announcing an easy bfp to my infertile sister...

[honey86]

right, basically i stopped the pill end of jan. had a withdrawal bleed, then 3 weeks later got my bfp. a very quick conception. yesterday i announced this to my family. unfortunately sil decided to tell my sisters before i had a chance to which totally ruined the moment.
sis got home and freaked at me about it then broke down and ranted about how shes a complete failure and its just not fair cos shes trying so hard and always failing and that she cant even keep her babies alive.
shes been through hell ttc and had many MCs due to sticky blood and hormonal imbalances... im gutted for her cos thats all shes wanted for years. if i cud give her any gift it would be a sticky bfp..

im not sure how to support her through this while im preg as i dont want her to feel im rubbing it in her face... any ideas? i posted this here cos im aware many of you ladies have ttc for a while..

You are still quite early in your own pregnancy, so you may want to be cautious for your own sake. There is not a lot you can do. It will be hard for her, and she needs time to come round to the idea. Let her have the time. I think your mother must also be careful with how she shows her excitement as this may upset your sister. Of course you must celebrate your pregnancy and not allow your sister's troubles take anything away from that.

When my sister announced her pregnancy (1 month after coming off the pill) to me (at that stage been TTC for 5 years) I was devastated. Obviously happy for her and never showed the upset but absolutely devastated. I cried for 2 days when she left our house.

But she was great - obviously it was wonderful news for her, but she never went on about it, never moaned about the sickness etc in front of me. And I did get used to it - and was thrilled when my nephew arrived. My mum and DH were fantastic - so no pressure on me to hold the baby when we visited etc. Skinny is right. Your parents reaction is key - a lot of my distress was about not providing a GC for my parents, and being jealous that my sister was.

Congratulations by the way :)