family members have their babies and I ached and longed for it to be me and picked up so many tips and hints that I couldn't wait to use on my own. And i waited patiently till i got married and now its been 2 years on tops of all those years where ive waited and wanted.

And now it feels like it was all for nothing. I just don't believe it's going to happen for me anymore.

RedRobin1 · 01/05/2013 21:41

Oh winkle it's like you stole my thoughts. I have been through all of that with babies in the family thinking how I'd bring my own up and all the things I'd want to do with them. Like you say just don't know when that will happen for me! For us!

Crying helps doesn't it, but I just can't see an end to this sadness till I have a baby. I feel miserable 24/7. Hell you can tell by readin my posts - they have gone from hope to empty disappointment over the months.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 22:44

Big sigh. What can we do but carry on. But with a sinking feeling inside constantly.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 22:55

Was weechops on this thread with us previously? Cause I've just seen she got her BFP on the April thread.

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 23:08

Oops just realised wee got her BFP at the beginning of April. Can't believe I didn't remember!

twinklestar2 · 01/05/2013 23:08

Wish I could blame it on baby brain hey!

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KerryJewels · 02/05/2013 14:03

Someday.....btw I wonder what ever happened to Someday,haven't heard from her in awhile?What a perfect screen name...reminds me to have hope;)That's hard to come by in this line of work~I really hope a miracle happens for us all...very soon for those of you that have been trying so long....I was with my husband 13 years before we had my daughter,we never tried to prevent pregnancy..it just didn't happen until it was suppose to I guess.My grandfather died,the next month BFP.Then three years went by not really trying to prevent pregnancy and suddenly my father in law passed away..I bet you can figure out what happened next..BFP.So I guess it's all in sweet time..but I'm kind of mortified in thinking someone has to die so I can have a child..hope it doesn't have to be that way this time around..and TIME,that's a word that scares me-I don't have much of it left in the ttc business:(

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KerryJewels · 02/05/2013 15:45

Oh and one more thing...I can't remember who gave the advice to hold your nose while you drink the grapefruit juice..but bravo!!!It really works!!!

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Thingymajigs · 02/05/2013 18:22

Glad it worked for you kerry. Most of your taste is actually smell so holding your nose works well.
Sorry to hear that she got you again red. Sad This process is so deeply unfair.
I'm thinking about upping my game next month, (currently on 12dpo). It was a poor effort this time which definitely won't help. I'll draw up a plan of action for DP. Grin I'm so glad I've got such an involved partner because it makes everything much easier and less awkward than it could be. He just laughs and then suggests more ideas. He's still refusing to give up his hot baths though.

Thingymajigs · 02/05/2013 18:24

oh, no, sorry you're still waiting for AF, sorry red. Its tricky following this on my phone.

twinklestar2 · 02/05/2013 22:31

Hopefully you won't need to up your game next month thingy :)

Thingymajigs · 03/05/2013 07:15

That would be lovely. However, I've had another skin break out so I'm pretty sure its arriving on Sunday. Right when I have a huge wedding to go to of course. Still, I'm feeling quite positive about the future. Yesterday I stumbled across lots of stories of women suddenly finding themselves pregnant after years of trying and eventually giving up. So it can happen for all of us too.