37 and TTC. Is it a bit too late?

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We haven't started TTC yet but I haven't stopped thinking about it since DC2 started school. Then we knocked it on the head because we couldn't afford it.
Now we can afford it but my youngest will be 6 in March and I will be 37 next week.
DH is very keen and so am I but I can't help telling myself that maybe things should be left alone, and that I have left it a bit too late.
Any advice or views please?

Yes that's a point, I feel like I could be a more relaxed, more mature parent, and really enjoy my baby, without the stresses that I had with the other 2 (DD because she was the first, DS because DD was so young).

Maybe I'm blase, but in my NCT group I was the exact average age of 35 with my first. I think that 35 plus is so normal these days, and antenatal care is so much more geared up for older mums now, particularly in London. Many people just aren't emotionally and financially in the position to try for kids until later here.

I'm now 36 and about to try for my second. I'll only consider it too late if I don't get pregnant. Sure, in an ideal world I'd have loved to have had the kids I was going to have by 35, but life isn't ideal!

Well I think you are wise to consider all the points you mentioned. I had dc4 at 40. Didn't really expect to conceive at the age I was, after all I had heard about decreasing fertility etc so thought I would give it a try just on a whim really. I fell the first month I tried and then spent the next few months in shock because I hadn't really thought it would happen and so hadn't mentally prepared. Don't get me wrong, I did want DC4 and don't regret it but I wish I had prepared myself more.
I do think you tend to regret the things you don't do more than the things you do. so, if you and your DP have been thinking about it for a while, I think you probably will find yourself coming back to it all the time if you don't.
My DC£ is 4 years older than dc4 and they get on ok but not brilliantly. DC1 and DC2 who are 10 and 7 years older than dc4 are fantastic with him and have a great relationship.