Tell me I'm being stupid. Then tell me what to do.

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I got pregnant by accident in the summer of last year. It was so unexpected but as soon as I found out I was completely delighted and instantly knew that I wanted the baby unquestioningly. DP was brilliant too.

Then three days after I found out I had a miscarriage.

Now, after doing some grieving and healing, I'm TTC 'properly'. But I've just finished my first cycle and got AF this morning :(

When I unexpectedly got PG last time I think it was because I missed a pill when I took a flight across lots of time zones and must've buggered it up. So for me to get pregnant by such a slim chance that first time, I think I thought I might fall really easily this time. And I haven't :(

Now I'm torturing myself with thoughts that my miscarriage was my one and only chance to have a baby and I'll never get pregnant again. Dramatic? Over emotional? Yes, certainly. But my head is in a bad place now. Getting my period has really bummed me out.

So what practical things can I do to feel like I'm giving myself the best chance to get pregnant? I've already cut way down on caffeine, no alcohol, eating sensibly, taking folic acid... Anything else??

I've read on here that a perfectly fertile couple have a 25% chance each cycle. You hit that 25% before, you didn't this time. I am very sorry for your loss, but you really need to calm down about ttc. I'm currently on my 28th cycle. Many women on here have been trying longer. For your own sake please try to relax a bit, at least until you have been trying for several months as that is a completely normal time to conceive.

Thank you Euro.

I really didn't mean to be insensitive to those who've been trying longer than I have. Two of my very good friends have been through a couple years each of gruelling IVF (both conceived eventually though ) so I know what the heartbreak can be like from lots of different angles.

I need a kick up the arse like that though. So thanks!

PS: Fingers crossed for both of us x

It sounds like you're doing the best things possible I'd add that you both might benefit from taking a multivitamin and making sure dp doesn't have too many hot baths as this can affect the sperm somehow (no idea of the specifics). Oh, and most importantly, make sure you have enough sex! The NHS recommends against temping/ov monitors etc in favour of having a good shag every other day. There is some really good NICE guidance on this, just google NICE and Conception and am sure you'll find it, similarly the NHS choices website is good too. Don't be too down on yourself, these things take time which I need to keep reminding myself! Best of luck!