How do I approach the subject

[confusedgirl23]

Hi all.

I am new to here, just didn't know where else to turn.

Ill tell you a bit about myself. I'm 23, my partner is 48. We have been together two years. He has had a vasectomy. He has always said he wishes he had never had it, and would love to have kids. But has never mentioned having it reversed.

I am certain I want kids. Any suggestions on how I can broach this matter to him, and if he's keen on the idea how we would go about finding more information???

Appreciate anything you guys can help with!

I would say its probably worth finding out what a reversal would involve and then just approach the subject head on.
"Seriously, what are your feelings about having kids? This is what would be involved..."
I'm afraid I have no idea what would be involved but I'm sure there are more knowledgable ladies about that do.
Good luck

I agree with approaching the subject head on, just pick your moment . You may find that vasectomy reversal is not possible, well not on NHS anyway. But there are private routes to go down.

If it's a long time since the vasectomy then a reversal is not terribly likely to succeed.

If you definitely want children then yes, this is something to raise with him sooner rather than later since it could be a deal breaker in your relationship. It would be sensible to sit down and have a serious conversation about what you both hope from the future, including what his timescales might be for children (if any) and what plans he is willing to make about investigating the possibility of vasectomy reversal.

At 48 he will be an older father so does he have a cut-off beyond which he feels he would be too old? Do you want to have children in your early 20s or are you hoping to wait a few years? These are all things to discuss.

Thanks all.
I just dread the initial thought of bringing it up. He has stated (whilst drunk) he'd do anything to have a kid with me, but has never made mention to it sober. So I'm just afraid it has been alcohol talking.

Wish me luck! And thanks again!