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Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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Thundercatsarego · 06/02/2013 21:32

I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

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DIYandEatCake · 03/03/2013 09:33

saggy, I'm afraid to say that my first af started like that and carried on for nearly two weeks. Grrrr. But I felt so much better afterwards, I've got some energy back and feel more 'healthy'. Hope you feel better soon too.

Right. Friday. But I'm pretty sure af will have appeared before then!

DIYandEatCake · 03/03/2013 09:35

How are you doing, bakingtins and fod?

fod27 · 03/03/2013 11:36

Feeling better today, my lovely fiancé has been taking great care of me...I had a emotional day yesterday but the dr said I would be hormonal after the op. had a funny turn due to a mix up with medication so he had to bath me etc I felt awful about it but he's been amazing!

Just look forward to hearing all your baby news! Keep up the good work ladies xx

Bakingtins · 03/03/2013 14:21

Gald you are being looked after, Fod.

DIY thanks for thinking of me. I'm ok. Hasn't got any worse so a little more hopeful. Trying to keep busy until Thursday.

alyant79 · 03/03/2013 17:05

fod I had a terrible hormone crash a couple of days after my mc, and then another one about a week and a half later. I thought after the first crash that I was past the worst, emotionally, but it turns out not. Just a heads up to be prepared, just in case.
I might be testing in 2 weeks or so... But it AF doesn't appear I might try and hold off testing, since it will be my first AF post mc it could very easily be quite late.

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 03/03/2013 17:54

Oh well, DIY at least AF is a step in the right direction. It is definitely lurking. I feel dreadful though, I hope it gets a move on!

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 03/03/2013 18:00

Its definitely a rollercoaster Fod. Its been a month now and I am still all over the place!

fod27 · 03/03/2013 18:43

That's what worries me tbh I want to get back to usual and my periods to be ok just so we can ttc again feels as though this whole thing sets everything back so much!

I ended up in the bedroom cradling the baby stuff and just breaking down ....hope this gets better soon x

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 03/03/2013 19:24

I can totally relate. My arms ache to hold a baby sometimes! Sad I had to work a town centre market the other day, and there were babies EVERYWHERE!
The last month has been slow, but it has passed. And because it passed so slowly, the MC sometimes feels like forever ago. and sometimes only yesterday but there is a little distance now. I do feel less distraught, more up and down than permanently gutted.
I feel a little more mentally prepared to try again, and a little less desperate. frantic
Hopefully, because you had the ERPC and got everything out at once you will get back on track sooner.

fod27 · 03/03/2013 19:42

I truly hope so, I visited my niece the other day and she's just started walking, I used to babysit for her and really dote on her she's such an amazing little girl....but that day it was as if they didn't want me there, sounds ridiculous but everytime she approached me they tried to distract her! That was horrific for me

I think that once we can start ttc again it will hopefully give me more focus and help us to move on....it's being in limbo that I find so hard x

Thunderbuns · 03/03/2013 19:54

Evening all.

fod I felt exactly the same as you about wanting to move on and get the mc behind you so you can get onto more positive things. Glad you're being looked after.

I've never had any baby stuff in the house, I was so cautious at the time about even believing it was all real! I think that protected me a bit probably.

I think I'm a weirdo too because I don't feel bothered about other people's babies. I just want my own family and not to feel broken like I do at the moment. I hope I don't get chucked out for admitting this!

tins I am loving the glimpse of positivity in there. I hope the week goes quickly so you can get to Thursday. I've still got fingers and toes crossed for you.

saggy fx she comes along and you can feel cleansed and ready to move on.

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 03/03/2013 19:57

Yes. The waiting. AF is taunting me ATM.
I suppose that your family think your neice might be upsetting you. Ive been in that position, antd felt terribly guilty that I had dcs and the other person didnt. Its daft I suppose but it shows they care.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 03/03/2013 20:18

Evening ladies, I hope you have had a good weekend.

We have had a family centred weekend which has been nice. I am still doing my ovulation sticks - I don't know much about them though - is there a best time of the day to test?? They have all been negative but we are still DTD every other day or so - I have such long cycles it could be weeks before I ovulate!!

I am back on the diet and exercise tomorrow - I need to drop about 2 stone (I'm what you would describe as festively plump!!)

Fod - glad you are home and being taken care of xx
Saggy - fingers crossed AF makes her appearance soon (can't believe I am saying that normally we don't want to see her!!) xx
Bakin - good luck for Thursday xx

Hope everyone has a fab week xxx Smile

fod27 · 03/03/2013 21:43

I'm sure your right, I suppose most people don't really know how to behave around me. After going through such an awful ERPC experience I must admit I've never felt so appreciative of all I have I find myself starring at the OH and DC and thinking how much I would miss all the simple things (sounds do dramatic but both me and my partner honestly thought I was going to die)

So lucky that this whole thing had brought us all together (small blessings eh?)
Mummy I did mine everyday at lunch time, but I think that most pkts have instructions with them
Tins I'm crossing everything for you cx
Saggy can you still check that your ovulating even tho AF hasn't made an appearance yet?
Also ladies could I ask..... As this is my first mc, how many of you have gone onto have full term healthy pregnancies after mc? How likely is it I will mc again if we concieve? Sorry but I'm a firm believer in knowledge is power and I think it will just help to prepare us if we know the chances (however painful it maybe)

I understand if it's too painful though .... Believe me I do xxx

fod27 · 03/03/2013 21:45

I too have to loose 2-3 stone ( I'm hoping that's because of ore pregnancy weight etc)
I have however purchased some magic diet tablets! ....let's just pretend they will work as I need comfort food ATM

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 03/03/2013 23:16

Ive been having a look, and according to The Miscarriage Association website, having one miscarriage doesnt increase the risk of a second. Apparently there is also some evidence that conceiving within six months lowers your risk of further loss.
link here

alyant79 · 04/03/2013 07:54

I read the recent large Scottish study on pg after mc. 40% of women were pg again within first 6 months, and 40% within the next 6 (no info on how long they were actually ttc). There was no change to risk of mc, it's just the same as it was before. Which does mean that unfortunately some ppl just will have 2 or 3 mc in a row. Which is horribly cruel.
This was also my first. Fx for no repeat.
I have a good friend who had 3 mc in a row before having her DD, plus many others who had (just) one

Bakingtins · 04/03/2013 08:01

According to Lesley Regan, who is a UK expert on recurrent miscarriage, your chance of miscarrying any pregnancy is 15%, and after a single miscarriage it's 20% - so an 80% chance of taking home a baby. That's an average for all women and doesn't take into account things like age and general health. I had a MC in 2009 and a healthy pregnancy 6 months later, then a MC last year. I'm running on a 50% success rate which is not that great really Sad

fod27 · 04/03/2013 08:34

Thanks guys, I have a friend that had 3 in a row followed by her dd too however she had mc naturally but didn't go for a follow up scan and apparently there was remains still left in her uterus some time later she did also have to have injections throughout her pregnant that went full term so there was some underlying health issue

We also know a lady that had 7 in a row and another that mc then went full term and mc and went full term again, it's really scary when you look at the people around you and their experiences
Thanks so much for sharing guys esp tins - its somewhat a relief hearing that you had a successful pregnancy after mc and I'm crossing everything for you this time xxx

alyant79 · 04/03/2013 09:43

I also know LOTS of ppl who've had one mc and then got pg almost immediately and now have healthy little babies.
That will be us! It will!! positive vibes, positive vibes...

fod27 · 04/03/2013 10:10

I hear that! Posifrickintivity!!!

IBelieveInPink · 04/03/2013 11:46

thunder!!!! Where is that wet fish you had last month?
I know 7dpo is too early. I know it is not Friday. I know I must not poas.
I actually counted the sticks I have last night. Just to see how many there were.
Must not pee. Must not pee. Help!!!!

Bakingtins · 04/03/2013 12:58

I think fod just invented the title for the next thread -it has to include the work posifrickintivity

Bakingtins · 04/03/2013 12:58

the word

Thunderbuns · 04/03/2013 13:23

pink, think of the system!

But you know I put the fish away and said you go ahead and poasmanys as you like if you find it helps! I can slap you if you want me to though.....

I'm back on the digi opks now and praying there won't be a smiley before mr thunder is back on Weds....

Hi everyone else! Loving the posifrickintivity....