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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Oh blimey. Unexpected BFP at 45! What now?

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fatfloosie · 06/03/2013 11:33

Last period was at Christmas. Was doing the no contraception thing to keep my younger partner happy as he would like another. Never thought anything would actually happen. I am half thrilled and half terrified. Chances of miscarriage obviously high but I guess I could be 10 weeks already.

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duchesse · 08/03/2013 10:22

Vicki, I think maybe you could start your own thread- it looks like you're going to need plenty of support in the coming months.

Hope you're doing OK floosie!

Vickitoriana · 08/03/2013 10:57

I was thinking the same thing... Dont want to steal floosie's thunder. :)

chummy1 · 10/03/2013 10:13

Pacificdogwood thanks for your reply :)
Are you ttc conceive again? or is that it for you now?
Watching Benjamin Button last night ............ very poignant! Anyone seen it?

Yep, we've had the ...... next 20 years will be busy busy and not chilled with feet up chat more times that I can remember and guess what!? We're going to talk about it again today! (my request!) DH is so lovely, he suggested this whilst working away this week! (mothers day may have something to do with it)!

Clinic booked now. ARCG responded very quickly. We have our appointment.

Vicki I hope that the pain eases soon.....

Fatfloosie Is this your first pg? I can understand your fear and excitement.. that's how I feel now and I'm not even pg (yet! hopefully) How are you feeling??

BoffinMum · 10/03/2013 10:33

The odds are in your favour! To help it all along, take folic acid, get rubella check immediately, eat your 5 fruit and veg every day, try to go swimming or to yoga twice a week and otherwise carry on as normal. Might be good to sign up for NCT classes straight away as they get booked up.

PacificDogwood · 10/03/2013 19:32

Hell, no, I am so NOT ttc .

DS4 was 3 today, I am almost 47, I am so done like you wouldn't believe!

Good luck with your pregnancy x.
In an ideal world, if my life circumstance had been different/MCs hadn't got in the way, I might've had my DCs 10 years earlier. Mainly, in order to get my own selfish life back while I was a bit younger IYKWIM.

Bearing in mind that there is no arguing with biology and yes, certain risks rise with age, a risk of 1:4 (my risk for Patau's - nought to do with age, a genetic problem I carry), still means a 3:4 chance of it not happening.

I am entirely banking that my children will keep me young - my expectations are high .

PacificDogwood · 10/03/2013 19:34

chummy, I think I got you and the OP confused - sorry .

So, even more good luck wishes sent your way x.

nellyjelly · 10/03/2013 19:39

Well done. I was 47 when I had ds 2. Yes me and dh will be old when our kids are teens but well.......that is just what they'll know.

resipsa · 10/03/2013 19:54

Congrats from me too. Another TTC at a later stage in reproductive life (42). Your post made me cry with hope! Wish you a happy and healthy 6.5 (or so) more months!

scarecrow22 · 10/03/2013 20:33

OP many congratulations. If and when you are ready we have a very friendly "Fantastic 40+ mums to be" thread in Pregnancy. Sorry can't post link, but maybe you can search my name? How to see you there

scarecrow22 · 11/03/2013 09:21

For others looking for good stories and encouragement - there are plenty of grads from the 40+ ttc thread on the 40+ pregnancy one, an there is now even a spin-off 40+ mums thread too. All have cosy/ tropical/themed snugs to relax in and some great bakers

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fatfloosie · 12/03/2013 10:56

Oh boo. Went for scan and measured 7 weeks with no heartbeat. Was expecting it as had already started bleeding similarly to when I had a MC two years ago. Very glad I didn't test any earlier as OH was already playing imaginary games of football with his 'son'. Another week and he'd probably have painted the spare room blue! Still, actually conceiving has made me feel about 35 again, and, as I have my DD and know I can carry to term, I have the luxury of being able to presume there was something wrong with the baby and I have been spared an impossible decision later in the pregnancy. So I'm fine and might join the over 40s ttc thread for another roll of the baby dice - this time with folic acid (and hope to make it onto your thread eventually scarecrow22!).

Congratulations Vickitoriana! I had my DD at 40 in similar circs - drunken shenanigans that should have been followed by a morning after pill but weren't because I thought it a bit ridiculous to be so worried about fertility at 40 (plus we were on holiday and I didn't fancy trying to explain to an Italian pharmacist what I needed whilst he/she thought 'who are you trying to kid grandma'). Very best wishes for your pregnancy x x

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scarecrow22 · 12/03/2013 19:39

Floosie - I'm so sorry about your mc. I hope you really are encouraged though to keep trying.
I plan to grad to the 40+ mums thread in five weeks, but will pop in to see friends in the pregnancy one, and very much look forward to welcoming you to the different snugs. Meantime, I'm sure there will be lots of advice and laughs on the 40s ttc one.
Take care

chummy1 · 12/03/2013 21:20

oh boo indeed fatfloosie I'm very sorry for you. You have an infectious optimistic approach.......(which I love!) I hope that you do fall pg again very soon with a healthy little DS! ........... night night x

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