The Elderberry Sausage Wangers (thread 5) and the hunt for immaculate conception - a frightfully good thread for the over-30s TTC their first baby.

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Our new home, hope we will all be very unhappy here and leave soon ;-)

Hey Bunny, to my knowledge, the CD3 / 4 test is to check FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) levels, which gives an idea of what your egg supply is like.

Looks like we're redecorating then!!! and buying lots of tampons haha!!!!

I will add tampons to shopping list. Can you believe in a more mental moment I looked at buying progesterone testing kits designed for dogs. I need saving from myself!!

I was clearing out the bathroom drawers yesterday and counted up all the pg tests I've got; 12, bloody 12. I only bought three of them though, the rest came from when I did the Clearblue trial a while ago.

I do hope I didn't offend any of our faithful Elderberries with my post earlier.

Hello all,

Added myself to the list earlier, hope that's ok. Love the thread and bedtime stories. Totally agree about other people seeming to get pg without trying. DH'S cousin just announced pg. was hoping I'd be pg at her wedding in June, but now SHE is herself. Don't want to feel nasty, but I do. Now it's Katie Price. Waiting for the third person. I find they always come in 3s. Booo hooooo.

Also, most annoyed at people having babies younger than me!

Pipbin - sure you wouldn't offend anyone, I thought it was hilarious!!! Even if I am one of those people who has live a fabulous life, had copious lavish holidays although is now financially stable and with the right partner!!!

I think I'm going to put Katie Price on my 'people I'd most like to burn at the stake' list

Hi all, adding myself also, trying not to get obsessed and just DTD from 5 days before OV. Limiting my travel to make sure me and DH are actually in the same place at the right time! Only tried for BFP one cycle, fingers crossed for the next one!

Sloaneraver, 34, married, TTC for first time since Feb 2013, AF due today
Bunny, 33, married, TTC since June 2012, first for both of us, AF nearly here!
Pipbin, 37, TTC since May 2011, on the waiting list for IVF
navis176, 35, cycle 5 since mmc, af due 14 March
Happylass, 35 cycle 7 AF due 17th March
Twinklestar2, 34, ttc since August 2011, BFP due 22 March
Barkingtreefrog, 33, ttc since January 2012
Soph 33, married, TTC #1 since Jul 11, think AF due 27th
Fairydogmother - 33, TTC from January 2013. I'll know by this Friday if its a bfp!

pipbin amazingly hilarious post. Love it! You are in my well-travelled, finally happily-married, career-loving head.

Each time someone announces they are pg my stock phrase is "well no more exotic holidays for them" to make myself feel better. Holidays are our one luxury, neither of us spend any money on clothes or 'stuff', and we don't go out much, we save it all for holidays, and we look for bargains there as well! Most often found camping, or in the budget hotel... We're off to America this summer. We were putting off booking for ages in case I got pg and as soon as I had the AF that meant if I got a BFP next cycle I'd still be ok to fly, we booked the flights. Needn't have worried...

List sorted!

Sloaneraver, 34, married, TTC for first time since Feb 2013, AF due today
Soph 33, married, TTC #1 since Jul 11, think AF due 27th
Fairydogmother - 33, TTC from January 2013. I'll know by this Friday if its a bfp!
navis176, 35, cycle 5 since mmc, af due 14 March
Happylass, 35 cycle 7 AF due 17th March
Twinklestar2, 34, ttc since August 2011, BFP due 22 March
Bunny, 33, married, TTC since June 2012, first for both of us, AF due 27th March
Barkingtreefrog, 33, ttc since January 2012
Pipbin, 37, TTC since May 2011, on the waiting list for IVF

Soz, the last list I copied seemed to have lost a few important peeps! If I miss anybody again I apologise and will slap myself round the face with a sausage!

Sloaneraver, 34, married, TTC for first time since Feb 2013, AF due today
Soph 33, married, TTC #1 since Jul 11, think AF due 27th
Fairydogmother - 33, TTC from January 2013. I'll know by this Friday if its a bfp!
Aquarius, 32, cycle 10/11, af due 8 March ish
navis176, 35, cycle 5 since mmc, af due 14 March
Boodle, 30, Cycle 19, awaiting FS referral and AF due 15th March
Happylass, 35 cycle 7 AF due 17th March
Merkin, 31, cycle 8, AF due between 19 and 21 Mar
Twinklestar2, 34, ttc since August 2011, BFP due 22 March
Thunderbuns, 34, cycle 3 since mmc, af due 23rd March
Bunny, 33, married, TTC since June 2012, first for both of us, AF due 27th March
Barkingtreefrog, 33, ttc since January 2012
Pipbin, 37, TTC since May 2011, on the waiting list for IVF

Barking - the referral to fertility clinic is 2 years at my gp if that helps.

Does anyone know if there is a standard for when a doc will start running tests eg. After x months or is it more at their discretion?

we're now quite a long list! Here's to March being a BFP goldrush for the wangers!

I think mine might be 2 years too, but I told my doctor that we'd been casual with contraception since Jan 2011 (which is pretty much true) but started officially 'trying' a few months later and she was happy to refer based on that.

(Just thought I'd pop that in as my 'stats' don't match up with the 2 year thing.)

The guidelines are 6 months if over 35 and 1 year if under.
I know that my GP sent us off for tests after 6 months.

Boodle my doc referred us early too as he could see we were doing all the right things.

I did realise though Twink that all this time, and throughout all the tests, no one has checked that we are actually dtd. He might be putting it in my ear for all they know.

Lol at "putting it in my ear Pip". To be fair one of the first things my GP said was 'you are having sex regularly aren't you, 2-3 times a week?'. But she also said we can't be referred until a year. What sort of tests did you get at 6 months Pip?

We had to wait a year to be seen. The gp actually looked through my notes and pointed out that my last pill prescription was for 6 months supply and that was issued in October so I wouldn't have run out until March. I said yes, but I had three packs at home as I'd stopped taking it when we started ttc?!?! And anyway, I'd been to the doctor when we started ttc because I had to ask about whether to stop the antibiotics I was on for my skin, so that should have been on my notes anyway.

So basically I assume they'll refer us if they've found a problem, as otherwise here's no point doing all the tests, but if it's unexplained we'll have to wait until it's 2 years?
I should stop second guessing really, I'll know tonight. Just don't want to get my hopes up!!!

I got the GP tests after a year actually a bit less but I lied but got referred fairly quickly to the head gynae at the hospital because of the lump they found at the ultrasound. I get the sense that, even though they've now decided lump is nothing to worry about, I'm continuing with the gynae. He wants to do a lap and dye now, and is showing interest in short LP etc.

So I don't know how long it takes to get to this stage if nothing suspicious shows up. DH has been pointed towards the GP who knows about fertility, no ones said the words "fertility clinic" to us yet, and we're about to start TTC cycle 17 (or is it 18? I lost count a bit after the Dec/Jan lump imbargo)..

So I should do my stats I guess - now that we're getting 'back on the horse' or DH

Sloaneraver, 34, married, TTC for first time since Feb 2013, AF due today
Soph 33, married, TTC #1 since Jul 11, think AF due 27th
Fairydogmother - 33, TTC from January 2013. I'll know by this Friday if its a bfp!
Aquarius, 32, cycle 10/11, af due 8 March ish
navis176, 35, cycle 5 since mmc, af due 14 March
Boodle, 30, Cycle 19, awaiting FS referral and AF due 15th March
Happylass, 35 cycle 7 AF due 17th March
Merkin, 31, cycle 8, AF due between 19 and 21 Mar
Twinklestar2, 34, ttc since August 2011, BFP due 22 March
Thunderbuns, 34, cycle 3 since mmc, af due 23rd March
Bunny, 33, married, TTC since June 2012, first for both of us, AF due 27th March
Barkingtreefrog, 33, ttc since January 2012
Pipbin, 37, TTC since May 2011, on the waiting list for IVF
CaptainMoll - 32, TTC since August 2011, new cycle should start tomorrow! Lap and Dye in a couple of months, DH still awaiting proper test results.. *sigh

pip is right - the NICE guidelines state 6 months if over 35 and 1 year if under for referrals - can you go in waving those at your GP if they say longer?

can someone add me

MotherOfCleo, 29, ttc#1, BFP today (eeeek)

I'm 12dpo, it was a light second line but defo a second line even my OH could see it I'm hoping it gets darker over the next few days.

i had a positive yesterday but hadnt posted!